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EQ Goes Mainstream in Kung Fu Panda 2!

By MattPerelstein on May 31, 2011

Good news! We went to see “Kung Fu Panda 2″ at the matinee yesterday and it was FULL of positive EQ messages! Giving, honor, loving, finding “Inner Peace”, working thru childhood belief systems, confidence, teamwork, etc., etc. I love it when EQ goes Mainstream, and our kids get GOOD examples/lessons, for a change!

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Happiness Quotes

By MattPerelstein on August 24, 2009

"Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket, keep it in your own."   — "Happiness isn't about waiting for the storm to pass…   It's about learning how to dance in the rain" 

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Twitters Away!

By MattPerelstein on June 4, 2009

Ok, sorry, I haven't been posting because I've been Twitterin' and Tweetin'.  It's fun. follow me.  #MattPerelstein (wow, that's a cool statement, "follow me", for that means I have somewhere to take you…  And that I do… follow me… into the depths inside us.  our feelings, our heart, our passions and our soul.)

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Be Honest With Yourself!

By MattPerelstein on November 23, 2008

"No man, for any considerable period, can wear one face to himself, and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which may be true."  - Nathaniel Hawthorne "You cannot fake a relationship and feel right with yourself or anyone else. Changing yourself to fit what you think other people want doesn’t work. [...]

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Inspired Living

By MattPerelstein on November 1, 2008

Together, as Americans, let's create the emotional support network to teach the world that EQ > IQ. Will you help? When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds; your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful [...]

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EQ > IQ !!

By MattPerelstein on November 1, 2008

that's it!that's what I want to say to the world… EQ > IQ !! High IQ is cool.High EQ is better. Feelings are more important than thoughts.Feelings are us.Feelings can and will have more effect on our life.We are our Feelings. And we can actually Make ourselves Smarter about our feelings…… that will effect us [...]

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Propaganda

By MattPerelstein on November 1, 2008

T-shirts for us, not them. I'd like to make "stuff" – T-shirts, cups, pens, etc – with some cool sayings we have. EQ > IQ Feelings are Good! Guilt is Optional. Anger is second. What do you really feel? Don't Eat That, find something better. It's OK to have Boundaries. I am not a Control Freak. [...]

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The terrorists are winning…

By MattPerelstein on October 18, 2008

Our country is a mess. People feel alone. People feel afraid. People feel powerless. Suicide rates are up. The economy is bad, and getting worse. People are really hurting. But, I believe we can do something about it. In general, we Americans are fairly clueless about how to handle, and manage, our Feelings & Emotions, [...]

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Let’s build the safest, most effective Emotional Support Network ever created!

By MattPerelstein on October 14, 2008

10 Premises to Changing the World 1. Emotional Intelligence is the key to happiness, sanity and success in life. (EQ > IQ) 2. We all have 100% control over our choices in what we feel, and how we view the world. 3. It’s more fun if we do this life thing Together. 4. True emotional [...]

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Feelings are a Good Thing!

By MattPerelstein on October 8, 2008

“Character isn’t inherited. One builds it daily by the way one thinks and acts, thought by thought, action by action. If one lets fear or hate or anger take possession of the mind, they become self-forged chains.” – Helen Douglas “Too often we underestimate how quickly our feelings are going to change because we underestimate [...]

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Giving is the key!

By MattPerelstein on October 7, 2008

Aspire to inspire before you expire.

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Believe in Yourself

By MattPerelstein on September 30, 2008

“We cannot rise higher than our thought of ourselves.” – Orison Swett Marden “We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us something is valuable, worth listening to, worthy of our trust, sacred to our touch. Once we believe in ourselves we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience [...]

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Feelings are the Key!

By MattPerelstein on September 26, 2008

Helping you understand how emotions have a direct and profound effect on how well you perform on the job and in life, this book presents great techniques to advance emotional self-awareness and tips on building self-esteem and confidence. – By Jeff Feldman and Karl Mulle (Books24x7) Put Emotional Intelligence to Work: Equip Yourself for Success

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Waving Wednesday

By MattPerelstein on September 24, 2008

The #1 easiest way to bring a smile to someone’s face, with the least effort from you, is to WAVE to them. Yes, just smile a bit and move your hand back and forth, and PRESTO! you could make someone’s day. So, it’s Waving Wednesday. Wave to someone you don’t know. Everyone wins.

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Caring for Ourselves, first

By MattPerelstein on September 22, 2008

When we truly care for ourselves, it becomes possible to care far more profoundly about other people. The more alert and sensitive we are to our own needs, the more loving and generous we can be towards others. – Eda LeShan Anything good for you brings out the best in you and does not force [...]

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Anger Management Skills That Work

By MattPerelstein on September 17, 2008

Anger issues affect individuals from childhood to adulthood, and it is necessary to teach anger management skills that work for every age group. One skill that tends to help people deal with negative emotions is acupressure…. Adopting positive anger management skills might involve keeping a journal…. Removing yourself from a threatening situation might eliminate the [...]

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Get High on Happiness

By MattPerelstein on September 17, 2008

‘Knowing Thyself’ Can Lead to Happiness Powerful tools to a joyous life are being in touch with your inner self, God, and spirituality. Imagine you bought a new car and after six months it starts to get very sluggish. You take it to the mechanic and he recommends a good wash and wax. “What? Are [...]

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Understanding Emotions Improves Our Food Choices

By MattPerelstein on September 16, 2008

Pictures Of Hot Fudge Sundaes Arouse Emotions! Authors Blair Kidwell, David M. Hardesty, and Terry L. Childers (all University of Kentucky) examined the “emotional intelligence” of consumers, including obese people. They found that people who made the healthiest choices had high correlations between their emotional intelligence and confidence in their emotional intelligence—what the authors call [...]

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Who uses Emotional Intelligence in Business?

By MattPerelstein on September 15, 2008

The answer … we all do! Our emotions help us to adapt and make sense of situations. The evidence that an individual’s feelings affects others and that these feelings in turn affect performance highlights the importance of being aware of and managing our emotions. Leaders, salespeople, parents – anyone concerned with their influence on others. [...]

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CEOs Value EQ over IQ

By MattPerelstein on September 15, 2008

“How bosses train to be the best” Generally, CEOs assume there is a certain base level of IQ among all corporate leaders. Most therefore value emotional intelligence (EQ) over IQ as a way of discriminating between great leaders. However, with a few notable exceptions, CEOs do not have a deep understanding of emotional intelligence and [...]

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To love and Be loved

By MattPerelstein on September 12, 2008

There is only one happiness in life: to love and be loved. – George Sand

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Emotions

By MattPerelstein on September 11, 2008

“No other personal characteristic of the Self has such a clear line of connection to the Soul than emotions.” “Anger is a legitimate feeling and emotional expression. We can use anger to help and heal or we can use anger to manipulate and destroy. Anger can distance us from others. Anger can connect us to [...]

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Choices

By MattPerelstein on September 9, 2008

Our lives are a sum total of the choices we have made. – Wayne Dyer This may be new information for some folks! But it’s true that we are where we are, and who we are, due to the choices we have made in the past. We may be pleased with some of them, and [...]

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Learn to be Aware

By MattPerelstein on September 3, 2008

“You can live a lifetime and, at the end of it, know more about other people than you know about yourself.” – Beryl Markham Who am I? What’s important to me? What do I feel strongest about? To answer this, we must first learn to become more aware of ourselves and our feelings. To be [...]

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Spam Posts

By MattPerelstein on September 1, 2008

I’m sorry, but my account it getting spammed, daily. I’m in contact with TypePad tech support, and we’re taking every step to try to stop it, but have been unsuccessful so far. If you’re a Feedblitz subscriber who gets an email of each past, please bear with us as we get this security breach plugged [...]

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Be Kind to Yourself

By MattPerelstein on August 29, 2008

Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order. Ann Wilson Schaef

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2Get, Give!

By MattPerelstein on August 26, 2008

2GiveHelp.com (proposed) 2Give, without Sacrifice 2Give, without Guilt 2Give, without Burden you wanna REALLY enjoy your life… Give. you wanna feel REALLY loved, and appreciated… Give. you want to have TONS of friends, and people who know you and Like you… Give. We can show you how…

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Feelings are the Bomb!

By MattPerelstein on August 13, 2008

I’m gonna make a Bold statement here… are you ready… Our Feelings & Emotions are THE most important thing in our Entire Lives! “Feelings provide us with vital and potentially profitable information every minute of the day. This feedback from the heart, and not the head, is what ignites creative genius, keeps you honest with [...]

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The 7 Steps to Healing our Feelings

By MattPerelstein on July 30, 2008

How to Take Control of your Feelings and Emotions, One Step at a time. By Matt Perelstein July, 2008 Follow these 7 Simple (tho’ not Easy) steps to learn to “Deal with” your feelings & emotions, completely, effectively, and beautifully – 1 Awareness that we do Feel, a Lot: Get a Clue about the importance/depth [...]

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Do yourself a Favor!

By MattPerelstein on July 16, 2008

“You cannot create experience. You must undergo it. “ – Albert Camus, 1913-1960, French Author and Philosopher Wanna do yourself the biggest favor? Want to give yourself the very best possible gift you can? Get yourself to the New Directions workshop this weekend in Fresno, CA. “Ordinarily, everything we do is in our self-interest. Everything.” [...]

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Emotional Intelligence is the key!

By MattPerelstein on July 8, 2008

Less Crazy, More Sane. Less Different, More Same. More Power. Less Blame. More Joy, Less Pain. – mcp

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Emotional Intelligence can Help!

By MattPerelstein on July 7, 2008

“We’re learning that emotional intelligence is an important ingredient in helping professional athletes live healthy and successful lives.” “There is a massive correlation between high EQ skills and life success.” – Gene Upshaw, Executive Director, National Football League NFL Players Association, Emotional Intelligence Helps NFL Players “Win at Life” Improved EQ can help in sports, [...]

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Know Thyself

By MattPerelstein on July 2, 2008

The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change. – Carl Rogers The greatest happiness is to know the source of our unhappiness. – Dostoyevsky

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You can heal your life

By MattPerelstein on June 20, 2008

Awareness is the first step in healing or change. – Louise Hay What we think, and what we believe, is what will come true for us. Our thoughts create our lives. It’s that simple. And when we get that, we can make enormous changes. – Louise Hay “You can heal your life” DVD

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Life Rules

By MattPerelstein on June 18, 2008

Life only has 3 rules Paradox Life is a mystery, don’t waste time trying to figure it out Humor It is a strength beyond all measure. Change Know that nothing stays the same. – Dan Millman, “Way of the Peaceful Warrior”

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Extreme Emotional Makeover – Summer Intensive

By MattPerelstein on June 11, 2008

Announcement: We are sponsoring a powerful program this summer, to show the world how much learning and growth can happen in very short period of time! If you are chosen, you will be given intensive therapy, life coaching, reading materials, 2 weekend workshops, emotional support, and more, to help you BLAST thru your emotional issues [...]

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Happiness — it’s up to you!

By MattPerelstein on June 10, 2008

“If you expect the best, you will be the best. Learn to use one of the most powerful laws in this world; change your mental habits to belief instead of disbelief. Learn to expect, not to doubt. In so doing, you bring everything into the realm of possibility.” – Dr. Norman Vincent Peale “No pessimist [...]

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Emotional Choices

By MattPerelstein on June 9, 2008

Most of us have more choices, emotionally, than we ever thought possible! “When we know that the cause of something is in ourselves, and that we (ourselves) are one of the few things in the universe that we have the right and ability to change, we begin to get a sense of the choices we [...]

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Confrontation: Everyone Hates it!

