Wanna be Heard?
Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care. – Theodore Roosevelt, 1858-1919, 26th President of the United States
It’s not the Content, it’s the Delivery!
My wife and I have an ongoing struggle about this… You see, I get my feelings hurt, pretty easily. Because I “hear” the different inflexions in voice, energy and body language, because I believe I the “see” the rest of what is being said, I often get my feelings hurt, or get angry, at her [...]
Quotes from Famous People
“Truth is like the sun. You can shut it out for a time, but it ain’t goin’ away.” – Elvis Presley “I do not seek. I find.” – Pablo Picasso Wisdom is the supreme part of happiness. – Sophocles “The man who has no imagination has no wings.” – Muhammad Ali
The ABC’s of Healthy Attitudes
void negative sources, people, places, things and habits. Believe in yourself. Consider things from every angle. Don’t give up and don’t give in. Enjoy life to the fullest! Family and friends are hidden treasures; enjoy their company. Give more than you are expected to. Hang on to your dreams. Ignore those who try to discourage [...]
Ten Ways To Do What You Love
1. Do what you love. 2. Provide a service to others who do what you love. 3. Teach others to do what you love. 4. Write about what you love. 5. Speak about what you love. 6. Create a product related to what you love. 7. Sell or broker what you love. 8. Promote what [...]
Give yourself a Break!
“We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that [...]
I Like My Job
George Carlin sayz, “My job is to think up goofy shit, come back here, and report it to you!” I say, “My job is feel emotional shit, and come back here, and report it to you!”
Awareness is the First Key to Change
“Insight occurs when, and to the degree that, one knows oneself.” – Andrew Schneider ————————————————————- “We are not what we know. We are what we are willing to learn.” – Council on Ideas ————————————————————- “The ultimate value of life depends upon awareness and the power of contemplation rather than upon mere survival.” – Aristotle
Failure to Launch
Failure = inability to manage and control your own self, your own body, your own feelings Failure = losing the battle with your inner demons Failure = letting your fears and your stress take over your life and beat you down Failure = allowing the unresolved feelings from your past to ruin your present, and [...]
The Last Great Adventure on Earth – the Journey Inside Ourselves!
Of course, anger can always be justified. But then, so can forgiveness. Just depends on how much more you want from the adventure.
How Judging Yourself and Others Can Ruin Your Live
How Judging Yourself and Others Can Ruin Your Live By Bernadine Glori Celis I made a big revelation this week. I became aware of how much my judgments were affecting the way I felt about others and myself. I have been in counseling and support groups for many years of my life. I am now [...]
Turn Barriers Into Bridges
Only the person who never gives up in life, who persists with his wish to find and fulfill the promise of himself, makes this truly self-liberating discovery: those places that he once mistook as being impassible barriers to his happiness become as bridges to the same, but only if he learns to welcome them as [...]
Know Yourself!
“Knowing others is wisdom; knowing the self is enlightenment.” – Tao Te Ching “What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself” – Abraham H. Maslow
Know God
The idea of God is different in every person. The joy of my recovery was to find God within me. – Angela L. Wozniak Tho’ we don’t preach, or even teach, about God much, getting closer to yourself – finding your inner peace and removing your blocks to intimacy – allows you to Experience your [...]
Inspire Me
“I learned… that inspiration does not come like a bolt, nor is it kinetic, energetic, striving, but it comes to us slowly and quietly and all the time, though we must regularly and every day give it a little chance to start flowing, prime it with a little solitude and idleness.” – Brenda Ueland Not [...]
The Season
“The truth is that for all the stress surrounding this season, it’s kind of exhilarating when you finally do find just the right present for someone we love, or our home-cooked meal gets oohs and aahs at the table, or we walk through our family’s front door as a grown-up who actually knows our own [...]
In Control
“The most self-destructive thought that any person can have is thinking that he or she is not in total control of his or her life. – Roger Dawson No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to [...]
Thanks!
“What if you gave someone a gift, and they neglected to thank you for it–would you be likely to give them another? Life is the same way. In order to attract more of the blessings that life has to offer, you must truly appreciate what you already have.” – Ralph Marston Give thanks for all [...]
