Advanced Relationship Training

Ok, so this weekend, we’re teaching the 5th in our year-long, 6-weekend series on Advanced Relationship Trainings (ART class).
The subjects are:

Leadership (quiz)
What Story are you Living? 
Personal Commitment

Among other things, we’ll all be doing a 15-minute presentation, to be encouraged and critiqued by the group.  We’re striving to become the most amazing people we can, [...]

Happiness is up to Me

Giving is all about me.
Loving is all about me.
Being nice is all about me.
Being a good guy is all about me.
it’s all all about me.
I do good things, and I’m nice to people, and I give, and I’m trying to change the world – why? – ‘cause it’s fun.  and it feels good.  and it [...]

Happiness is about Deciding

know why people have so much fun when they’re at a party or bar and/or drinkin’?     because they decide to. 
they make a group decision, and personal decisions, to HAVE FUN, so they do.     period.  yes, the alcohol plays a factor in it, but still, [...]

Happiness is about Facing ourselves

"I’ve finally come to understand that whatever happens, all those stumbling blocks, all these problems, have nothing to do with real happiness. Happiness is facing yourself and learning to love what you see, flaws and all. It’s taking enjoyment just from the process of being human."
      – Kelsey Grammar

I keep saying that [...]

Happiness is about Understanding Fears our own and others, too.

Sometimes,
understanding their fears

helps me
understand and accept their actions,

as well as their pain.

 
and Sometimes,
understanding their fears
helps me
to understand, and accept, and conquer, my own.

Emotional Intelligence is only a thought away.

"It takes six seconds to manage anger. It takes six seconds to create compassion. It takes six seconds to change the world."
Most of all, we want you to know that emotional intelligence is right there inside you — everyone has it, and everyone can learn [...]

What are you feeling?

Click the pic above to pick What are you feeling? graphic and make your own banner.
… at the largest Emotional Intelligence network on the planet…  Josh Freedman’s 6Seconds.org  – Matt
hint:  wanna bump your friends’ heads?  instead of greeting people with “Hi, how are you?”, ask “Hi, What are you feeling?”… people often pause, and think, [...]

It really is “All About Me” !!

Our generation has been criticized for having an "All About Me" attitude.
Well, I say we’re not Enuf "All About Me". or not in the right ways, at least.

All About Me means that I take responsibility for my actions, and my behaviours, and my thots.
All About Me shows that someone is home — [...]

New Blogger in Town!

Hello!  I am Cheryl Montgmery-Nolan.  My adopted spiritual brother Matt invited me to write a Guest Blog – so here I am.
I thought I'd talk about excitement, and how important it is in our lives.  Right now I'm extremely excited because I will be getting on a plane in 2 days and flying from New [...]

I Despise Judgmental People!

It takes no strength to be judgmental.    it takes no courage, either.it takes no class.    it takes no style.it takes no brains.    it takes no muscle.
the only positive purpose I can see for Judging, is to educate yourself — to know how you do NOT want to be / do / have.  It doesn’t make [...]

Our fears are not walls, only warnings!

“Your fears are not walls, but hurdles. Courage is not the absence of fear, but the conquering of it.”
    – Dan Millman
“Many of our fears are tissue-paper-thin, and a single courageous step would carry us clear through them.”
    – Brendan Francis

Processing Feelings

Here’s how they say to do therapy:
1. Listen attentively and nonjudgmentally2. Reassure about doubts and misgivings3. Restructure any associated negative thoughts4. Help to normalize reactions through acknowledgement and validation
but, imho, there are a few steps missing here, namely the FEELING part. here’s how we “process” our feelings:
1. We make it safe and keep it [...]

Asking for Help

Ever have trouble asking others to help you out?
“Asking for help doesn’t mean that we are weak or incompetent. It usually indicates an advanced level of honesty and intelligence.”
    – Anne Wilson Schaef
“The healthy, the strong individual, is the one who asks for help when he needs it. Whether he has an abscess on his [...]

Happy or Rich?

“Would you like to be happy, or rich?”
Happiness and monetary wealth seem to be polar opposites to a lot of people, particularly those of fundamentalist religious backgrounds who believe that you “cannot serve God and mammon both” or eastern philosophies that urge “detachment to material things”.
I’ve looked at both ideas from inside out and outside [...]