By MattPerelstein on June 5, 2008

Want to get over your fear of confrontation? Learn how at Emotional Intelligence – Confronting What’s True See also the Blog link on EQ At Work for lots of cool tools and articles re: EQ. … and remember, and Dr. Phil says, “Attitude is Everything!”: Victor Frankel, who faced death daily in a Nazi concentration [...]

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Laughter is good for your body!

By MattPerelstein on June 2, 2008

No Joke: This Is Exercise Laugh away ticker trouble. from here. University of Maryland Medical Center researchers showed 20 healthy adults two movie scenes–one from the comedy Kingpin, the other a battle scene from Saving Private Ryan–while monitoring artery function. After viewing the funny clip, the volunteers’ blood vessels dilated by 22%; they constricted by [...]

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PTSD: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

By MattPerelstein on June 2, 2008

extremely common in soldiers returning from war… from http://www.thesoldiersproject.org Signs of possible trouble (Service Member) Irritability, jumpiness Anger easily and “blow up” at loved ones or friends Feeling hyper-alert, needing to be careful, on the watch for danger Feeling emotionally flat, uninvolved with people, distant Feeling you can’t relate to life around you or to [...]

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Laughter Heals!

By MattPerelstein on June 2, 2008

Your Brain on Laughter How clowning around improves memory, mood, and motivation By Thomas Crook, PhD, Prevention “A good knee-slapper produces a chemical reaction that instantly elevates your mood, reduces pain and stress, and boosts immunity (suppressed by both stress and pain). A recent fMRI study by Allan L. Reiss, MD, and colleagues at Stanford [...]

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Change Your Belief System

By MattPerelstein on May 14, 2008

"All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs. So how do we change? The most effective way is to get your brain to associate massive pain to the old belief. You must feel deep in your gut that not only has this belief cost you pain in the past, but it’s costing you in [...]

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Love is the Answer

By MattPerelstein on May 13, 2008

“Remember, in our innermost being, we are all completely lovable because spirit is love. Beyond what anyone can make you think or feel about yourself, your unconditioned spirit stands, shining with a love nothing can tarnish.” – Deepak Chopra ————————————————————- “When mystics use the word love, they use it very carefully — in the deeply [...]

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Attraction

By MattPerelstein on May 8, 2008

“The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action. They know that love is not a mere sentiment, but the ultimate truth at the heart of the universe.” – Deepak Chopra

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Fear: How to Manage it!

By MattPerelstein on May 8, 2008

When fears arise, use this quick acceptance process: 1. Acknowledge and really feel your fear without judging and criticizing yourself. 2. Ask what it’s there to tell you. Be alert for inner messages that will bring you greater understanding of the situation. 3. Be fully present. Are you okay in this moment? Relax into your [...]

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Find Something Positive!

By MattPerelstein on May 1, 2008

“Make a game of finding something positive in every situation. Ninety-five percent of your emotions are determined by how you interpret events to yourself.” – Brian Tracy

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We’re doing it!

By MattPerelstein on April 27, 2008

New office opens Thursday, May 1, as the 2GetHelp Wellness Center — Yeehaa! MEW Foundation, Inc’s was officially declared as a Corporation by the state of California Secretary of State, and we have a federal tax ID number. Doc Downing, PhD, LMFT, will be our first (and grandest) therapist! We’re officially advertising for additional therapist(s) [...]

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Emotional Specialties

By MattPerelstein on April 18, 2008

2GetHelp Wellness Center Our new center will hereby specialize in the following: – Depression: We have helped so many understand, fight, and win, against their depression, – going from hospital to happy – in only a year or two. This is for the girls, wives and moms of the world. – Anger: Anger has a [...]

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OMG!

By MattPerelstein on April 18, 2008

Nearly 1 in 5 troops has mental problems after war service – Yahoo! News http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20080418/ap_on_go_ca_st_pe/troops_mental_health WASHINGTON – Roughly one in every five U.S. troops who have survived the bombs and other dangers of Iraq and Afghanistan now suffers from major depression or post-traumatic stress, an independent study said Thursday. It estimated the toll at 300,000 [...]

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A new Company is Born!

By MattPerelstein on April 17, 2008

As of yesterday, our new company is here to help show and tell the world about the wonders and joys of Emotional Intelligence!! MEW Foundation, Inc.’s 2GetHelp Wellness Center 2560 West Shaw Lane, Suite 105 Fresno, CA 93711-2777 (559) 431-9995 / (559) 431-9996 (fax) We already have a therapist on staff in the office and [...]

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You Gotta Feel It, to Heal It(2)!

By MattPerelstein on April 10, 2008

“Few are those who see with their own eyes and feel with their own hearts.” – Albert Einstein

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The Meaning of Life

By MattPerelstein on April 3, 2008

Wanna find the Meaning to life? Wanna know the Reason we are here? Wanna find the Answers to life’s great questions? Look inside your heart! When we are totally in-touch with our inner-most feelings, when we truly get to Know ourselves to the deepest depths of our soul, when we find the still and the [...]

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Emotional Awareness

By MattPerelstein on April 2, 2008

“Mindfulness means moment-to-moment, non-judgmental awareness. It is cultivated by refining our capacity to pay attention, intentionally, in the present moment, and then sustaining that attention over time as best we can. In the process, we become more in touch with our life as it is unfolding.” – Myla & Jon Kabat-Zinn a.k.a. Emotional Awareness

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Self-Processing

By MattPerelstein on March 31, 2008

I’m coining a new term, “Self-Processing: The art and skill of Processing yourself and “resolving” your negative feelings. Feeling Resolution is a process. a known, understood, step-by-step process that can be replicated, and measured (well, kinda). Issues = Unresolved feelings and emotions. – Resolving your own personal “life issues”, – Cleaning out your emotional “system” [...]

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I don’t sing because I’m happy; I’M HAPPY because I sing.

By MattPerelstein on March 31, 2008

“I don’t sing because I’m happy; I’m happy because I sing.” – William James, 1842-1910, American Philosopher and Psychologist — “Forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair.” – Kahlil Gibran, 1883-1931, Lebanese Poet and Novelist

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Feeling-based Medications

By MattPerelstein on March 28, 2008

Top 20 Psychiatric Prescriptions for 2005 These are the top 20 psychiatric medications by number of U.S. prescriptions dispensed in 2005. Medication Used for… U.S. Prescriptions 1. Xanax Anxiety 34,230,000 2. Zoloft Depression, anxiety 26,976,000 3. Lexapro Depression, anxiety 24,788,000 4. Prozac Depression, anxiety 21,403,000 5. Ativan Anxiety, panic disorder 19,002,000 6. Effexor XR Depression, [...]

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Let go of past pains!

By MattPerelstein on March 27, 2008

“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you [...]

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Emotional Growth

By MattPerelstein on March 12, 2008

instead of Personal Growth, what if we call it Emotional Growth? it’s more descriptive and ties back in to our area of focus. We’re all about Feelings and Emotions. If you don’t like yours, if you think that Feelings are a bad thing… if you’re in denial about what’s happening inside you… you may want [...]

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About Emotional Intelligence

By MattPerelstein on March 10, 2008

Various definitions: “Emotional intelligence is the ability: to perceive emotions; to access and generate emotions so as to assist thought; to understand emotions and emotional knowledge; and to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth.” Another says there are four parts: 1. Perceive or sense emotions, 2. Use emotions to assist [...]

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Have a Child’s heart, and an Adult’s mind

By MattPerelstein on March 8, 2008

“What a distressing contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and the feeble mentality of the average adult.” – Sigmund Freud ouch… and oh sooo true! that’s why I like to hang around kids better!

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I have a gripe… about Happiness.

By MattPerelstein on March 7, 2008

I read a quote this morning… “Happiness comes only when we push our brains and hearts to the farthest reaches of which we are capable.” – Leo C. Rosten sounds good, right? well, I say, “BULL“. I don’t buy that. I can choose to do nothing whatsoever, and still be totally Happy and at peace. [...]

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It’s up to us, baby!

By MattPerelstein on March 5, 2008

As your eyes open, you’ll see that your state of health, happiness, and every circumstance of your life has been, in large part, arranged by you — consciously or unconsciously.” – Dan Millman — “To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation [...]

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The Ultimate Freedom!

By MattPerelstein on March 2, 2008

“Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us.” – Stephen Covey ————————————————————- “Freedom is what you do with what’s been done to you.” – Jean-Paul Sartre ————————————————————- “One cannot make a slave of a free person, for a free person is free even in [...]

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Attitude is Everything!

By MattPerelstein on February 27, 2008

“Happiness is an attitude of mind, born of the simple determination to be happy under all outward circumstances.” – J. Donald Walters — The last of the human freedoms is to choose one’s attitudes. – Victor Frankl — Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character. – Albert Einstein — “If a person gets his attitude [...]

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Love is about being open!

By MattPerelstein on February 20, 2008

Love is about open arms. If you close your arms about love, you will find that you are left holding only yourself. – Leo Buscaglia Being wide open, at all times, ain’t easy, and frankly it ain’t all that smart, either. Learn how to be open, when the time is right, or even by default, [...]

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I am happy.

By MattPerelstein on February 19, 2008

I have a life. I make a life. every day. I have a great job, the best I’ve ever had. I work part-time, telecommuting from home, it pays well, is challenging, important and resume-enhancing. I run 4 businesses: EucProducts ND – my fave! Computer Consulting building 2GH I have a 700+ post blog, and building [...]

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What is Happiness?

By MattPerelstein on February 12, 2008

Happiness is an Attitude Happiness is a Lifestyle Choice. Happiness is a Way of Being. Happiness is a Skill. Happiness is an Art. Happiness is Classy. Happiness has Style, and Grace, and Beauty. Happiness is Fun, and Silly, and Skippy, and having a Blast, pretty often. Happiness is about Allowing and Releasing Negative Feelings, to [...]

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We Must Teach People How to Be with Us

By MattPerelstein on February 11, 2008

Maxim for life: You get treated in life the way you teach people to treat you. – Wayne Dyer, American Psychotherapist/Author/Lecturer If you think badly of yourself, others will instinctively treat you badly, too. But, if you value yourself, your opinions, your heart and your mind, others will USUALLY treat you the same way.

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Emotions are the next frontier!

By MattPerelstein on February 9, 2008

“By starving emotions we become humorless, rigid and stereotyped; by repressing them we become literal, reformatory and holier-than-thou; encouraged, they perfume life; discouraged, they poison it.” – Joseph Collins ————————————————————- “Emotions are the next frontier to be understood and conquered. To manage our emotions is not to drug them or suppress them, but to understand [...]

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Emotional Intelligence = Taking Control of your Life!

By MattPerelstein on January 30, 2008

The difference between great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively waiting to see where life takes them next. The difference between the two is the difference between living fully and just existing. – Michael E. Gerber The key is a [...]

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Get out of your own muck and help someone else!

By MattPerelstein on January 24, 2008

“An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.” – Martin Luther King, Jr. Tired of your own pain and issues? Try reaching out to help someone else! No matter how bad it is for you, there are always [...]

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Create Your World

By MattPerelstein on January 23, 2008

True brilliance, Matt, is not a function of understanding one’s view of the world and finding order, logic, and spirituality in it. True brilliance is understanding that your view of order, logic, and spirituality is what created your world. And therefore you are forever capable of changing everything. The Universe

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The Bucket List

By MattPerelstein on January 21, 2008

The Bucket List, starring Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman. It is bittersweet because these guys are dying of cancer, but it is also comical as they go about fulfilling the items on their list of what they want to accomplish before they “kick the bucket.” The biggest takeaway: Don’t wait, or waste, another minute! Make [...]

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Love is a friendship caught on fire

By MattPerelstein on January 18, 2008

“Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.” – Bruce Lee ! Love really is the answer. Whatever the question, Love should [...]