Should I, or Should I not?
“Most people are so busy knocking themselves out trying to do everything they think they should do, they never get around to do what they want to do.” – Kathleen Winsor Bad Shoulds = those that stick in our heads, usually in someone else’s voice but that we don’t want to do… or don’t even [...]
You Are All You Need to Be!
“Everything you need you already have. You are complete right now, you are a whole, total person, not an apprentice person on the way to someplace else.” – Wayne Dyer “Who you really are is enough.” – Oriah Mountain Dreamer “Wherever you are is always the right place. There is never a need to fix [...]
Leo Buscaglia, A Tribute
Only when we give joyfully, without hesitation or thought of gain, can we truly know what love means. – Leo Buscaglia, 1924-1998, American Author and Expert on Love and Human Relationships This is a loving tribute to one of the greatest teachers of LOVE and living Life to the fullest. A Cheerleader for Life! Leo [...]
EI101.com
Just so you’ll know (and it’s easier to refer your friends, hint, hint): We’re now EI101.com This site can now be reached using the address http://www.EI101.com. My intention is to write an emotional intelligence training course called EI101… and follow it with EI102, EI201, EI301 & EI401… all of which I recently registered. stay tuned! [...]
Are you Teachable?
“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.” – Alvin Toffler Part of Emotional Intelligence is about learning about our past, how and what we learned from our parents and our childhood, and how all that still effects us today, [...]
Emotional Intelligence and the 3 Little Pigs
Here’s an interesting article about how Emotional Intelligence, and the study of engineering, can be likened to the story of the 3 little pigs. Very well done… read on. http://www.e-ii.org/3b.asp – Matt
Change Myself
We are absolutely powerless to change others, but we are absolutely powerful to change ourselves. – Doc Downing
Full Range of Emotions
“When you are able to contain both your light and dark together, that is a very enlightening state. It means that you no longer have to choose one experience over another. You do not have to choose love OR hate, blame OR forgiveness, sadness OR joy, anger OR openheartedness. You are no longer polarized; no [...]
Beyond Beliefs
Are you ready to shift some of your core beliefs about who you are and how you fit into the world? Emotional Intelligence is the answer.
Little You vs. Big You
What would the child you once were think of the person you are today? Would your inner child like your outer adult? list your answer in a comment, below.
Emotional Intelligence can Hurt!
Self-knowledge and self-improvement are very difficult for most people. It usually needs great courage and long struggle. – Dr. Abraham Maslow It’s true. Emotional growth can be damned uncomfortable! By definition, trying something new and pushing yourself to new heights is gonna be awkward, uneasy, even painful and unpleasant at times. Get used to it. [...]
Be Honest with Yourself
Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship we need to maintain. The quality of that relationship will determine the quality of all our other relationships. When we can tell ourselves how we feel, and accept our own feelings, we can be real with others. When we can accept what we want and need, [...]
Don’t Give Up!
Often the difference between a successful person and a failure is not one has better abilities or ideas, but the courage that one has to bet on one’s ideas, to take a calculated risk – and to act. – Andre Malraux I know quite certainly that I myself have no special talent; curiosity, obsession & [...]
Big People
“Really big people are, above everything else, courteous, considerate and generous – not just to some people in some circumstances – but to everyone all the time.” – Thomas J. Watson, Sr. Why? Because it FEELS GOOD to be courteous, considerate and generous! Try it. It’s fun!
What Are Feelings For?
What is the purpose of our Feelings & Emotions? (leave your answer in a comment below)
All Feelings are Good!
“What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance, is understanding fear; that means, watch it, learn about it, come directly into contact with it. We are to learn about fear, not how to escape from it.” – Jiddu Krishnamurti “All feelings are good!” – Cal Banyan
Emotional Choices
“Freedom of choice is more to be treasured than any possession earth can give.” – David O. McKay Right on, David! and Emotional Intelligence gives you MORE CHOICES on how you react and how you behave and how you SUCCEED! “What man wants is simply independent choice, whatever that may cost and wherever it may [...]
Tune In!
