Emotional Intelligence Questions (part 2)
Who or what are you Angry at? Who or what Hurt you the most? Who or what are you most Afraid of? What is keeping you from Releasing the pain?
Emotional Intelligence Questions
Do your emotions work for you, or against you? Do you find yourself Repeating unhealthy behaviours, and don’t know why, or how to stop them? Are issues from the past ruining your present day life? Does your life feel out of control? If you answered YES to any of these questions, you could use more [...]
Anger Resources
Healthy Anger: How to Help Children and Teens Manage Their Anger Anger, when properly understood, tells more about wants and needs than about the person or situation that has caused the anger. Getting Control of Your Anger: A Clinically Proven, Three-Step Plan for Getting to the Root of the Problem and Resolving It Robert Allan [...]
Thoughts on Anger (4)
"Adults who are most effective in helping children manage anger model responsible management by acknowledging, accepting, and taking responsibility for their own angry feelings and by expressing anger in direct and non-aggressive ways. When children are embroiled in an anger-arousing interaction, parents & teachers can help by listening without judging, evaluating or ordering them to [...]
Thoughts on Anger (3)
It’s official… I now have an official title, that I can put on my resume… I’m a "Provocateur". One who pisses others off. an instigator. I was reading an excellent article on Anger, and it said "… some children express anger with aggressive revenge by physically or verbally retaliating against the provocateur." that’s me. the [...]
Thoughts on Anger (2)
so what’s up with that? why do I go around Pissing people off so? is it just ’cause they pay me to? or do I get some perverse pleasure out of it? (well, I have to admit, it [...]
Thoughts on Anger
I’m not really asking for anything.this stuff just comes to me, so I report it to you. I have been blessed to have a ton of experience in the area of intense emotional expression — face-to-face, with pillow in hand. In fact, I’d venture to say that after 20 years of teaching ND, I have [...]
Anger and Rage at Work
Hi: Here’s a good article about dealing with Anger and Rage at work. It’s entitled "Desk rage: Workers gone wild". Some good quotes from the article:"The people more likely to experience desk rage are those with the least power." (powerlessness leads to rage). "When we become angry, our bodies “flood” with a rush of adrenaline [...]
Self Worth
What other people think about me and the value they place on me has always been very important. It was the only way that I could accept that I was a valuable person. In order to make me invaluable, I never said no and spent all of my time learning and mastering new skills. Instead [...]
Anger
Anger has been the most difficult emotion for me to accept. Mostly because I did not understand the difference between anger and the anger/fear combination of my experiences. Fear that my father’s anger and physical abuse would be directed at me. Fear of the anger and physical abuse directed at me by my mother. Fear [...]
Turning Anger Into Love
It’s not: I love you but I’m angry with you. It’s: I love you and I’m angry with you. both exist at the same time. remove the anger and what’s left, the Love.—actually, It’s not even: I’m angry with you. it’s more: I’m angry with your Behavior. I can love you and hate your behaviors [...]
Thoughts on Forgiveness
Forgiveness is for you. You carry the pain, and the anger, and the resentment. You keep the grudge going. You are the one with the nasty thoughts. So forgiveness is for you. They may never know you forgave them (sadly, they may not even know you are angry at them). Forgiveness is about removing the [...]
Anger and Crying
If you find that you’re crying and crying, with no relief… it’s probably because you’re also ANGRY… and need to deal with that, as well. If you find that you’re angry and angry, with no relief… it’s probably because you’re also HURT… and need to cry, as well. We had a guy in last weekend’s [...]
Feeling Cocky
It seems that whenever I start to feel COCKY, I get slammed somehow. it’s very strange, but it’s happened a lot of times. – – – Personally proud, and responsible and powerful – – those are all fine. but if I get to feeling actually Cocky — where I think I’m really special in one [...]
Quotes on Anger2
"Any person capable of angering you becomes your master; he can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by him." *Epictetus {50-138 Phrygian Philosopher} "At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled." – Marshall B. Rosenberg "Anger is that powerful internal force that can blow out [...]
Dealing with Anger2
Here’s yet another on Anger: – Healthy ways to deal with Anger Take a time-out. Own your anger. Look at what you could change. Resolve your anger in a healthy way. – Unhealthy ways to deal with Anger. and a rating system for each.
Dealing with Anger
Here’s a 2 part-er re: Dealing with Anger from EQ Coach, Susan Dunn: Understanding AngerWhere it comes fromCan We Ignore it?Can we Accept it?Let It PassUse it (Positively)You manage it, or it manages you read on…Part 1Part 2
Violence = Powerlessness
“I don’t feel verbally angry anymore.” “I don’t feel violently angry anymore.” – Jayne D. (after attending the New Directions Workshop a few times. “All violence comes from feelings of Powerlessness.” – Doc Downing, PhD, LMFT, MSW
Covering Up
Men tend to cover Tears with Anger. Women tend to cover Anger with Tears. – mcp
I am angry…
Q: What does the Bible say about anger? (excerpt) “Answer: Handling anger is an important topic. One experienced counselor stated that 50% of the people who came in for counseling had problems with dealing with their anger. Anger can shatter communication and tear apart relationships and ruins both the joy and health of many. And [...]
New Directions Breakthrough Workshop
Learn to Trust and Love again (even if you’ve been burned) Find Answers to: Why Do I Keep Doing This? Understand Yourself and Others Take control of your Anger, Guilt and Depression Heal your Past and Shape Your Future Make your life FEEL ALIVE! Yes, in one short weekend, for one low price, you can [...]
MORE LESSONS TO LEARN, Apparently!
MORE LESSONS TO LEARN Apparently we have more lessons to learn… All I can figure is that our lives have been painful and hard so far, and they will continue to be such until we HAVE learned what we are supposed to learn about the stuff we are SUPPOSED TO learn. It’s as simple as [...]
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