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DECIDE to be Happy!

By MattPerelstein on January 17, 2008

“Most people are about as happy as they make up their mind to be.” – Abraham Lincoln Decide, now, that you will do whatever it takes, change whatever you need to, face whatever you need to, to be Happy, finally, in this lifetime. Emotional Intelligence is the key to happiness.

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You Gotta Feel It, to Heal It!

By MattPerelstein on January 15, 2008

“The key is to not resist or rebel against emotions or to try to get around them by devising all sorts of tricks; but to accept them directly, as they are.” – Takahisa Kora “Instead of resisting any emotion, the best way to dispel it is to enter it fully, embrace it and see through [...]

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People are our Mirror

By MattPerelstein on January 13, 2008

“The people we are in relationship with are always a mirror, reflecting our own beliefs, and simultaneously we are mirrors reflecting their beliefs. So relationship is one of the most powerful tools for growth… if we look honestly at our relationships we can see so much about how we have created them.” – Shakti Gawain

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2008 Priorities

By MattPerelstein on January 7, 2008

“Getting in touch with our true selves must be our first priority!” – Tom Hopkins — We know nothing until we know all the ways that we’re not who we should be. Only then do we have a chance at becoming the people we’ve wanted to be, and God intended us to be, from the [...]

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Emotional Criticism

By MattPerelstein on January 2, 2008

“Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business.” – Norman Vincent Peale

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Wanna be Heard?

By MattPerelstein on December 24, 2007

Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care. – Theodore Roosevelt, 1858-1919, 26th President of the United States

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It’s not the Content, it’s the Delivery!

By MattPerelstein on December 20, 2007

My wife and I have an ongoing struggle about this… You see, I get my feelings hurt, pretty easily. Because I “hear” the different inflexions in voice, energy and body language, because I believe I the “see” the rest of what is being said, I often get my feelings hurt, or get angry, at her [...]

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Quotes from Famous People

By MattPerelstein on December 17, 2007

“Truth is like the sun. You can shut it out for a time, but it ain’t goin’ away.” – Elvis Presley “I do not seek. I find.” – Pablo Picasso Wisdom is the supreme part of happiness. – Sophocles “The man who has no imagination has no wings.” – Muhammad Ali

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The ABC’s of Healthy Attitudes

By MattPerelstein on December 14, 2007

void negative sources, people, places, things and habits. Believe in yourself. Consider things from every angle. Don’t give up and don’t give in. Enjoy life to the fullest! Family and friends are hidden treasures; enjoy their company. Give more than you are expected to. Hang on to your dreams. Ignore those who try to discourage [...]

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Ten Ways To Do What You Love

By MattPerelstein on December 14, 2007

1. Do what you love. 2. Provide a service to others who do what you love. 3. Teach others to do what you love. 4. Write about what you love. 5. Speak about what you love. 6. Create a product related to what you love. 7. Sell or broker what you love. 8. Promote what [...]

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Give yourself a Break!

By MattPerelstein on December 14, 2007

“We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that [...]

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I Like My Job

By MattPerelstein on December 11, 2007

George Carlin sayz, “My job is to think up goofy shit, come back here, and report it to you!” I say, “My job is feel emotional shit, and come back here, and report it to you!”

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Awareness is the First Key to Change

By MattPerelstein on December 11, 2007

“Insight occurs when, and to the degree that, one knows oneself.” – Andrew Schneider ————————————————————- “We are not what we know. We are what we are willing to learn.” – Council on Ideas ————————————————————- “The ultimate value of life depends upon awareness and the power of contemplation rather than upon mere survival.” – Aristotle

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Failure to Launch

By MattPerelstein on December 10, 2007

Failure = inability to manage and control your own self, your own body, your own feelings Failure = losing the battle with your inner demons Failure = letting your fears and your stress take over your life and beat you down Failure = allowing the unresolved feelings from your past to ruin your present, and [...]

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How Judging Yourself and Others Can Ruin Your Live

By MattPerelstein on December 5, 2007

How Judging Yourself and Others Can Ruin Your Live By Bernadine Glori Celis I made a big revelation this week. I became aware of how much my judgments were affecting the way I felt about others and myself. I have been in counseling and support groups for many years of my life. I am now [...]

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Turn Barriers Into Bridges

By MattPerelstein on December 5, 2007

Only the person who never gives up in life, who persists with his wish to find and fulfill the promise of himself, makes this truly self-liberating discovery: those places that he once mistook as being impassible barriers to his happiness become as bridges to the same, but only if he learns to welcome them as [...]

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Know Yourself!

By MattPerelstein on December 2, 2007

“Knowing others is wisdom; knowing the self is enlightenment.” – Tao Te Ching “What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself” – Abraham H. Maslow

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Know God

By MattPerelstein on November 29, 2007

The idea of God is different in every person. The joy of my recovery was to find God within me. – Angela L. Wozniak Tho’ we don’t preach, or even teach, about God much, getting closer to yourself – finding your inner peace and removing your blocks to intimacy – allows you to Experience your [...]

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Inspire Me

By MattPerelstein on November 24, 2007

“I learned… that inspiration does not come like a bolt, nor is it kinetic, energetic, striving, but it comes to us slowly and quietly and all the time, though we must regularly and every day give it a little chance to start flowing, prime it with a little solitude and idleness.” – Brenda Ueland Not [...]

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The Season

By MattPerelstein on November 21, 2007

“The truth is that for all the stress surrounding this season, it’s kind of exhilarating when you finally do find just the right present for someone we love, or our home-cooked meal gets oohs and aahs at the table, or we walk through our family’s front door as a grown-up who actually knows our own [...]

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In Control

By MattPerelstein on November 20, 2007

“The most self-destructive thought that any person can have is thinking that he or she is not in total control of his or her life. – Roger Dawson No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to [...]

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Thanks!

By MattPerelstein on November 19, 2007

“What if you gave someone a gift, and they neglected to thank you for it–would you be likely to give them another? Life is the same way. In order to attract more of the blessings that life has to offer, you must truly appreciate what you already have.” – Ralph Marston Give thanks for all [...]

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Should I, or Should I not?

By MattPerelstein on November 18, 2007

“Most people are so busy knocking themselves out trying to do everything they think they should do, they never get around to do what they want to do.” – Kathleen Winsor Bad Shoulds = those that stick in our heads, usually in someone else’s voice but that we don’t want to do… or don’t even [...]

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You Are All You Need to Be!

By MattPerelstein on November 13, 2007

“Everything you need you already have. You are complete right now, you are a whole, total person, not an apprentice person on the way to someplace else.” – Wayne Dyer “Who you really are is enough.” – Oriah Mountain Dreamer “Wherever you are is always the right place. There is never a need to fix [...]

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Leo Buscaglia, A Tribute

By MattPerelstein on November 7, 2007

Only when we give joyfully, without hesitation or thought of gain, can we truly know what love means. – Leo Buscaglia, 1924-1998, American Author and Expert on Love and Human Relationships This is a loving tribute to one of the greatest teachers of LOVE and living Life to the fullest. A Cheerleader for Life! Leo [...]

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EI101.com

By MattPerelstein on November 6, 2007

Just so you’ll know (and it’s easier to refer your friends, hint, hint): We’re now EI101.com This site can now be reached using the address http://www.EI101.com. My intention is to write an emotional intelligence training course called EI101… and follow it with EI102, EI201, EI301 & EI401… all of which I recently registered. stay tuned! [...]

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Are you Teachable?

By MattPerelstein on November 4, 2007

“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.” – Alvin Toffler Part of Emotional Intelligence is about learning about our past, how and what we learned from our parents and our childhood, and how all that still effects us today, [...]

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Emotional Intelligence and the 3 Little Pigs

By MattPerelstein on October 30, 2007

Here’s an interesting article about how Emotional Intelligence, and the study of engineering, can be likened to the story of the 3 little pigs. Very well done… read on. http://www.e-ii.org/3b.asp – Matt

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Change Myself

By MattPerelstein on October 30, 2007

We are absolutely powerless to change others, but we are absolutely powerful to change ourselves. – Doc Downing

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Full Range of Emotions

By MattPerelstein on October 30, 2007

“When you are able to contain both your light and dark together, that is a very enlightening state. It means that you no longer have to choose one experience over another. You do not have to choose love OR hate, blame OR forgiveness, sadness OR joy, anger OR openheartedness. You are no longer polarized; no [...]

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Beyond Beliefs

By MattPerelstein on October 27, 2007

Are you ready to shift some of your core beliefs about who you are and how you fit into the world? Emotional Intelligence is the answer.

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Little You vs. Big You

By MattPerelstein on October 26, 2007

What would the child you once were think of the person you are today? Would your inner child like your outer adult? list your answer in a comment, below.

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Emotional Intelligence can Hurt!

By MattPerelstein on October 24, 2007

Self-knowledge and self-improvement are very difficult for most people. It usually needs great courage and long struggle. – Dr. Abraham Maslow It’s true. Emotional growth can be damned uncomfortable! By definition, trying something new and pushing yourself to new heights is gonna be awkward, uneasy, even painful and unpleasant at times. Get used to it. [...]

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Be Honest with Yourself

By MattPerelstein on October 17, 2007

Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship we need to maintain. The quality of that relationship will determine the quality of all our other relationships. When we can tell ourselves how we feel, and accept our own feelings, we can be real with others. When we can accept what we want and need, [...]

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Don’t Give Up!

By MattPerelstein on October 17, 2007

Often the difference between a successful person and a failure is not one has better abilities or ideas, but the courage that one has to bet on one’s ideas, to take a calculated risk – and to act. – Andre Malraux I know quite certainly that I myself have no special talent; curiosity, obsession & [...]

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Big People

By MattPerelstein on October 17, 2007

“Really big people are, above everything else, courteous, considerate and generous – not just to some people in some circumstances – but to everyone all the time.” – Thomas J. Watson, Sr. Why? Because it FEELS GOOD to be courteous, considerate and generous! Try it. It’s fun!

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What Are Feelings For?

By MattPerelstein on October 11, 2007

What is the purpose of our Feelings & Emotions? (leave your answer in a comment below)

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All Feelings are Good!

By MattPerelstein on October 7, 2007

“What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance, is understanding fear; that means, watch it, learn about it, come directly into contact with it. We are to learn about fear, not how to escape from it.” – Jiddu Krishnamurti “All feelings are good!” – Cal Banyan

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Emotional Choices

By MattPerelstein on October 7, 2007

“Freedom of choice is more to be treasured than any possession earth can give.” – David O. McKay Right on, David! and Emotional Intelligence gives you MORE CHOICES on how you react and how you behave and how you SUCCEED! “What man wants is simply independent choice, whatever that may cost and wherever it may [...]

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Emotional Awareness

By MattPerelstein on September 30, 2007

Awareness is the first key to all change! “Relative to the level of awareness that is possible for us, our ordinary state of consciousness is as far from a direct experience of reality as sleep is from waking consciousness.” – Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson “The thought ‘I exist’ is not the same thing [...]

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What is Happiness?

By MattPerelstein on September 22, 2007

I liked this article and thought it was a very good way of explaining what Happiness is… “I have found that happiness is not something we look for and not something that is “out there” or out of our reach. Rather, it is about being present with what IS. It is about being grateful for [...]

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Emotional Safety

By MattPerelstein on September 16, 2007

Creating Emotional Safety within an aware, loving group of people is one of the most amazing feelings one can possibly experience, and one of the very BEST ways to heal, quickly and effectively! “A group of humans becomes healing and converting only after its members have learned to stop trying to heal and convert. Community [...]