I love to think of nature as an unlimited broadcasting station, through which God speaks to us every hour, if we only will tune in. – George Washington Carver
Emotional Awareness
Awareness is the first key to all change! “Relative to the level of awareness that is possible for us, our ordinary state of consciousness is as far from a direct experience of reality as sleep is from waking consciousness.” – Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson “The thought ‘I exist’ is not the same thing [...]
What is Happiness?
I liked this article and thought it was a very good way of explaining what Happiness is… “I have found that happiness is not something we look for and not something that is “out there” or out of our reach. Rather, it is about being present with what IS. It is about being grateful for [...]
Bring soul into the world
“We live in a culture that is greatly biased against the imagination, because our culture is very materialistic, objective and literal. Our culture lacks soul, and doesn’t know it, although it experiences the consequences. When you don’t know what’s missing, then of course you don’t know what to bring in, even though you feel something [...]
Emotional Safety
Creating Emotional Safety within an aware, loving group of people is one of the most amazing feelings one can possibly experience, and one of the very BEST ways to heal, quickly and effectively! “A group of humans becomes healing and converting only after its members have learned to stop trying to heal and convert. Community [...]
10 Steps to Unlocking “The Secret”
Here are some steps to take to get more Abundance into your life: 1. Clear Your Mind 2. Decide What You Want 3. Ask For It 4. Visualize Having It 5. Express and Feel Gratitude 6. Let Go of Control 7. Stay Positive 8. Be Patient 9. Invite It In 10. Share the Wealth by [...]
Translating
I’ve found that the Language of Emotional Intelligence is different than regular English, spoken on the streets and in our homes and workplaces. People say things like: “I feel…” “I believe…” “How am I not being clear?” “I hear you.” “I’m listening.” “How can I be clearer so you’ll understand better?” and the language of [...]
The Other Energy Crises, by Jon Gordon
The Other Energy Crises Powerful article on how emotional intelligence (EQ) in the workplace, again, is more important than IQ! “Today’s employees are under-engaged, overtired and overstressed. The fact is that enhanced energy, success and performance cannot be found in a can of Red Bull or a cup of espresso. Instead of being energy drainers, [...]
Be a Great Leader – Know yourself and your Peeps
All great leaders have one characteristic in common – they have a high degree of Emotional Intelligence. – Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence, 1995
Emotional Success, the movie
Personal Success – a young dude, maybe 17 or 18. hand on door, to step inside — himself! – – show him reliving certain childhood events that were big for him, emotionally, – – – watch him stuff his feelings, and deny them, and gloss over them – – – – then watch his unresolved [...]
Animator vs Animation
Check out this movie… just for fun… very clever! Enjoy. – Matt The Animator vs. his Animationhttp://alanbecker.deviantart.com/art/Animator-vs-Animation-34244097 Animator vs. Animation by *alanbecker on deviantART
You are not alone!
Our first and last love is – self-love. – Bovee It’s all about you! It’s all about love. It’s all about you, loving you. If you cannot, or do not, love yourself, how can you ask someone else to do something you are unwilling to do? Find love for yourself within yourself. Ask your Higher [...]
F.E.A.R.
Does my Fear control me, or do I control my Fear? As always, I have some choices in how handle my Fear? Do I: Fight Everything And Run    or Face Everything And Recover I try to go towards my emotional Fears, not away from them. I will no longer be afraid of my own [...]
Super-Learning Mode
"Learn everything you can, anytime you can, from anyone you can – there will always come a time when you will be grateful you did." – Sarah Caldwell Learning is fun. Learning is free (usually). Learning is life. Learn-learn-learn! My favorite clients/friends are in what I call "Super-Learning Mode". It’s a state, often immediately following [...]
Is it all just a fancy Sales pitch?
I believe some think I sound like I’m ‘hawking my wares’, trying to Sell people on these powerful emotional intelligence concepts… that’s ’cause I am! I don’t know how else to put it so that people will believe me to the point that they will go inside themselves to make the difficult, sometimes painful, changes [...]
I’m Scared.
