I’m not showing off, here

I’ve been out there in the Feeling trenches for over 20 years now — digging through anguish, pain, rage, sorrow, grief, guilt and shame.
The good news is that we do it in a way that encourages the positive and manages the negative, where I am doing my part to help people feel better about themselves [...]

when my body needs to scream… I let it.

we have found some amazingly simple, practical, common-sencicle ways of being happy… it’s called Dealing with your Feelings.  directly and maturely.
that’s it, bottom line.
it’s not much more complicated than that.

when our body needs to go to the bathroom, we don’t fight it.
when our body wants to rest, we let it (well, most do).
when our body [...]

Speaking of Maslow…

… and speaking of Maslow, let’s take a look at his:
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Human Needs. 1.  Food, Water & Air 2.  Personal Safety, Shelter & Security 3.  Belonging & Emotional Safety 4.  [...]

Self-Actualization

I believe I have met people who are truly Self-Actualization, in maslow’s context.  in fact, i believe i am one.

it’s about being as happy as you can possibly be, given your circumstances.
it’s about feeling fully expressed and fully present, pretty much all the time.
it’s about knowing ourselves, accepting ourselves, and enjoying ourselves, to the fullest.
it’s [...]

i love who I am now

i love who I am now (didn’t used to).     I love who I have become.     no, I’m not perfect, far from it.     but even better than perfect, I am Accepting of me.     If i do good, i praise me.  if [...]

$3.3M Club

I am planning to amass $3.3 Million, and I will not stop until I do.
I believe that will be enough money to handle all my family’s needs now and in the future. 
I will not stop there, but the rest I will give away.
I just officially started a $3.3M Club for all of us who [...]

If you had a non-profit, without budgetary limitations, what would you have it do?

we will be applying for a 501c3 within the next month.
help me word it correctly.
help me dream it correctly.

if YOU had a non-profit, without any budgetary limitations, what would you have it do?
I don’t want to focus on just 1 county or city, I want this to be National. All americans [...]

EQ can work at work!

"Now in order that people may be happy in their work, these three things are needed:
1. They must be fit for it. 2. They must not do too much of it. 3. They must have a sense of success in it — not a [...]

Awareness, however, is NOT the last Key to change !!

Ok, now that we know, we have the responsibility to Do.
those who know, lead those who do not. those who can, lead. leaders lead and leaders follow other leaders.
…and we teach each others to be leaders.
that is the point here. 
it’s all about us, and it’s not, at the same [...]

EQ is the bomb

Emotional intelligence (EQ), can matter as much as IQ in determining a person’s well-being and effectiveness in life.
- Dr. Claude Steiner

"Emotional Literacy; Intelligence with a Heart" (free online book)

I used to say that EQ > IQ, but now I say:
IQ + EQ = Happiness and Success in [...]

Anger Management

Managing Anger by Seeing the Unseen Cause by Mike C. Powers http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Managing_Anger_by_Seeing_the_Unseen_Cause.html
Read this really good article about what’s “beneath” our anger… what drives it… what underlying intentions we may have that can “fuel” our anger.
here’s another on:
Managing Anger by Understanding the Different Ways People Express Anger
http://www.selfmadeeasy.com/managing_anger.cfm
see also:
Anger [...]

Why bother?

I am writing this because it’s fun for me. I am writing this because it needs to be said.   I am writing this because I have a ton of Love inside me, that wants to come out… so it’s spewn everywhere.    [...]

I’m an EQ junkie, here’s why…

can we change our IQ?     maybe a touch.
can we change our physical health?     sometimes.
can we improve our Emotional health and well-being?     Heck Yeah !!
can we get better Results, and feel more Successful in life? [...]

Giving = Love !!

"It’s not how much we give but how much love we put into giving."
    – Mother Teresa
Yes!  The Giving is really for Us, not as much Them.     it’s about US enjoying it, letting it fill us up,
to Believe, to Care, to open up, to connect.

Giving = Love !!
 
and [...]

Using Anger Wisely

i can let some anger in, as long as I manage it.     I have to ensure that it doesn’t control my life, and it doesn’t get to take over my life.   but there does need to be a sense of it.  the knowledge and acceptance of it.     and [...]

US -– us, Us, US, USA !!

us – closer to an “I”, but with an us-attitude.   It’s about knowing ourselves, understanding our strengths and weaknesses, being clear on how and where we fit into the world, and how we can, and do, affect others. 
Keywords:  Consciously Competent.  Awake and Aware.  Personally Responsible.  eyes-wide-open.  Team-player.  good guy.  dude.
 
 Us – 2 [...]

Know what I want?

Do you know what I want? 
I want you to listen to me.
I want you to follow my lead.
I want you to buy into the concept enough to promote it to others.
OUR Feelings ARE THE KEY to intelligent, aware, and moderated behaviours.

Those of us who know, become responsible for the rest.
some things aren’t fair, but [...]

We Continuously Learn, Learn, Learn!

We are constantly in, what we call, “Learning Mode”, where we are open to new ideas, concepts and experiences.
“Education is our passport to the future, for tomorrow belongs to the people who prepare for it today."
    – Malcolm X
“Our progress as a nation can be no swifter than our progress in education."
    [...]

Emotional Intelligence for all!

I just learned that over 80% of all prisoners in CA were once foster kids.  80%, damn !! … and I believe that some 50-70% of all crimes could be considered to be Emotion-based (drugs, violence, theft, etc.).
Let’s:     Educate prisoners     Educate foster kids [...]

Love with your whole heart!

It’s better to love and feel ALL the emotions rather than not love for fear of the loss.
- NS

You can’t really feel the highs, if you can’t or won’t feel the lows. You’re living only half an existence.
        – Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan
Fall seven times; stand up eight.
- unknown