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10 Steps to Unlocking “The Secret”

By MattPerelstein on September 15, 2007

Here are some steps to take to get more Abundance into your life: 1. Clear Your Mind 2. Decide What You Want 3. Ask For It 4. Visualize Having It 5. Express and Feel Gratitude 6. Let Go of Control 7. Stay Positive 8. Be Patient 9. Invite It In 10. Share the Wealth by [...]

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Translating

By MattPerelstein on September 11, 2007

I’ve found that the Language of Emotional Intelligence is different than regular English, spoken on the streets and in our homes and workplaces. People say things like: “I feel…” “I believe…” “How am I not being clear?” “I hear you.” “I’m listening.” “How can I be clearer so you’ll understand better?” and the language of [...]

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The Other Energy Crises, by Jon Gordon

By MattPerelstein on September 9, 2007

The Other Energy Crises Powerful article on how emotional intelligence (EQ) in the workplace, again, is more important than IQ! “Today’s employees are under-engaged, overtired and overstressed. The fact is that enhanced energy, success and performance cannot be found in a can of Red Bull or a cup of espresso. Instead of being energy drainers, [...]

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Be a Great Leader – Know yourself and your Peeps

By MattPerelstein on August 31, 2007

All great leaders have one characteristic in common – they have a high degree of Emotional Intelligence. – Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence, 1995

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Emotional Success, the movie

By MattPerelstein on August 30, 2007

Personal Success – a young dude, maybe 17 or 18. hand on door, to step inside — himself! – – show him reliving certain childhood events that were big for him, emotionally, – – – watch him stuff his feelings, and deny them, and gloss over them – – – – then watch his unresolved [...]

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Animator vs Animation

By MattPerelstein on August 30, 2007

Check out this movie… just for fun… very clever!  Enjoy.  – Matt The Animator vs. his Animationhttp://alanbecker.deviantart.com/art/Animator-vs-Animation-34244097 Animator vs. Animation by *alanbecker on deviantART

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You are not alone!

By MattPerelstein on August 30, 2007

Our first and last love is – self-love. – Bovee It’s all about you! It’s all about love. It’s all about you, loving you. If you cannot, or do not, love yourself, how can you ask someone else to do something you are unwilling to do? Find love for yourself within yourself. Ask your Higher [...]

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Super-Learning Mode

By MattPerelstein on August 24, 2007

"Learn everything you can, anytime you can, from anyone you can – there will always come a time when you will be grateful you did." – Sarah Caldwell Learning is fun.  Learning is free (usually).  Learning is life.  Learn-learn-learn! My favorite clients/friends are in what I call "Super-Learning Mode".  It’s a state, often immediately following [...]

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I’m Scared.

By MattPerelstein on August 20, 2007

I’m really scared.  I’m scared that people are hurting out there, and we have some keys to healing, but they don’t know that, and keep on hurting because of us.  Because of our inability to sum it up, and get the point across.  succinctly, powerfully and life-changingly. We don’t even have much for sale.We’re not [...]

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Pay Attention to your Emotions!

By MattPerelstein on August 19, 2007

"Emotions are the next frontier to be understood and conquered. To manage our emotions is not to drug them or suppress them, but to understand them so that we can intelligently direct our emotional energies and intentions…. It’s time for human beings to grow up emotionally, to mature into emotionally managed and responsible citizens. No [...]

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Fear can ruin your life!

By MattPerelstein on August 13, 2007

Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world. -Ralph Waldo Emerson As I’ve said many times before, I believe that FEAR has ruined more lives, and more relationships, than anger has! Fear is sneeky. Fear is quiet. Fear is subtle. Anger is LOUD and obvious and usually obnoxious. You can easily [...]

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Emotional Maturity

By MattPerelstein on August 10, 2007

IMAGES OF MOMMY — an example of emotional maturity   4 YEARS OF AGEMy Mommy can do anything! 8 YEARS OF AGEMy Mom knows a lot! A whole lot! 12 YEARS OF AGEMy Mother doesn’t really know quite everything. 14 YEARS OF AGENaturally, Mother doesn’t know that either. 16 YEARS OF AGEMother? She’s hopelessly old-fashioned. [...]

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Feelings are the truth

By MattPerelstein on July 29, 2007

If you don’t live in your feelings, you don’t live in the real world.  Feelings are the truth.  What you do with them will decide whether you live in honesty or by a lie.  Using defenses to try to manage feelings may distort your perception of the truth, but it does not alter the truth.  [...]

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I don’t get angry, I get even (a joke)

By MattPerelstein on July 27, 2007

Here is a great definition of Passive-Aggressive Behavior. I think this is also a good example of: I don’t get angry, I get even. CURTAIN RODS—- PRICELESS She spent the first day packing her belongings into boxes, crates and suitcases. On the second day, she had the movers come and collect her things. On the [...]

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Emotional Results

By MattPerelstein on July 17, 2007

Commit to yourself that you will persue a course of Emotional Intelligence and understanding. Give it a few years (2-4) and I guarentee results.  massive, life-enhancing, incredible results. Depending on how deep and ingrained your "issues" are, it may take as many as 5 or even 7 years.  but so what? do you have something [...]

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Feeling Safe

By MattPerelstein on July 10, 2007

“Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are — chaff and grain together — certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with the breath [...]

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High Emotional Intelligence v. Low Emotional Intelligence

By MattPerelstein on July 2, 2007

Examples of High v. Low EQ————————–chill v. tensionpatience v. stressacting (non-reacting) v. reactinghurry without rushingpersistance v. flitting aboutgiving in v. giving uplistening v. yappingventing v. dumping uponyour own shoulds v. other people’s shouldspersonal responsibility v. blaming / victimknowing what you can control v. what you cannotknowing what’s your problem v. what’s NOT your problemmeditating v. [...]

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Building a Healthy Self-Esteem

By MattPerelstein on June 12, 2007

Building a Healthy Self-Esteem (article) http://www.happynews.com/news/672007/building-healthy-self-esteem.htm Here’s a good article on being "real" with your kid. Positive, definitely. Over-Positive, no. (but over-positive still beats over-negative!).  Here are some excerpts from this article so you’ll get the point… "Few things are more important to a child’s personal growth than having a healthy self-esteem. We help our [...]

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Benefits of Emotional Intelligence (2)

By MattPerelstein on May 30, 2007

"Does emotional intelligence help boost sales, improve customer satisfaction, reduce turnover, increase safety, and enhance productivity?" by Joshua Freedman, EQ Teacher, extraordinaire! . Sales When I ask sales people in all kinds of businesses for the key to their effectiveness, the first answer is "relationships." So if emotional intelligence is essential to building good relationships, [...]

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It’s Official…

By MattPerelstein on May 23, 2007

. EQ > IQ  !! .

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Contentment

By MattPerelstein on May 20, 2007

"The world is full of people looking for spectacular happiness while they snub contentment." – Doug Larson right on!  Contentment is a Wonderful thing!  It seems like it takes older age to appreciate the true value in Contentment, to know that it can be the worthiest of goals. It doesn’t always have to be Exciting… [...]

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Let Go, Let God

By MattPerelstein on May 18, 2007

"When we know that love matters more than anything, and we know that nothing else REALLY matters, we move into the state of surrender. Surrender does not diminish our power, it enhances it." – Sara Paddison … and, some of the bravest acts I’ve ever witnessed were those of total Surrender. It takes incredible Emotional [...]

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Emotional Intelligence Defined

By MattPerelstein on May 17, 2007

emotional intelligence n. Intelligence regarding the emotions, especially in the ability to monitor one’s own or others’ emotions. The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2003.

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Personal Responsibility is a Key

By MattPerelstein on May 3, 2007

"It doesn’t matter how you come to it…just that you do: Finally recognize that no one is responsible for your life but you." – Oprah Winfrey If you blame, whine, complain and otherwise victimize yourself, you are giving your power away.  Take control of your own life by taking full responsibility for who you are, [...]

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Are you a Believer or a Doubter?

By MattPerelstein on April 23, 2007

"If you expect the best, you will be the best. Learn to use one of the most powerful laws in this world; change your mental habits to belief instead of disbelief. Learn to expect, not to doubt. In so doing, you bring everything into the realm of possibility." – Dr. Norman Vincent Peale Stop and [...]

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Take Time To Trust

By MattPerelstein on April 22, 2007

Oftentimes leaders attempt to quantify or qualify the time they spend with their staff or even their children!  We hear, “I invested hours of quality time to train that individual”, or “It takes years of dedicated training to produce a worthy employee”, or even “I’m such an awesome leader that I don’t even need to [...]

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Compassion and Understanding

By MattPerelstein on April 4, 2007

t "When we experience the pain of another person, we instinctively want to take away that pain. But by taking away the other person’s pain, we also take away his or her opportunity to grow. To be truly compassionate, we must be able to share another person’s suffering and pain — knowing there is nothing [...]

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Emotional Myths

By MattPerelstein on April 3, 2007

Myth 1: Emotions are more primitive than reason. Emotions originate in the brain just like reason, even though you might feel them in your heart or in your gut. They are equally valid when making decisions, the key to making informed decisions it to consult both sides of your brain. Myth 2: Clamping down on [...]

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Self-Evaluation

By MattPerelstein on March 30, 2007

Emotional Intelligence Self-Evaluation Assessment Measures: Emotional Awareness Managing One’s Emotions Self-Motivation Empathy Coaching Others’ Emotions Take the 30-question test here: http://ed.swau.edu/England/handouts/emotional_intelligence_self-evaluation.pdf

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Benefits of Emotional Intelligence

By MattPerelstein on March 25, 2007

1. Better communication skills Powerful, not wimpy. Strong and able to be tough, without being Cold. With personal Boundaries and the strength and tools to uphold them. 2. Heightened Self-Awareness "Depression is Anger turned Inward." "When we feel Guilty, we’ll set ourselves up to be Punished." "Negative emotions, expressed verbally as intensely as they are [...]

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How to be Happy

By MattPerelstein on March 15, 2007

Remember the five simple rules to being Happy:      1. Free your heart from hatred.     2. Free your mind from worries.     3. Live simply.     4. Give more.     5. Expect less.

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John Bradshaw

By MattPerelstein on March 12, 2007

John Bradshaw is one of my biggest heroes, and has personally made a huge difference in my growth and healing… See a list of his many works here. Thanks, John!

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Take Control of your Life (2)

By MattPerelstein on March 12, 2007

3 Big Questions who am I? — – — – — Heal pain and anger from your past. now what? — – — – — Get a grip on the present. then what? — – — – — Create the future of your choosing. Answer those, and your life is yours.

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Depression Help

By MattPerelstein on March 5, 2007

Help with Depression http://www.depression.com/getting_support.html Mood Gym: Depression help, CBT re: depression, no charge. has characters! http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/ Depression Questionnaire 16 multiple choice questions, no assessment http://www.depression.com/depression_questionnaire.html Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance(formerly the National Depressive and Manic-Depressive Association )730 North Franklin, Suite 501Chicago, IL 60601-7204Toll-free: (800) 826-3632E-mail: chapters@dbsalliance.org http://www.dbsalliance.org/ National Alliance for the Mentally Ill (NAMI)Colonial Place [...]

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The Secret Movie 30 Day Challenge

By MattPerelstein on February 28, 2007

Make a commitment NOW to make the next month, March 2007, a month of real, quantifiable change and growth in your life! Take the 30 day challenge, based on the life-changing movie The Secret, and "manifest" something New and DIFFERENT and Cool in your life, now. Link: The Secret Movie 30 Day Challenge.  (lead by [...]

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Emotional Quotient Defined

By MattPerelstein on February 27, 2007

Unlike intelligence quotient IQ, which is relatively fixed after seventeen years of age, emotional quotient EQ can be enhanced throughout your life. When you enhance your emotional quotient, you increase your chance of success in the countless roles you play each day. When you develop your emotional quotient, you learn to understand yourself and others [...]