I’m really scared. I’m scared that people are hurting out there, and we have some keys to healing, but they don’t know that, and keep on hurting because of us. Because of our inability to sum it up, and get the point across. succinctly, powerfully and life-changingly. We don’t even have much for sale.We’re not [...]
Make People Feel Important
"Pretend that every single person you meet has a sign around his or her neck that says, Make Me Feel Important. Not only will you succeed in sales, you will succeed in life." – Mary Kay Ash
Pay Attention to your Emotions!
"Emotions are the next frontier to be understood and conquered. To manage our emotions is not to drug them or suppress them, but to understand them so that we can intelligently direct our emotional energies and intentions…. It’s time for human beings to grow up emotionally, to mature into emotionally managed and responsible citizens. No [...]
Processing your Feelings
"Spiritual progress is like detoxification. Things have to come up in order to be released. Once we have asked to be healed, then our unhealed places are forced to the surface." – Marianne Williamson We call it "Processing your Feelings". We find them, we acknowledge them, we allow them, we FEEL them, we release them [...]
Fear can ruin your life!
Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world. -Ralph Waldo Emerson As I’ve said many times before, I believe that FEAR has ruined more lives, and more relationships, than anger has! Fear is sneeky. Fear is quiet. Fear is subtle. Anger is LOUD and obvious and usually obnoxious. You can easily [...]
Emotional Maturity
IMAGES OF MOMMY — an example of emotional maturity 4 YEARS OF AGEMy Mommy can do anything! 8 YEARS OF AGEMy Mom knows a lot! A whole lot! 12 YEARS OF AGEMy Mother doesn’t really know quite everything. 14 YEARS OF AGENaturally, Mother doesn’t know that either. 16 YEARS OF AGEMother? She’s hopelessly old-fashioned. [...]
Happiness
"Happiness is an inside job." – William Arthur Ward
Showing Feelings
"Never apologize for showing feelings. When you do so, you apologize for the truth." – Benjamin Disraeli, 1804-1881, British Statesman and Literary Figure "Be an all-out, not a hold-out." – Norman Vincent Peale You know how people are often trying to Hide their feelings from others?? Well, much of the time, I actually WANT people [...]
Feelings are the truth
If you don’t live in your feelings, you don’t live in the real world. Feelings are the truth. What you do with them will decide whether you live in honesty or by a lie. Using defenses to try to manage feelings may distort your perception of the truth, but it does not alter the truth. [...]
Fear and Passion
All men should strive to learn before they die what they are running from, and to, and why. – James Thurber
I don’t get angry, I get even (a joke)
Here is a great definition of Passive-Aggressive Behavior. I think this is also a good example of: I don’t get angry, I get even. CURTAIN RODS—- PRICELESS She spent the first day packing her belongings into boxes, crates and suitcases. On the second day, she had the movers come and collect her things. On the [...]
Kindness and Wisdom
Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate. – Albert Schweitzer, 1875-1965, Alsatian Theologian/Musician/Medical Missionary A clever person solves a problem. A wise person avoids it. – Albert Einstein, 1879-1955, German-born American Physicist It doesn’t take any time or money to be kind. – [...]
Change: It’s Worth The Risk
"Change. It has the power to uplift, to heal, to stimulate, surprise, open new doors, bring fresh experience and create excitement in life. Certainly it is worth the risk." – Leo Buscaglia “I can change. I can live out my imagination instead of my memory. I can tie myself to my limitless potential instead of [...]
Find Peace Within You
“Practice silence and you will acquire silent knowledge. In this silent knowledge is a computing system that is far more precise and far more accurate and far more powerful than anything that is contained in the boundaries of rational thought.” – Deepak Chopra
Emotional Results
Commit to yourself that you will persue a course of Emotional Intelligence and understanding. Give it a few years (2-4) and I guarentee results. massive, life-enhancing, incredible results. Depending on how deep and ingrained your "issues" are, it may take as many as 5 or even 7 years. but so what? do you have something [...]
Cool Quote, again
Manifesting dreams has never been easier, not once in all eternity, than it will be during the rest of your life. Nor has it been easier for anyone who’s ever lived, than it now is for you. – The Universe | www.Tut.com
2 Cool Quotes
The best way to give advice to your children is to find out what they want and then advise them to do it. – Harry S. Truman, 1884-1972, 33rd President of the United States Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with No Loss of Enthusiasm. –Winston Churchill, 1874-1965, English Politician/Author/Nobel [...]
