Ultimate Selfishness (aka U.S. or us — both good concepts, ey?!?)
is about how to make YOUR life look, and more importantly FEEL, as Great as you want it to. It's about going inside yourself and finding what's truly Important, and Passionate, and Essential to you, and making that happen. It's about understanding and Accepting yourself, to your core, which will help you have compassion and understanding for others, as well.
Why do we Love? 'cause it feels good, to us.
why do we Give? 'cause it feels good, to us.
why do we Connect? 'cause it feels good.
Ultimate Selfishness is about making the world work… why?
- 'cause it's fun.
- 'cause it feels good.
- 'cause it's the way to true love.
- It is all about me… but the me that is loving and caring and helpful, too… and puts others first sometimes… out of love.
Ultimate Selfishness is partly a How to, but also an Inspirational work. My intention in writing it is to share with you the knowledge, and understanding, and JOY we have found in working so closely with so many people for over 20 years. We've found that, beneath everything, when all is stripped away (like the Katrina victims, and the boys returning from war, and those without jobs and hope), when nothing material is left, all we have is Ourselves. Our Feelings. Our values. Our attitudes. Our beliefs.
We call it Emotional Intelligence
… and it's the key to sanity, Happiness and Success in life.
How can you function if you don't even know yourself?
How can you feel Love, if you don't Feel?
How can you "control" your life, when your own Feelings and Emotions are out of your control?
Please read this. Or, if you don't have time, at least skim thru the wording in BOLD so you'll get the idea.
Here are the main Points, so you don't even have to read it. (I don't hardly Ever read entire books, so it was really hard to write one… but I think it was worth it… as it brings a Very powerful message, indeed).
a. Our Feelings are a Good thing, not a Bad thing.
b. In fact, our Feelings and Emotions are probably THE most important thing in our entire Lives, as what we Feel is who we are!
c. There are only:
3 easy steps to "Dealing with" or "Getting in touch with" our Feelings and Emotions:
1. Know them
- become aware of what you feel when you feel it, learn to identify feelings properly and completely ("oh, I'm actually Afraid, underneath all that Anger.")
2. Accept them
- allowing, understanding, self-compassion, self-acceptance (Our Feelings are who we truly are, so accepting our Feelings = accepting ourselves!). This only takes a sec, but it's a crucial step. ("ok, so I'm afraid and angry… that's ok with me.")
3. Express them
- ok, here's the tricky part… but also, this is about truly Living, a unique and powerful You, that makes their world look and feel the way you want it to. ("I'll face with my fear, and deal with my anger, and release it, so I can move on.") MOST emotional problems, imho, are about the ignorance/inability to Fully Express our feelings, from the past, and in the present, so that we can make an Amazing Future for ourselves and our loved ones. So we need to find, and create, creative, healthy, effective ways to express ourselves and our feelings for the rest of our days.
Another way to put it:
Get a Clue.
Get a Grip.
Get a Life !!
We say:
EQ > IQ !!
EQ is about knowing who you are, it's about maturity and understanding yourself, it about how to control and manage your feelings and your life.
High EQ = Maturity.
High EQ = Freedom.
High EQ = Love. (and lots of it!)
High EQ = Safety. (the ability to sense, and create, safe emotional situations for yourself and your family)
High EQ = Passion. yowwwwwweeee!!
High EQ = Fun. yeeeeeehaaaaa!!
High EQ = Success. if you can push yourself, manage yourself, accept yourself, and know yourself, to your depths, you can make things happen, get things done, influence people and make your life Wildly Successful in any and every area!
so, whether you read this, please shift your thinking towards understanding, accepting and expressing your true Feelings and Emotions. Because that is the Ultimate Selfishness… to change the world for our own good.
(btw, this all can be done alone, but it's easier, and way more fun and loving, if you do it With someone, or a group of someones).
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