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Feelings and Emotion Defined

By MattPerelstein on February 16, 2007

Research on "Feelings"View results from: Dictionary | Thesaurus | Encyclopedia | All Reference | the Web —Synonyms: Feeling, emotion, passion, sentiment refer to pleasurable or painful sensations experienced when one is stirred to sympathy, anger, fear, love, grief, etc. —————-Research on "Emotion"View results from: Dictionary | Thesaurus | Encyclopedia | All Reference | the Web [...]

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Heal Feelings – Do What it Takes!

By MattPerelstein on February 15, 2007

You cannot begin your healing journey without the willingness to do so. Without the willingness to do whatever it takes to heal from your wounded self, you will not begin the journey of healing and evolving your soul. “Doing whatever it takes” means that you are ready and willing to feel, understand and take full [...]

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The Secret, a movie – Watch it!

By MattPerelstein on February 7, 2007

Watch the movie, The Secret. imho, one of the best personal growth movies of all time (in the same arena as ‘What the Bleep’). http://www.TheSecret.TV $4.95, 90 minutesTrailer version, 2 min: http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=1443364536882886742 "Who you are today is a sum total of what you have ALREADY thought and felt." – Jack Canfield, "Chicken Soup for the [...]

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#1 Top Life Skills

By MattPerelstein on January 27, 2007

#1 Most Powerful Interpersonal Communication Skill: Shut Up and Listen #1 Most Important Relationship in Life: Your relationship with Yourself #1 Best Thing you can do for you and your family’s Present and Future: Increase your Emotional Intelligence #1 Deepest, most life-trashing, relationship-blasting, sex-ruining, self-esteem-bashing, hopeless event we can experience: Being molested or violated as [...]

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Take Control of your Life!

By MattPerelstein on January 2, 2007

"The difference between great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively waiting to see where life takes them next. The difference between the two is the difference between living fully and just existing." – Michael E. Gerber heck yeah!thanks, Kristin for [...]

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Contribution to Peace

By MattPerelstein on December 24, 2006

I contribute to peace…  (author unknown) I contribute to Peace when I strive to express the best of myself in my contacts with others. I contribute to Peace when I use my intelligence and my abilities to serve the Good. I contribute to Peace when I feel compassion toward all those who suffer. I contribute [...]

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EQ Rocks!

By MattPerelstein on December 22, 2006

More Happiness, Less Humbug -Strategies To Beat The Holiday Blahs http://www.eqatwork.com/eqblog/?p=55 Joseph Liberti, founder of EQ At Work

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The 3 Parts of our Brains

By MattPerelstein on December 20, 2006

(i thought this was fascinating… the brain has 3 parts, including an Emotional center.  A good friend sent this to me so I’ll have to find out the source for you) “Who Are You? 101 Ways of Seeing Yourself” Author – Malcolm Godwin. Georgiades Ivanovitch Gurdjieff, the charismatic Armenian mystic & teacher, maintained that human [...]

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Laughter Really is Contagious!

By MattPerelstein on December 14, 2006

Laughter really is contagious, a new study of the brain finds:http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/16177354/ “It seems that it’s absolutely true that ‘laugh and the whole world laughs with you,’” said Sophie Scott, a neuroscientist at the University College London. “We usually encounter positive emotions, such as laughter or cheering, in group situations, whether watching a comedy program with [...]

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Unfinished Business

By Guest on December 11, 2006

On the drive home tonight a comment made by Doc clicked with a comment I had made to Matt to come up with an interesting realization (believe me, interesting was not the first phrase that came to mind).  For as long as I remember my dad has been angry and expressed that anger verbally and [...]

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< Matt's Stuff

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on December 8, 2006

hey, I just noticed that MANY of our 2GHers, and NDers, are Currently seeing a Therapist!so maybe we could talk to other therapists,or at least say, "hey, therapy too slow for you?""want to augment your therapy?""want to SPEED UP your therapy?""want to GO DEEPER, Faster?" come to ND. people who are Already doing the work. [...]

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Thoughts on Anger (4)

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on December 7, 2006

"Adults who are most effective in helping children manage anger model responsible management by acknowledging, accepting, and taking responsibility for their own angry feelings and by expressing anger in direct and non-aggressive ways. When children are embroiled in an anger-arousing interaction, parents & teachers can help by listening without judging, evaluating or ordering them to [...]

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Thoughts on Anger (3)

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on December 7, 2006

It’s official… I now have an official title, that I can put on my resume… I’m a "Provocateur". One who pisses others off. an instigator. I was reading an excellent article on Anger, and it said "… some children express anger with aggressive revenge by physically or verbally retaliating against the provocateur." that’s me.  the [...]

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Thoughts on Anger (2)

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on December 6, 2006

so what’s up with that? why do I go around Pissing people off so?         is it just ’cause they pay me to?                 or do I get some perverse pleasure out of it?                         (well, I have to admit, it [...]

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Thoughts on Anger

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on December 6, 2006

I’m not really asking for anything.this stuff just comes to me, so I report it to you. I have been blessed to have a ton of experience in the area of intense emotional expression — face-to-face, with pillow in hand. In fact, I’d venture to say that after 20 years of teaching ND, I have [...]

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Thoughts on Judgments

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on December 6, 2006

It takes no strength to be Judgmental and critical. it takes no courage, either. it takes no class. it takes no style. it takes no brains. it takes no muscle. Cutting someone down doesn’t make you any more equal to them.  and it doesn’t make you better than them.         in fact, it [...]

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Laughter Yoga (again)

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on December 2, 2006

"God is a comedian, playing to an audience too afraid to laugh. " – Voltaire how sad is that?!?  and I believe it’s true. Check out a Laughter Yoga Club near you!  Or do like I’m gonna do… start your own Laughter Yoga Club.  I just found this concept and this site yesterday, and it [...]

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Get Psych Help

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on December 2, 2006

wow, you guys gotta check out this site. they have a bunch of quizzes (which I highly recommend, because AWAREness is the first key to change!) a Rate ‘n Review section about different meds and techniques. a Support Community (which we have, but you can’t have too much support.) news and articles. (hint: use their [...]

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What if

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on December 1, 2006

What if our disorders are really all emotion-based.That would mean that we are totally in control of our disorders, wouldn’t it. What if, by changing our emotions, we could actually change our body.What if by healing our emotions, we could heal our body. and rid ourselves of dis-ease and dis-orders. what if…

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Laughter Yoga

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on December 1, 2006

Check this out… Exercise your body and your Feelings at the same time!  great idea. This is Laughter Yoga, a sidesplitting new fitness fad that’s part traditional yoga, part improv and all silliness. "”Most people think they have to feel good first in order to laugh. But you can start from nothing, you can even [...]

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Who am I?

By Guest on December 1, 2006

I am your constant companion. I will push you forward to success or I will drag you down to failure. I am completely at your command. 80% of what you do, you might as well hand over to me and I will do it promptly and I will do it correctly. I am easily managed; [...]

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Self Worth

By Guest on November 26, 2006

What other people think about me and the value they place on me has always been very important.  It was the only way that I could accept that I was a valuable person.  In order to make me invaluable, I never said no and spent all of my time learning and mastering new skills.  Instead [...]

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Emotional Intelligence – Defined

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on November 23, 2006

Below are the 5 aspects of Emotional Intelligence that need to be Mastered.

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Shoulds can be Good or Bad

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on November 22, 2006

We’ve been saying that "Shoulds are bad". period. but I have another take on that… I say that there are good Shoulds and bad Shoulds. Good shoulds are shoulds that you agree with… I should brush my teeth. I should change my oil every 3,000 miles. I should get up and pick-up the baby. I [...]

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Talking to Yourself

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on November 21, 2006

Some say you’re crazy if you talk to yourself… well, I don’t see how you could NOT talk to yourself! for us to understand our very Thoughts, they must be formed into some kind of ‘words’.  something that makes sense to us.  Isn’t Thinking then, just a form of Talking? we talk to ourselves CONSTANTLY… [...]

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Feeling IQ

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on November 4, 2006

Ok, here’s my new term for all the lessons we teach:  Feeling IQ.  As you may know about me, I have been trying for years to find the right words to NAME what it is that we do, the concepts we teach, the movement we believe in.  You know how the internet is just a [...]

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Boundaries are Essential Tools!

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on September 26, 2006

TEACH PEOPLE how to do Boundariesawesome parenting tip    teach your young kids to Stick their Tongue Out at people, when the time is right.  especially smaller, wimpier kids.  This is a Personal Power exercise. that means: I reject you.I push you away.I disagree with you, and/or your assessment of me.I disregard you.I don’t care [...]

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Depression can be a Tool!

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on September 26, 2006

I don’t get depressed anymore.  not ever.  unless by my direction. I will sometimes Shut Down my feelings, on purpose, to rest, to rejuvenate, to come back Stronger and Clearer. … but I don’t ever get depressed, fer real. Use Depression as a Tool, not a Weakness. An Asset, not a Disease! Depression is a [...]

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Write Your Own Rules

By Guest on September 21, 2006

            Dr. Wayne Dyer when accepting his Einstein award defined the Philosophy of Relativity to the audience by commenting on his baldness.  Dr. Dyer is almost completely bald but stated that if you found the same amount of hair in a bowl of soup that it would be a lot of hair.  [...]

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The Secret is Out: Feelings are the Key to Happiness!

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on September 14, 2006

I just watched the movie: "The Secret".  Incredibly powerful message there! In the movie, they make a strong point that:"Feelings are the Key to Happiness!"  and I so totally AGREE! However, in order to manage our feelings, we first have to be "in touch" with our Feelings! Feelings can be mighty confusing at times.  Need [...]

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We have Choices! LOTS of Choices!

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on August 15, 2006

"By becoming a conscious choice-maker, you begin to generate actions that are evolutionary for you." – Deepak Chopra GOOD NEWS:  You probably have way more Choices, emotionally, than you ever thought possible!! You can Choose to be Happy.    You can Choose to NOT be a victim.  You can Choose to let go of your [...]

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eBook Development

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on August 5, 2006

Taming the Beast Within"Harness the power of your feelings & emotions to become a great Friend, a passionate Lover and a profoundly Happy Person." New Book Development Outline… Top 10 Lessons — tell at least 1 story in each oneIntroduction- Success comes from Happiness, not the other way around- Wanna be rich?  wanna be happy?  [...]

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Emotional Quotient

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on July 26, 2006

The baddest EQ site on the internet: http://www.6seconds.org/ "Emotional intelligence is critical to leadership, learning, and organizational performance. Learn from the leaders in the field how to raise your and others’ emotional intelligence. Gain an in-depth understanding of emotional intelligence as you develop new tools you can put to work immediately."

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EQ for Families

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on July 24, 2006

EQ for Families  (EQ = Emotional Quotient or Emotional Intelligence, imho one of THE most important skills you can learn as a parent!)http://www.6seconds.org/family/ Workshop One: Emotional Literacy — “The Power of Feelings.” Help your children recognize and use emotions to increase self-awareness and compassion.  (FREE if you’re willing to spread the word, and give feedback). [...]

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Let Yourself Feel

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on July 19, 2006

"And though the tears fall, I am okay." a quote I read today on our online support group from a young lady who was remembering her Mom as she slipped away.  … so short, so beautiful… and says so much… it’s about:Power.Allowing.Identification.Release.Hope.Sadness.Joy.Self-Esteem.Faith.Trust.Life. wow.  it says it all.- Matt

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7 Steps to Healing your Feelings

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on July 18, 2006

Follow these 7 simple (tho’ sometimes not Easy) steps to learn to "Deal with" your feelings & emotions. Notice that you DO feel (many deny the whole concept) Identify ‘em. Helps to put a name to them, and to understand yourself to a much greater depth. Accept ‘em. Yes. They are there, and they are [...]