Feeling Safe
“Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are — chaff and grain together — certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with the breath [...]
Books on Emotional Intelligence
(all text below was extracted from verbiage found on Amazon.com to describe these books. I ordered all 5.) Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman The authors identify a five-step "emotion coaching" process to help teach children how to recognize and address their feelings, which includes becoming aware of the child’s emotions; recognizing that [...]
Say it in any language, just Say it!
Tell your friends. Tell your family. Tell your co-workers. even tell your boss (if appropriate). Imagine leaving this earth without having told all the people you love how you really feel! English I Love You Spanish Te Amo French Je T’aime German lch Liebe Dich Japanese Ai Shite Imasu Thai Phom rak khun Italian Ti [...]
Name your emotions, so you can tame them
Brain scans reveal why meditation works (LiveScience)http://www.chinadaily.com.cn/world/2007-07/03/content_908252.htm "If you name your emotions, you can tame them, according to new research that suggests why meditation works. Brain scans show that putting negative emotions into words calms the brain’s emotion center. That could explain meditation’s purported emotional benefits because people who meditate often label their negative emotions [...]
High Emotional Intelligence v. Low Emotional Intelligence
Examples of High v. Low EQ————————–chill v. tensionpatience v. stressacting (non-reacting) v. reactinghurry without rushingpersistance v. flitting aboutgiving in v. giving uplistening v. yappingventing v. dumping uponyour own shoulds v. other people’s shouldspersonal responsibility v. blaming / victimknowing what you can control v. what you cannotknowing what’s your problem v. what’s NOT your problemmeditating v. [...]
Conquering Fear
"You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind." – Dale Carnegie Fear = False Evidence Appearing Real
Emotional Awareness
"The beginning of wisdom is to call things by their right names. " – Chinese Proverb — "Emotional awareness is the first key to change." – mcp — "Our lives improve only when we take chances – and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves." – Walter [...]
Building a Healthy Self-Esteem
Building a Healthy Self-Esteem (article) http://www.happynews.com/news/672007/building-healthy-self-esteem.htm Here’s a good article on being "real" with your kid. Positive, definitely. Over-Positive, no. (but over-positive still beats over-negative!). Here are some excerpts from this article so you’ll get the point… "Few things are more important to a child’s personal growth than having a healthy self-esteem. We help our [...]
Hiding Feelings From Yourself
"One of the greatest moments in anybody’s developing experience is when he no longer tries to hide from himself but determines to get acquainted with himself as he really is." – Norman Vincent Peale
The Beauty of Having Choices
A good anger acted upon is beautiful as lightning and swift with power.A good anger swallowed clots the blood like slime. -Marge Piercy — "One thing we can do is make the choice to view the world in a healthy way. We can choose to see the world as safe with only moments of danger [...]
Compassion
"Compassion is the ultimate and most meaningful embodiment of emotional maturity. It is through compassion that a person achieves the highest peak and deepest reach in his or her search for self-fulfillment." – Arthur Jersild
Benefits of Emotional Intelligence (2)
"Does emotional intelligence help boost sales, improve customer satisfaction, reduce turnover, increase safety, and enhance productivity?" by Joshua Freedman, EQ Teacher, extraordinaire! . Sales When I ask sales people in all kinds of businesses for the key to their effectiveness, the first answer is "relationships." So if emotional intelligence is essential to building good relationships, [...]
It’s Official…
. EQ > IQ !! .
Let Go, Let God
"When we know that love matters more than anything, and we know that nothing else REALLY matters, we move into the state of surrender. Surrender does not diminish our power, it enhances it." – Sara Paddison … and, some of the bravest acts I’ve ever witnessed were those of total Surrender. It takes incredible Emotional [...]
Emotional Intelligence Defined
emotional intelligence n. Intelligence regarding the emotions, especially in the ability to monitor one’s own or others’ emotions. The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2003.
