Self-Processing

I’m coining a new term,

“Self-Processing: The art and skill of Processing yourself and “resolving” your negative feelings.

Feeling Resolution is a process. a known, understood, step-by-step process that can be replicated, and measured (well, kinda).

Issues = Unresolved feelings and emotions.
- Resolving your own personal “life issues”,
- Cleaning out your emotional “system” – effectively, cleanly, and completely,
- Dealing with your unresolved, unexpressed past and current feelings and emotions,
- Safely and sanely, with dignity and pride,
- Using your own personal Power,
- For relief, healing, and clarity.

Issues tend to contain:
a. BIG emotions
b. often, a big fat Should
c. some shame, or guilt, perhaps?
d. almost certainly, some Anger.
e. a catastrophic, so fear

Wanna heal yourself? Learn to “Process” your Feelings and Emotions and Issues. It’s one of the most powerful and profound skills you can possibly possess.

- Matt

(more on this later… any comments? know anyone who’s doing/teaching this skill?)

I don’t sing because I’m happy; I’M HAPPY because I sing.

“I don’t sing because I’m happy; I’m happy because I sing.”

- William James, 1842-1910, American Philosopher and Psychologist

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“Forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair.”

- Kahlil Gibran, 1883-1931, Lebanese Poet and Novelist

Feeling-based Medications

Top 20 Psychiatric Prescriptions for 2005

These are the top 20 psychiatric medications by number of U.S. prescriptions dispensed in 2005.

Medication Used for… U.S. Prescriptions
1. Xanax Anxiety 34,230,000
2. Zoloft Depression, anxiety 26,976,000
3. Lexapro Depression, anxiety 24,788,000
4. Prozac Depression, anxiety 21,403,000
5. Ativan Anxiety, panic disorder 19,002,000
6. Effexor XR Depression, anxiety 17,179,000
7. Klonopin Anxiety 16,763,000
8. Elavil Depression, migraines 14,385,000
9. Valium Anxiety, panic disorder 12,093,000
10. Wellbutrin XL Depression 11,044,000
11. Celexa Depression, anxiety 9,266,000
12. Adderall XR Attention deficit disorder 8,653,000
13. Seroquel Antipsychotic, behavioral problems 8,420,000
14. Risperdal Antipsychotic 7,301,000
15. Strattera Attention deficit disorder 4,991,000
16. Cymbalta Depression, diabetes 4,938,000
17. Zyprexa Antipsychotic, behavioral problems 4,540,000
18. Depakote Bipolar, migraines 4,077,000
19. Buspar Sleep, anxiety 4,054,000
20. Paxil Depression, anxiety 3,609,000

… and feelings aren’t that important, right?!?
wow!

oh, and I just got this quote and thought it was appropriate here…

“Don’t give up at half time. Concentrate on winning the second half.”
- Coach Paul “Bear” Bryant

What that means to me is that there is hope! Even if you are suffering with depression, anxiety, ADD or other ‘disorders’, these are all Feelings-based ailments and therefore (imho) overcome-able. You can make the 2nd half of your life as good, or BETTER, than the 1st half!

You gotta feel it to heal it.

- Matt

Let go of past pains!

“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life.”

- Mary Manin Morrissey

“In truth, to attain to interior peace, one must be willing to pass through the contrary to peace. Such is the teaching of the Sages.”

- Swami Brahmanada

“I trust so much in the power of the heart and the soul; I know that the answer to what we need to do next is in our own hearts.
All we have to do is listen, then take that one step further and trust what we hear. We will be taught what we need to learn.”

- Melody Beattie

In a miraculous way, our fears become less powerful when we discover that we share them with other people. You gotta feel it to heal it.

Emotional Growth

instead of Personal Growth, what if we call it Emotional Growth?
it’s more descriptive and ties back in to our area of focus.

We’re all about Feelings and Emotions.
If you don’t like yours, if you think that Feelings are a bad thing… if you’re in denial about what’s happening inside you… you may want to leave here, quickly.

We’re all about Feelings.
We LOVE our Feelings. (and our feelings ARE love)
We talk about our Feelings… a lot.
We allow and express and enjoy and treasure our Feelings!
We learn from our Feelings.
We live thru our Feelings.

If you don’t like your feelings and see no reason to actively pull them up and get them out, great. enjoy. good luck. see ya later.

Emotional Intelligence is the key to both Happiness and Success in life.
therefore, feelings are king ’round these parts.

About Emotional Intelligence

Various definitions:

“Emotional intelligence is the ability:
to perceive emotions;
to access and generate emotions so as to assist thought;
to understand emotions and emotional knowledge;
and to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth.”

Another says there are four parts:
1. Perceive or sense emotions,
2. Use emotions to assist thought,
3. Understand emotions,
4. Manage emotions.

David Caruso writes, “It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head — it is the unique intersection of both.”

from Q-Metrics, the creators of the EQ Map. They say: “Emotional intelligence is the ability to sense, understand, and effectively apply the power and acumen of emotions as a source of human energy, information, trust, creativity and influence.”

Entire Article at 6seconds.org

One key insight from this model is that having a capacity or skill is not enough to create real-world results.

Have a Child’s heart, and an Adult’s mind

“What a distressing contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and the feeble mentality of the average adult.”

- Sigmund Freud

ouch… and oh sooo true! that’s why I like to hang around kids better!

I have a gripe… about Happiness.

I read a quote this morning…

“Happiness comes only when we push our brains and hearts to the farthest reaches of which we are capable.”

- Leo C. Rosten

sounds good, right?
well, I say, “BULL“. I don’t buy that.
I can choose to do nothing whatsoever, and still be totally Happy and at peace. Here’s one I buy…

“All spiritual disciplines are done with a view to still the mind. The perfectly still mind is universal spirit.”

– Swami Ramdas

The perfectly still mind is also happy and content.

In fact,

“Happiness is a journey, not a destination. For a long time it seemed
to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some
obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business,
time still to be served, a debt to be paid. At last it dawned on me that these
obstacles were my life. This perspective has helped me to see there is no way to happiness.
Happiness is the way. So treasure every moment you have and remember that
time waits for no one.”

- Souza

I believe Happiness is about Opening the heart, not Pushing the heart. well, actually, at first, we gotta Push the heart, to get all the yucky, painful, childhood stuff outta there, to make room for the good. However, I’ve found that once we’ve done the emotional work and healing, we can relax, Open our hearts, and enjoy!

- Matt

It’s up to us, baby!

As your eyes open, you’ll see that your state of health, happiness, and every circumstance of your life has been, in large part, arranged by you — consciously or unconsciously.”

- Dan Millman

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“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

The Ultimate Freedom!

“Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us.”

- Stephen Covey

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“Freedom is what you do with what’s been done to you.”

- Jean-Paul Sartre

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“One cannot make a slave of a free person, for a free person is free even in a prison.”

- Plato

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