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Learning about your Feelings!

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on July 11, 2006

Hi Matt – I just wanted to say thanks for the information you have been sending me.  I have been struggling through a "growth" period of life, and I have really been having a hard time sorting a lot of stuff out. Learning about my feelings and how to interpret them has really helped. I [...]

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Feelings can be damned Uncomfortable

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on July 10, 2006

By definition, feelings get REPRESSED because they’re too damned Uncomfortable to get Expressed.  Whatever the reason for repressing our feelings like: we’d ‘get in trouble’ for being angry or sad we’d be laughed at or humiliated for expressing ourselves we were specifically told NOT TO express ourselves we were guilted into it, or not shown [...]

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Loving Fearlessly

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on June 19, 2006

"When we love fearlessly, we can experience our feelings in all their depth and passion without letting them control us. We can recognize that feelings are not facts, they are reactions to the world." – Coach Rhonda Britten, ‘Fearless Loving’http://www.fearlessliving.org/shop_online/merchandise/books/fearless_loving

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Ego is the Enemy of Self-Awareness

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on June 16, 2006

As I have grown emotionally, I’ve found that I am severely co-dependent, fairly wimpy, sometimes mean, have ADHD, and often lost and lack direction.  ouch. "Enlightenment is ego’s ultimate disappointment." – Chögyam Trungpa Think about it, it’s true!  As you learn more and more about yourself — about your issues, your "unconscious mechanisms", your pet [...]

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Tired of being Scared & Shy all the time?

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on June 4, 2006

Fear can be so pervasive. Are you sick and tired of feeling scared, afraid or fearful every day? That can get sooo old!  Worried about other people — what they think of you, what they might do to you, how they might react to you.  It can totally ruin your life experience.  I used to [...]

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Selling Success vs. Happiness

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on June 2, 2006

It’s a tough sale, selling "feelings" and "happiness".  It’s much easier to sell "Success", "Career Advancement", "Increased Sales" or "Business Advancement", as these all make people more money. Just being "happier" and "Feeling better" seem too mushy and intangible, I guess.  I can show you example after example of how people who have gotten better [...]

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How to Reduce Stress!

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on June 1, 2006

Did you know that most of our STRESS is due to either unresolved Fear or Anger? That’s great news, I think! That means that all we need to do is be able to handle our fears and our angers and we can live pretty Stress-free from here on. Fear is about the Future. We’re not [...]

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Enjoy Your Choice!

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on March 31, 2006

ENJOY YOUR CHOICE! When people "give their power away" by thinking a situation is out of their control when, in fact, it is about a decision they have made, it creates a lot of anxiety and unhappiness.  If people can re-frame the situation and really "get" that it is a decision that they made (and [...]

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Where people go 2GetHelp!

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on March 17, 2006

Are you sick and tired of living in pain?Is your past haunting your present?Do you feel out-of-control, emotionally? Problem: You want to feel better about yourself, your past, your family and your life. Solution:We help people who are stuck in their feelings (like anger or sadness or fear), whose feelings are "shut down", who are [...]

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Parenting Tips

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on March 12, 2006

Here are some powerful Parenting Tips, by Drena. 1)  Don’t take anything personally. What your children do is part of developing (unless there are larger issues at hand) in a healthy way. Children will guilt you, bribe you, blackmail you, shun you, manipulate you, bargain with you…. your job is to not give in. 2)  [...]

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Choices

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on March 9, 2006

Choices Current mood: contemplative God gave me air, but it is my choice to breathe. Life is full of choices, and living life is one of them. One of the most important decisions I have ever made was to live. Really live. I also get to choose my reality. Many may disagree, but my reality [...]

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Boundary maintenance

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on February 12, 2006

Day 25 of 100:  Boundary maintenance is not about Drama. Drama is actually DISrespected, and easily DIScounted. Powerful use of voice, energy, body language, feelings, eyes, THAT’s what’s Respected. You don’t show them all you’ve got, until it’s time.but you also let them know it’s NOTHING to mess with. If you live an emotionally unsafe [...]

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Parenting

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on January 29, 2006

5 P’s of Parenting Be Patient. The frustration will pass but this will be your child for the rest of your life. Be the Parent. Your child will find and develop friends. But he or she desperately needs a parent. Be Practical. Your expectations and demands should challenge but not exceed your child’s ability. Be [...]

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The opposite of Fear is Faith.

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on January 19, 2006

Day 3 of 100: Faith The opposite of Fear is Faith. We only seem to be afraid of what MIGHT happen in the future.- we might get hurt- we might fall- we might be left behind- etc. We are usually NOT afraid if we believe that things are going to work out Ok. That’s called [...]

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Feelings are the Key

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on January 14, 2006

Who is our Target Market? Well, I say the question is not about the Target Market. Target markets can be limiting in this case, because we really do have a Universal message to tell. Some are more local, some are to a select group, or a specific type of ailment… but we’re about ALL Ailments. [...]

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Go Get Some Help

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on January 13, 2006

"Spiritual growth is not made in reaction against, for all striving against imposed restrictions is imaginary. Spiritual growth is accomplished by inclination toward. We grow like the sunflower, following the light." – Joy Houghton spiritual growth will probably NOT just happen to you… you’ll have to go looking for it… and once you do, you’ll [...]

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Giving = Living

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on January 13, 2006

… we are ahead of the curve here, ladies. No one, anywhere, has figured out the Answers that we have… that so many are seeking. Why are we here?To love and feel loved. What is my purpose?To help ourselves, and others, feel as loved as we possibly can, while we’re here. How come I’m all [...]

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Deep Feeling, Deep Healing

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on December 4, 2005

Troubles with Intimacy? "What often keeps a person "intimacy-impaired" as an adult are the hurts and conclusions of childhood. True updating, beyond mere behavioral changes, requires regressing to the original feeling state." "Deep Feeling, Deep Healing"The Heart, Mind, and Soul of Getting Well– Andy Bernay-Roman book book review "How does stored pain (trauma) relate to [...]

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4 Steps to Learning

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on December 2, 2005

The 4 Steps to Learning———————– There are a few basic steps to learning every subject, especially making changes in our personal growth and development.1. Unconsciously Incompetent “We don’t know that we don’t know.” In this state of awareness, we are simply unaware that one or more of our behaviors is unsuccessful. We just bump along, [...]

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“Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart”

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on November 30, 2005

From a great book of essays written by a psychiatrist Gordon Livingston, Vietnam vet, parent twice bereaved, lost his oldest son to suicide and his youngest to leukemia. The book is entitled "Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart." He has written about 30 bedrock truths: 1. If the map doesn’t agree with the ground, the [...]

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Emotional Shopping

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on November 9, 2005

Here’s a good article on the connection between Shopping and our emotions. “Some people shop because they’re unhappy … or giddy, or anywhere in between. But retail therapy can leave your budget in sad shape.” Interesting experiment: “Lerner and her co-researchers showed subjects three emotion-inducing movie clips — one revolting, one depressing, one neutral — [...]

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Intro to L.J.

By MattPerelstein on November 6, 2005

~It’s almost 2:40 am and I can’t sleep.  The past few days have been intense for me, and maybe that’s why I can’t sleep.  I have been sick, overwhelmed and busy…and in the midst of it all, I have gained a complete sense of clarity that I used to believe only happened when I asked [...]

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Emotional Tools

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on November 6, 2005

You have 3 main Tools at your disposal. Your Body.Your Mind.Your Heart. I can’t teach you much about your body. I’m not that great at taking care of mine, tho mine does work pretty well for me. I can help with your Mind. The wonderful thing is that "WE CHOOSE TO THINK" so we can [...]

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Feelings are Life!

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on November 1, 2005

since I took my keyboard apart the other day and cleaned it, the . key hasn’t been working properly and this has been interesting for meto get it to work, I have to SLAM the . KEY harder….. whap, whap, whap.it builds tension.irritation.tick (doesn’t work) so Wham. (that works, but it’s irritating and requires more [...]

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Feelings Toward Yourself

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on October 31, 2005

"It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others." – Sydney J. Harris "There is no freedom like seeing myself as I am and not losing [...]

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People don’t know

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on September 23, 2005

As teens and young adults, people don’t know that they are going to marry their mother or their father, depending on which one they have the biggest issues with. People don’t know that their current beliefs and behaviors are so interconnected to their childhood traumas. People don’t know that you can beat the voices in [...]

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What Does God Say?

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on September 9, 2005

I received the nice note below as an inspirational message… Good morning Matt. This is God. I will be handling all your problems today. I will not need your help, so have a good day. Well, I disagree. God will handle all my BIG problems. But I have to handle my worldly problems. I am [...]

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How do you Feel?

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on August 23, 2005

How do you FEEL?Are you Happy and Joyous and Free??or are you Shut-down, Depressed, Guilt-ridden and ANGRY?!? Taking control of your Feelings is the key to personal Happiness and Success in your Career, Family and Relationships. Stop by. We’ll show you an amazing world that lies deep inside you — your Passions, your Joys, Your [...]

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Control

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on August 18, 2005

things we have way much control over: Personal Power Enthusiasm Enlightenment Awareness Acceptance Understanding—– Faith Trust Love Joy—– Our Belief systems Our Issues Our Values Our Outlook on Life Our View of the World—– Our Ability to Connect Our Ability to Belong Our Ability to work as a Team Our Ability to Get Along—– Our [...]

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About People

By MattPerelstein on July 31, 2005

A Course About People, by Thomas Leonard, the ‘Father of the Coaching Industry", on what would have been his 50th birthday. Complete wording is here (send a blank email): mailto:2GetHelp.com-118974@autocontactor.com SAMPLE STATEMENTS: People do not understand how greatly their decisions are influenced by their emotions. People think their beliefs are grounded in logic, whereas they [...]

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Turning Anger Into Love

By MattPerelstein on July 29, 2005

It’s not: I love you but I’m angry with you. It’s: I love you and I’m angry with you. both exist at the same time. remove the anger and what’s left, the Love.—actually, It’s not even: I’m angry with you. it’s more: I’m angry with your Behavior. I can love you and hate your behaviors [...]

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Answer this question about Feeling

By MattPerelstein on May 30, 2005

How "in touch" with your Feelings are you? When was the last time you cried? today or yesterday in the last week or month in the past year can`t remember, it`s been so long Results

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If it’s to be, it’s up to me.

By MattPerelstein on May 12, 2005

"If it’s to be, it’s up to me." – a lament of those stuck in control, unable to obtain cooperation. however, it’s also TRUE. It’s called Personal Responsibility… and it really works! The happiest people I know are those who feel they have the power to make a difference in EVERY area of their lives. [...]

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How much Control do we have?

By MattPerelstein on May 1, 2005

Chances are, you have waaay more Choices over our emotional lives than we’ve ever imagined possible! Once you know and appreciate all the internal issues we can control inside us, and how, and how much, it gives us TOTAL power over our Reactions, our beliefs and our behaviors. How we connect How we relate How [...]

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Being “In Touch” with Feelings and Emotions

By MattPerelstein on May 1, 2005

I believe that, because I am so in touch with my feelings and emotions, I am: Better looking Stronger A better racquetball player a better Father a better Husband a better friend more consistent more Jolly more relaxed more SPonTaNeoUS! way more FUN to be around. try it.

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Shame-based People

By MattPerelstein on March 16, 2005

Let’s talk about being "Shame-based". We’ve established that the difference between Guilt and Shame is that Guilt is about something you DID that was bad, while Shame is the belief that you ARE bad. So shame-based people believe they are bad people. They assume the worst. They assume life is dangerous and people are out [...]