Purpose Brings Joy
"There is no more important step you can take than to define your life’s purpose. It develops your sense of belonging to our universe." – Arnold Patent We ALL need some sense of belonging… with each other, with ourselves, with the earth. Who are you and what do you bring to the world? So, what’s [...]
Personal Responsibility is a Key
"It doesn’t matter how you come to it…just that you do: Finally recognize that no one is responsible for your life but you." – Oprah Winfrey If you blame, whine, complain and otherwise victimize yourself, you are giving your power away. Take control of your own life by taking full responsibility for who you are, [...]
PHILOSOPHY IN PSYCHOTHERAPY with ALBERT ELLIS, Ph.D.
Below is an interview with Albert Ellis, Ph.D. Please read it thru, or at least skim it. It is the clearest, most profound explanation I’ve seen about how Human Behaviour works, including the feelings and emotions behind all that we do. Some of Dr. Ellis’s basic premises: "The main thing is to accept responsibility for [...]
Are you a Believer or a Doubter?
"If you expect the best, you will be the best. Learn to use one of the most powerful laws in this world; change your mental habits to belief instead of disbelief. Learn to expect, not to doubt. In so doing, you bring everything into the realm of possibility." – Dr. Norman Vincent Peale Stop and [...]
Take Time To Trust
Oftentimes leaders attempt to quantify or qualify the time they spend with their staff or even their children! We hear, “I invested hours of quality time to train that individual”, or “It takes years of dedicated training to produce a worthy employee”, or even “I’m such an awesome leader that I don’t even need to [...]
Loving Yourself
"It is not selfish or narcissistic to love yourself. It is your first and foremost responsibility." – Alan Cohen
Facing Fear
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of [...]
Say YES to Life!
"The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: decide what you want." – Ben Stein …and picture it, and ask for, and see yourself having it.- The Secret http://www.TheSecret.TV ————————————————————- "You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage — pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically — [...]
Compassion and Understanding
t "When we experience the pain of another person, we instinctively want to take away that pain. But by taking away the other person’s pain, we also take away his or her opportunity to grow. To be truly compassionate, we must be able to share another person’s suffering and pain — knowing there is nothing [...]
Emotional Myths
Myth 1: Emotions are more primitive than reason. Emotions originate in the brain just like reason, even though you might feel them in your heart or in your gut. They are equally valid when making decisions, the key to making informed decisions it to consult both sides of your brain. Myth 2: Clamping down on [...]
Self-Evaluation
Emotional Intelligence Self-Evaluation Assessment Measures: Emotional Awareness Managing One’s Emotions Self-Motivation Empathy Coaching Others’ Emotions Take the 30-question test here: http://ed.swau.edu/England/handouts/emotional_intelligence_self-evaluation.pdf
Feelings are the Key!
"With just a little education and practice on how to manage your emotions, you can move into a new experience of life so rewarding that you will be motivated to keep on managing your emotional nature in order to sustain it. The payoff is delicious in terms of improved quality of life." – Doc Childre
Benefits of Emotional Intelligence
1. Better communication skills Powerful, not wimpy. Strong and able to be tough, without being Cold. With personal Boundaries and the strength and tools to uphold them. 2. Heightened Self-Awareness "Depression is Anger turned Inward." "When we feel Guilty, we’ll set ourselves up to be Punished." "Negative emotions, expressed verbally as intensely as they are [...]
Quotes on Guilt (2)
"If we don’t forgive ourselves for our mistakes, and others for the wounds they have inflicted upon us, we end up crippled with guilt. And the soul cannot grow under a blanket of guilt, because guilt is isolating, while growth is a gradual process of reconnection to ourselves, to other people, and to a larger [...]
Quotes on Sadness
"To weep is to make less the depth of grief." – William Shakespeare "When the heart grieves over what it has lost, the spirit rejoices over what it has left." – Sufi epigram "There is no despair so absolute as that which comes with the first moments of our first great sorrow, when we have [...]
How to be Happy
Remember the five simple rules to being Happy: 1. Free your heart from hatred. 2. Free your mind from worries. 3. Live simply. 4. Give more. 5. Expect less.