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Anger and Crying

By MattPerelstein on March 16, 2005

If you find that you’re crying and crying, with no relief… it’s probably because you’re also ANGRY… and need to deal with that, as well. If you find that you’re angry and angry, with no relief… it’s probably because you’re also HURT… and need to cry, as well. We had a guy in last weekend’s [...]

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Taking Control of Your Life

By MattPerelstein on February 21, 2005

Ok, people need positive Environments in which to live their positive, healthy life. It WAS their environment that helped them / allowed them to get the way they are. It IS their environment that somehow keeps them that way. The question is: What WILL BE their Environment in the future, to allow for healing and [...]

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Feelings Can Get Stuck

By MattPerelstein on February 8, 2005

From PyschologyHelp.com: "Many therapists have elevated feelings almost to godlike status. They are extremely important. If you cannot feel, you are most definitely psychologically unhealthy.  Also, the more you cannot feel, the unhealthier you are. There has been much essential therapy emphasis on learning to feel and to express emotions." but, they also warn (and [...]

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Here we go…

By MattPerelstein on January 12, 2005

Well, I have class again this weekend. I’m leaving at 5am to drive to Berkeley for a meeting at 8, then to Sacramento for a meeting at 11:30, then I’m throwing a reunion party at 6.  On Friday, play racquetball at 5am, to see a customer, then to Fresno by 5 to setup the room [...]

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Post #200

By MattPerelstein on January 8, 2005

Well, ladies and gents, this is it.  Post #200 on this Blog. Took about 10 months.  And over 4,500 people have now been here.  Almost all of them came from SEs. This site is in the top 5-10 on many of the top search engines for such phrases as:  feelings and emotions, control feelings, control [...]

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You can DIE from not knowing this!

By MattPerelstein on January 7, 2005

Here’s a new study on STROKES, finds that many people felt intense Anger, and drastically changed their Body posture, within 2 hours of having their Stroke.  "An Israeli study suggests a link between experiencing an angry or frustrating moment and an immediate risk of Stroke." My guess is that most of these people had a [...]

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Personal Responsibility

By MattPerelstein on January 6, 2005

Personal Responsibility is the KEY to Healthy Living!     It’s the only way to fly, on your own wings. Personal Responsibility is sometimes about: being willing to hear stuff you don’t want to hear. It’s about being willing to feel things you don’t want to feel  iIt’s about being willing to say stuff you don’t want [...]

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Real boys do cry!

By MattPerelstein on January 5, 2005

"Boys do cry – but they find it much harder than girls to talk about their feelings or seek help when they are distressed, new research shows." Read this article about a study done on boys, 10-14, and how they learn to NOT express themselves.  They found that 47 per cent said they never talked [...]

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Handling Emotions

By MattPerelstein on December 17, 2004

A Teaching Guide:  Handling Emotions This site tries to teach teens how to deal with their emotions, peer pressures, respecting others, etc.  They have a dozen or so videos, discussion materials and more. Their suggestions for handling your emotions:•  Be honest with yourself. •  Talk to somebody about your feelings. •  Don’t ignore your emotions, [...]

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eBook on Depression

By MattPerelstein on December 16, 2004

Here’s an eBook on the "7 Steps to a Depression Free Life – A Self-Help Guide". Gillian says: "I’ve had years when I had no serious episodes and times when I’ve spent weeks on end unable to find a reason to get out of bed. But now my struggle with depression is over. I’ve broken [...]

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Emotional Resources

By MattPerelstein on December 16, 2004

Wow. Here’s a very elaborate site (actually 5 related sites!) devoted to describing, defining, explaining, listing, and recovering from so many forms of feelings and emotions. Called "Emotional Feelings".  All written by 1 person — Kathleen. It starts: Welcome… i’m glad to see you! if you’ve been searching for answers about who you are & [...]

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Difference between Feelings & Emotions2

By MattPerelstein on December 15, 2004

I ran a search on Google Answers for the difference between Feelings & Emotions, and got quite an assortment of interesting answers… from doctors, therapists, philosophers, columnists and others. example:“Emotions are cross cultural – the same all over the world. Feelings are a subset of all of our mind-body states (disappointment, hunger, hope, etc. There [...]

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Men and Tears

By MattPerelstein on December 14, 2004

"…a University of Warwick historian researching the expression of male emotion through tears reveals there is a long history of men and crying, and that tears were for centuries a class issue. New research reveals that while the phenomenon of crying men is hardly new, for tears to be acceptable in Early Modern England they [...]

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Steps to Feeling Happy

By MattPerelstein on December 13, 2004

The 4 Steps to Creating Happiness — K.A.E.R. Know – Figure out what you’re actually feeling, put a name and a face to each of your Feelings.  Be able to Identify them quickly and accurately. Accept – Allow your body to feel what it feels, know what it knows, learn what it needs to learn.  [...]

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Feelings re: Job Loss

By MattPerelstein on December 6, 2004

8 Strategies for Bouncing Back from Job Loss Here’s a good article on dealing with your feelings after losing your job.  Outline Do nothing. Resist the temptation to call business associates or contact search firms. Deal with your emotions. Don’t imagine you can hide your feelings. Don’t think your emotions will go away if you [...]

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How do you react to stress?

By MattPerelstein on November 29, 2004

A carrot, an egg and a cup of coffee… A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed [...]

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Dealing with Anger2

By MattPerelstein on November 29, 2004

Here’s yet another on Anger: – Healthy ways to deal with Anger Take a time-out. Own your anger. Look at what you could change. Resolve your anger in a healthy way. – Unhealthy ways to deal with Anger. and a rating system for each.

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Dealing with Anger

By MattPerelstein on November 29, 2004

Here’s a 2 part-er re: Dealing with Anger from EQ Coach, Susan Dunn: Understanding AngerWhere it comes fromCan We Ignore it?Can we Accept it?Let It PassUse it (Positively)You manage it, or it manages you read on…Part 1Part 2

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Teens deal with feelings toward death

By MattPerelstein on November 29, 2004

Here’s an Excellent article about how teens deal with their Feelings around death, especially that of a friend / classmate. example:"Teens have alternative ways to express themselves," said Kendall Palladino, director of the bereavement and spiritual services program for the Regional Hospice of Western Connecticut. "Adolescents attempt to do something in different ways, less structured" [...]

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Stress during the Holidays

By MattPerelstein on November 29, 2004

Here’s some good practical advice for handling stress, and your Feelings, during the Holidays! "Make room for feelings – all of them, not just the joy and cheer we think we’re supposed to be feeling. The holidays trigger emotions, and they are bound to arise in adults as well as children. Factor in any major [...]

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What does Love mean to you?

By MattPerelstein on November 26, 2004

Here’s a cool article written by a 16-year-old high schooler.  Thomas Pardee describes a day which "touched me on a personal level and made me think…" "We learned that people are very much like icebergs; there is the tip, the 10 percent of who we really are that we display for everyone else to see, [...]

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A short Personality Test

By MattPerelstein on November 26, 2004

I got this in an email today, answered it honestly and found the interpretations to be both interesting and accurate.  Since it’s the day after Thanksgiving, I noticed the test helped me take stock in what and who was most important in my life. (I changed the rules slightly, as I tend to do.) You’ll [...]

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TCOYF: with Cancer

By MattPerelstein on November 23, 2004

Here’s a note and additional info about Taking control of your feelings when Cancer is in the picture. "We would all like to have control over our health, and our future. Being told that you have cancer can make you feel fear, panic, uncertainty and despair, and you might feel that you have lost control [...]

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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

By MattPerelstein on November 22, 2004

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCEIn Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman argues that the conventional view of human intelligence is far too narrow in that it does not take into account an aspect of our lives which plays an important role in the success or failure of just about everything we do. Goleman describes the five major components of emotional [...]

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Self-Science Emotional Skills Curriculum

By MattPerelstein on November 22, 2004

Self-Science is a curriculum and a process for teaching social and emotional skills. The curriculum pursues 10 goals. Goal 1: Legitimizing Self-Knowledge as Subject Matter Goal 2: Developing a Trusting Attitude Toward the Class and others Goal 3: Becoming More Aware of Multiple Feelings Goal 4: Developing Communication Skills for Affective States Goal 5: Disclosing [...]

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Emotional Presence vs. Emotional Depth

By MattPerelstein on November 22, 2004

Here’s a great article on Emotional Intelligence and how Emotional Presence and Emotional Depth differ.  Read on, as they are both important EQ tools… Emotional depth is the ability to handle complex feelings — to "sit in the middle of the fire and not shrink back." vs. Emotional presence is the ability to authentically show [...]

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Emotional Intelligence

By MattPerelstein on November 22, 2004

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to build people up, bring them together, and motivate them to do their best.  And that’s why study after study has ranked EQ atop the core competencies that determine a company’s success. Brains Alone Don’t Make a Leader.

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Everything Emotional

By MattPerelstein on November 22, 2004

"HOW TO ACHIEVE EMOTIONAL CONTROL"By Mark Lindsay Lots Re: Emotions, including how the brain works, Stupidity, Automatic Thoughts, Improving Diet and more… He also discusses the Event –> Interpretation –> Emotion –> Action process of Congnitive Therapy (much like Doc’s Event -> Meaning -> Feeling -> Behaviour model) and check this…a San Francisco-based, stress-research consulting [...]

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Emotional Intelligence at Work

By MattPerelstein on November 18, 2004

Here’s a "framework" (list of skills) involved for Emotional Intelligence at Work.  It’s a great list of competencies — rate yourself! http://www.eiconsortium.org/research/emotional_competence_framework.htm

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Wanna Share?

By MattPerelstein on November 17, 2004

My chosen job is to go out into the world, figure out how to do this Life thing, and come back and report it to you.  If I’m not teaching or writing, I’m watching, and listening, and learning.  If I was in formal school, I couldn’t spend any more time on my classes and homework [...]

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TCOYF&E

By MattPerelstein on November 12, 2004

Get a Grip! – Taking Control of your Feelings & Emotions (rough outline) Chapter 1 "Once upon a time…" BIG Picture about how we develop, behave, and feel current state of affairs what’s possible. "Imagine being able to…" Chapter 2 How it works.  Blank slate theory.  Feelings are Learned, etc. Karen’s Childhood:  How her Mom [...]

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Read on…

By MattPerelstein on November 9, 2004

Here’s a HUGE selection of Articles, eBooks, eCourses, etc. mostly dealing with emotions, personal growth and Harmony. Check it out…

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Taking Control of Your Fear

By MattPerelstein on November 4, 2004

“The Sedona Method is a unique program for making positive changes in your life. As you learn this simple process of releasing the underlying emotions that rob you of abundance and joy, your fear and anxiety will gently slip away…. You’ll be shocked by how quickly your life changes!” – Cheryl Richardson, New York Times [...]

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Connections

By MattPerelstein on November 4, 2004

Connections are the Key The only way to find true Happiness is in your connections with others. It may be only 1 person, or even a pet. But imagine having NO Connections with any living creature… Yikes. Connections = Relationships “Every dollar you’ve ever made. And every dollar you ever will make. Is based on [...]

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2 Types of Learning

By MattPerelstein on November 2, 2004

Information vs. Transformational Learning I just learned an important distinction between 2 main schools of learning… Information Learning is what we do in ‘regular’ schools… the teacher talks, students listen. Students are tested and attempt to regurgitate exactly what the teacher told them. Transformational Learning is where you are Actively involved in the learning process. [...]