Forgiveness
Forgiveness IS NOT: 1) A sense of false humility that makes us better than somebody else 2) Condoning ignorant or harmful behavior 3) Any one specific set of "right" behaviors 4) A "spiritual" evasion of real grief work. Forgiveness IS: 1) A deep psycho-spiritual process capable of honing our wisdom 2) An attitude that sets [...]
John Bradshaw
John Bradshaw is one of my biggest heroes, and has personally made a huge difference in my growth and healing… See a list of his many works here. Thanks, John!
Feeling Verbs
Here’s some of the verbs I’ve heard about what we do with our Feelings & Emotions: Get in touch with your feelings Manage your emotions Get a handle on your feelings Get a grip on yourself Calm down Mellow out Chill, take a chill pill Relax and enjoy Take a break Find inner peace Deal [...]
Anger Resources
Healthy Anger: How to Help Children and Teens Manage Their Anger Anger, when properly understood, tells more about wants and needs than about the person or situation that has caused the anger. Getting Control of Your Anger: A Clinically Proven, Three-Step Plan for Getting to the Root of the Problem and Resolving It Robert Allan [...]
Inner Child Work
Here’s a cool way that inner child work, a critical step in healing our feelings, was explained by a therapist in Florida… Inner Child Experiential Psychotherapy builds upon the work of renowned therapists such as John Bradshaw, Virginia Satir, Hal Stone, Milton Erickson, Alice Miller and many others whose efforts focus on the unmet needs [...]
Take Control of your Life (2)
3 Big Questions who am I? — – — – — Heal pain and anger from your past. now what? — – — – — Get a grip on the present. then what? — – — – — Create the future of your choosing. Answer those, and your life is yours.
Depression Help
Help with Depression http://www.depression.com/getting_support.html Mood Gym: Depression help, CBT re: depression, no charge. has characters! http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/ Depression Questionnaire 16 multiple choice questions, no assessment http://www.depression.com/depression_questionnaire.html Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance(formerly the National Depressive and Manic-Depressive Association )730 North Franklin, Suite 501Chicago, IL 60601-7204Toll-free: (800) 826-3632E-mail: chapters@dbsalliance.org http://www.dbsalliance.org/ National Alliance for the Mentally Ill (NAMI)Colonial Place [...]
I’d like to Teach the world to Sing (but not in perfect harmony).
I want to teach the world the incredible power of basic Emotional Intelligence skills (EQ skills). Teach people to imagine.to visualize.to plan.to conjure.to ask for.to attract.to believe.to trust.to love. to be open. or not.to feel. or not. to allow.to create.to receive.to give.to play.to laugh.to sing.to dance.to scream.to cry. to emote. honestly, without drama.to make boundaries.to [...]
Emotional Intelligence is the key to Happiness and Success!
If you know what to Expect from yourself, you’re in control. If you have no idea what you’re gonna do next, you’re Out of Control. If you don’t Understand yourself, don’t Know yourself, don’t know what to Expect from yourself, how can you be successful at anything?!? How can anyone count on you? How can [...]
The Secret Movie 30 Day Challenge
Make a commitment NOW to make the next month, March 2007, a month of real, quantifiable change and growth in your life! Take the 30 day challenge, based on the life-changing movie The Secret, and "manifest" something New and DIFFERENT and Cool in your life, now. Link: The Secret Movie 30 Day Challenge. (lead by [...]
The EQ Edge
The appearance in 1995 of Daniel Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence: Why it can Matter More than IQ generated a flood of interest in the role that emotional intelligence plays in our lives. Goleman elegantly surveyed years of research into psychological functioning and interpersonal skills, presenting his case to general readers in a coherent and accessible way. [...]
Emotional Quotient Defined
Unlike intelligence quotient IQ, which is relatively fixed after seventeen years of age, emotional quotient EQ can be enhanced throughout your life. When you enhance your emotional quotient, you increase your chance of success in the countless roles you play each day. When you develop your emotional quotient, you learn to understand yourself and others [...]
Quotes on Fear
"Courage is not the absence of fear, but the conquering of it. Your fears are not walls, but hurdles." – Dan Millman "Many of our fears are tissue-paper-thin, and a single courageous step would carry us clear through them." – Brendan Francis “It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, [...]
Creatures of Emotion
"When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion." – Dale Carnegie
Feelings and Emotion Defined
Research on "Feelings"View results from: Dictionary | Thesaurus | Encyclopedia | All Reference | the Web —Synonyms: Feeling, emotion, passion, sentiment refer to pleasurable or painful sensations experienced when one is stirred to sympathy, anger, fear, love, grief, etc. —————-Research on "Emotion"View results from: Dictionary | Thesaurus | Encyclopedia | All Reference | the Web [...]
Heal Feelings – Do What it Takes!
You cannot begin your healing journey without the willingness to do so. Without the willingness to do whatever it takes to heal from your wounded self, you will not begin the journey of healing and evolving your soul. “Doing whatever it takes” means that you are ready and willing to feel, understand and take full [...]
Asking for Help
The healthy, the strong individual, is the one who asks for help when he needs it. Whether he has an abscess on his knee or in his soul. – Rona Barrett Asking for help does not mean that we are weak or incompetent. It usually indicates an advanced level of honesty and intelligence. – Anne [...]
The Secret, a movie – Watch it!
Watch the movie, The Secret. imho, one of the best personal growth movies of all time (in the same arena as ‘What the Bleep’). http://www.TheSecret.TV $4.95, 90 minutesTrailer version, 2 min: http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=1443364536882886742 "Who you are today is a sum total of what you have ALREADY thought and felt." – Jack Canfield, "Chicken Soup for the [...]
Super Bowl Feelings
Well, it was a GREAT Game! Hard fought, exciting, interesting. And I was real Happy with how well everyone behaved. The words "Love" and "God" were used a lot, and there was an upbeat, family-like warmth amongst both the players and coaches. Even the commercials were pretty upbeat and feelings-conscious. I watched the game with [...]
Showing Feelings
Pink Floyd, The Wall"The Trial" (barrister)Good morning worm, your honor.the crown will plainly show the prisoner who now stands before you,was caught red-handed showing feelings.showing feelings of an almost human nature. THIS WILL NOT DO. call the schoolmaster… (schoolmaster)I always said you’d come to no good in the end, your honor.if they would have had [...]
#1 Top Life Skills
#1 Most Powerful Interpersonal Communication Skill: Shut Up and Listen #1 Most Important Relationship in Life: Your relationship with Yourself #1 Best Thing you can do for you and your family’s Present and Future: Increase your Emotional Intelligence #1 Deepest, most life-trashing, relationship-blasting, sex-ruining, self-esteem-bashing, hopeless event we can experience: Being molested or violated as [...]
Quotes on Success (2)
"He who has achieved success has worked well, laughed often and loved much." – Elbert Hubbard "Too often, people focus only on results. But getting results without learning something or without having fun are incomplete. Accomplishment is all three: the result, personal growth and having fun." – Peter L. Hirsch "There are many aspects to [...]
Feelings Toward Yourself
"It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others." – Sydney J. Harris Yep, it’s all about YOU!
How People Work
Here’s how we got to be who we are, and why we do what we do… Event -> Meaning -> Feeling -> Behavior EVENT: Shit happens. Sometimes really bad stuff, especially to little kids.stuff happen to us, around us, through us, between us. MEANING: We try to make sense of it … "I am bad", [...]
Relationships and Money
hard to believe, but it’s true… "All the money you’ve ever made,and all the money you will ever make,will come from a Relationship.The key is to focus on the Quality of your Relationships." – jr@well.com
Patience and perseverance
"Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish." – John Quincy Adams
Playing your Heart out!
"I believe in playing with your heart, with every fiber in your body — fairly, squarely, by the rules–to win. And I believe that any man’s finest moment, the greatest fulfillment of all he holds dear, is that moment when he has worked his heart out and lies exhausted on the floor of battle — [...]
Take Control of your Life!
"The difference between great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively waiting to see where life takes them next. The difference between the two is the difference between living fully and just existing." – Michael E. Gerber heck yeah!thanks, Kristin for [...]
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