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Self-Centered vs. Me-Centered

By MattPerelstein on October 10, 2004

Self-Centered vs. Me-Centered I know myself I know that the best way to take care of myself, emotionally, is to be there for others to help people be happy, and learn, and grow. We, us, together FREE to be who we are, Safe, Open, loving, content, free, joy, laughter, connection, healing, growth, heaven If I’m [...]

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Collecting vs. Accumulating

By MattPerelstein on October 10, 2004

There’s a difference between Collecting, with heart – quality, meaning, clean, nice, loving, pride, value, passion, slow, careful, precious and Accumulating – hoarding, grabbing, bogarting, taking, selfish, me-centered.

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ND on the Air

By MattPerelstein on October 2, 2004

How about we make the NDW weekend workshop into a show on TV. A show where people watch us processing people! Taking them thru the Statement. Helping them Break-thru their Feelings! We’ll film a regular class, but we’ll focus on a couple of people each episode. Apply some get 15-minute phone interview with Matt if [...]

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Reconnecting to the Precious

By MattPerelstein on October 2, 2004

““What is the quest you are on? How are you searching for meaning in your individual existence? Or, to reformulate this down to a more simple expression—What makes you get up in the morning?” Marc Gafni, Soul Prints: Your Path to Fulfillment Sometimes, we just need to take time out to re-connect. While wandering on [...]

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Add Spice to your Life!

By MattPerelstein on October 2, 2004

Feelings add SPICE to your Life: – Color – Texture – Depth – Meaning – Value – Friendship – Love – Happiness – Joy – Compassion – Understanding – Awareness – Wisdom – More Joy! – More staying up late. – More running and skipping. – More laughter and Lightness!

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I’ve Changed!

By MattPerelstein on September 15, 2004

Since I’ve been “in touch” with my Feelings: I’m more grounded, less frantic. More excited, less afraid. I’m more aware, less in the dark. More smart, less naïve. More calm, less scattered. Less upset, more uplifting. Less scattered, more flattered. Less criticism, more encouragement. Less pain, more Joy. Less annoyed, more ALIVE!!

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Self-Processing Steps

By MattPerelstein on September 6, 2004

Self-Processing Steps 1. Allow the Crying. 2. FEEL what it’s based on. 3. Find the Belief that is Behind the feeling. 4. See if you Agree with it. 5. If so, keep it and just continue crying until done. 6. If it’s not a solid Belief yet, try to Let it go, give it no [...]

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Feeling Your Feelings

By MattPerelstein on September 6, 2004

Guess what? – – Avoiding your Feelings, doesn’t work! – – – Denying your Feelings, doesn’t work! – – – – Drinking away your Feelings, doesn’t work! The only thing that REALLY WORKS, is FEELING YOUR FEELINGS!

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Get Started…

By MattPerelstein on August 31, 2004

Do yourself a favor and at least TRY, no Get Started, to resolve stuff from your past. Take a good, honest, feeling-filled look into your past and see what you find there. “Be not the slave of your own past – plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep and swim far – so you shall [...]

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The World is Ready

By MattPerelstein on August 29, 2004

I believe the world is ready to FEEL. I think folks are hurtin’, and Angry, and disappointed, and STRESSED, and Depressed. I believe the world is ready to change… for the better. I believe that teaching the world how to FEEL will make a simple, yet incredibly PROFOUND difference on our daily lives. The lessons [...]

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2 Different Kinds of Guilt

By MattPerelstein on August 19, 2004

Punishing Guilt vs. Productive Guilt There are 2 types of Guilt. One is a powerful, punishing, shame-on-you Guilt. It’s designed to make you feel: – Bad – Down – Less than – Stupid – Shameful – etc. The other kind of Guilt is an equally powerful, what I call “Productive Guilt”. This is the kind [...]

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The 4 D’s of Spiritual Growth

By MattPerelstein on August 19, 2004

Reflect on this pathway for meaningful growth: DISCIPLINE – To create change in our lives, we need to consistently focus on what we want. DETACHMENT – Practice the art of detached observation. Let go of automatic defenses and patterns. DISCERNMENT – Seek to discern the lower from the higher. What is self-serving and what is [...]

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Spiritual Healing

By MattPerelstein on August 15, 2004

Yoga Gives Freedom From Emotional Reactiveness “By the practice of yoga man frees himself from the reactions of likes and dislikes by filling his heart with unchanging ecstatic divine joy. When you have mastery of your feelings you abide in your true state. The true state of the Self, the soul, is bliss, wisdom, love, [...]

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Feelings are God’s built-in alarm system

By MattPerelstein on August 14, 2004

Feelings are God’s built-in alarm system for our thoughts. If you are feeling an emotion other than joy, our natural inheritance, check the thoughts you are having at that moment. Every thought, and I mean every one, that does not put you in a joyful state has as its underlying premise the belief that you [...]

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Benefits to Feeling

By MattPerelstein on August 12, 2004

know who you are understand why you do what you do understand people better connect with people better get along better at work enjoy life more more in love more in touch more power more joy more laughter more Freedom lighter feeling braver less controlled, and controlling less angry less depressed more alive less blaming [...]

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The Down Side to Feelings

By MattPerelstein on August 12, 2004

Feelings HURT so much, sometimes Anger is a bitch, sometimes Reality sucks, sometimes feel pain deeper personal responsibility is a real drag sometimes know exactly who you’re angry at, and why you might want to be around people even more there are some things you won’t want to know out of comfort zone more often [...]

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Who’s in Control?

By MattPerelstein on August 9, 2004

Some things we have almost NO control over. weather, laws, taxes, other people Some things we have almost TOTAL control over! our feelings, behaviors, attitudes, beliefs For best results, where do you think it would be the most productive areas to focus our efforts?

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Don’t feel ‘Sorry’ for people!

By MattPerelstein on August 5, 2004

Don’t feel SORRY for people, feel SAD for them, instead. “Sorry” means you believe they are Powerless, and in a way, could put them ‘beneath you’. It also denies your emotions. Feeling ‘Sad’ for people puts you as Equals. It shows compassion, acceptance, feeling, connection. You can fully experience WITH the other person, and you [...]

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Covering Up

By MattPerelstein on July 23, 2004

Men tend to cover Tears with Anger. Women tend to cover Anger with Tears. – mcp

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Personal Power article

By MattPerelstein on July 22, 2004

Great blog post on using your Personal Power… what limits you (fears) vs. what motivates you (passions). What lights you up? vs. What shuts you up? Mitch also writes: Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Read article by Mitch Meyerson, coach and therapist

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I Love

By MattPerelstein on July 14, 2004

“I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.. “ I contend that we do EVERYTHING out of “selfishness”. Everything. Giving, Loving, Empathizing, the whole works. Why? ’cause it makes US feel good. If we are in touch with our feelings, we can Love [...]

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Boundaries

By MattPerelstein on July 13, 2004

“I love my boundaries… they set me free!” Emotional “Boundaries” are a wonderful thing! They are your Limits of what you are willing to put up with and what you are willing to take from others. They are your Values, your Beliefs, your Rules, your Guidelines. And, HOW do you keep those all-important Boundaries? 2 [...]

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Difference between Feelings & Emotions

By MattPerelstein on July 11, 2004

What’s the Dif? Dictionary Def’s Feelings feel•ing (lots of def’s, but here are a few…) 1. The ability to express strong emotion, especially in performance • Play the piece again with more feeling. 2. Something felt emotionally • a perceived emotion 3. Ability to express emotion • the capacity to experience emotion etc. Emotion e•mo•tion 1. [...]

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Teaching EQ to Kids

By MattPerelstein on July 10, 2004

Here’s a cool site that teaches EQ (Emotional Quotient, or Emotional Intelligence) to kids. Nicely done, with lots of good info. Self-Science.com

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Expressing vs. Whining

By MattPerelstein on July 6, 2004

What’s the difference between Complaining or Expressing (which can be very healthy) and Whining, Bitchin’ and Moanin’ (yuck-o)? Powerlessness! When people talk about how bad the world is, we listen empathetically. but when they feel that “There ain’t nothing I can do about it.” there’s no room to help them. When people see the world [...]

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Maintaining Balance – Full Tanks and Empty Tanks

By MattPerelstein on June 25, 2004

Our family has 2 cars, a Pontiac Grand Prix (which I love – wider IS better!) and a motorhome (1998 30’ Fleetwood Bounder – which we spend a LOT of time in and we’ve put over 60,000 miles on). Driving a motorhome that much brings with it special considerations – like parking, and gas consumption, [...]

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Powerless –> Powerful

By MattPerelstein on April 26, 2004

Continuum from Powerless to Powerful. Panic Terrified Afraid Nervous – – - AWARE, CALM & STRONG – – – On Guard Tense Fired Up On the Attack Balistic!

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Ok and not Ok

By MattPerelstein on April 14, 2004

Feelings expressed for the following reasons are fine: – Clarity – Release – Acceptance – Remove Judgments – Go for deeper feelings (ex: express anger to get to the hurt underneath) not Ok – whining – blaming (short-term is fine, in an effort to find your part in it all) – one-up-manship / competition – [...]

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Blueprints of the Mind – money

By MattPerelstein on April 12, 2004

Here’s a link to a website that offers help with our beliefs, values, and experiences surrounding Money and wealth. They say that people base their decisions about money on what we saw, heard and experienced as a child (right on!). They have a free audio seminar that’s excellent — check it out (the second half [...]

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Why workers need to have feelings

By MattPerelstein on April 8, 2004

Article in BBC News: “Why workers need to have feelings” Link: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/business/3020953.stm Intro: “If you want to get ahead in business nowadays, you will need more than a head. Research shows you will need a heart as well.” some Text: “One company which has turned to emotional intelligence to test candidates is cosmetics giant L’Oreal. [...]

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We DO Have Choices about our Feelings!

By MattPerelstein on March 1, 2004

I believe that one of the biggest, and most influential changes I have seen people make is this… We CAN control our Feelings and Emotions! I believe that most people have a belief that their Feelings and Emotions are some squishy, ungraspable thing that we just learn to live with. They come and go as [...]

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Our Emotional Toolbox

By MattPerelstein on February 28, 2004

When stuff is broken or tweaked or loose, we try to fix it, right? Well, first we notice that it needs attention. Once it gets irritating enough, we decide we are gonna do something about it. We go to our Physical Toolbox for the right tool to put the irritant back in working condition, so [...]

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Disarming the Critical Voices

By MattPerelstein on February 13, 2004

Disarming the Critical Voices Carrol says “Some questions to ponder, what’s the purpose I listen to the critical voice? What’s the role of reinforcing? And how do I reinforce my critical voice?” … I like the question: How do I reinforce my critical voice? should create great insights into who we are and what we’ve [...]

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4 Important Steps to Taking Control

By MattPerelstein on December 13, 2003

4 Important Steps to Taking Control of Your Life… 1. Accept Personal Responsibility Doc says “Everything is our fault, if we’re lucky.” because that means we can change it! If my life, and my feelings, and my reactions are all things within my control, then they are my responsibility. I am in charge of so [...]

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Maturity

By MattPerelstein on December 11, 2003

Confidence + Humility = Maturity

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An EQ Quiz

By MattPerelstein on December 3, 2003

Matt’s EQ Quiz Answer these questions to test your emotional well-being. You don’t have to write down the answers… just read the question and experience your feelings and emotions. Let them flow thru you… watch your thoughts go by… learn about yourself Dare to explore your feelings… harnessing your feelings and getting them under control [...]

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MORE LESSONS TO LEARN, Apparently!

By MattPerelstein on December 3, 2003

MORE LESSONS TO LEARN Apparently we have more lessons to learn… All I can figure is that our lives have been painful and hard so far, and they will continue to be such until we HAVE learned what we are supposed to learn about the stuff we are SUPPOSED TO learn. It’s as simple as [...]

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