Happiness Quotes

"Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket, keep it
in your own."  
—
"Happiness isn't about waiting for the storm to pass…   It's about learning
how to dance in the rain" 

Inner Child Work

Here’s a cool way that inner child work, a critical step in healing our feelings, was explained by a therapist in Florida…
Inner Child Experiential Psychotherapy builds upon the work of renowned therapists such as John Bradshaw, Virginia Satir, Hal Stone, Milton Erickson, Alice Miller and many others whose efforts focus on the unmet needs of [...]

Take Control of your Life (2)

3 Big Questions

who am I? — – — – — Heal pain and anger from your past.
now what? — – — – — Get a grip on the present.
then what? — – — – — Create the future of your chosing.

Answer those, and your life is yours.

Emotional Quotient Defined

Unlike intelligence quotient IQ, which is relatively fixed after seventeen years of age, emotional quotient EQ can be enhanced throughout your life. When you enhance your emotional quotient, you increase your chance of success in the countless roles you play each day. When you develop your emotional quotient, you learn to understand yourself and others [...]

Heal Feelings – Do What it Takes!

You cannot begin your healing journey without the willingness to do so. Without the willingness to do whatever it takes to heal from your wounded self, you will not begin the journey of healing and evolving your soul.
“Doing whatever it takes” means that you are ready and willing to feel, understand and take full [...]

Patience and perseverance

"Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish."

- John Quincy Adams

No More Wars

-There will never be another world war — ever!
In fact, I believe wars will decline in the future, both in severity and in number.
I believe that we, as a planet, are slowly, but surely, "Getting It", and I’m very happy about that!
I have hope for the future.  I believe we are on the right path [...]

Attraction, not Promotion

From now on, ND will be a program of Attraction, not Promotion.
I will no longer ‘promote’ or ’sell’ our ND class to anyone.
What I WILL promote, however, is FEELINGS, and Emotions, and Love, and Joy, and sadness, and anger, and compassion and Freedom of the heart and mind.  Those I’m gonna push, hard.
ND I will [...]

Shoulds can be Good or Bad

We’ve been saying that "Shoulds are bad". period. but I have another take on that…

I say that there are good Shoulds and bad Shoulds.

Good shoulds are shoulds that you agree with…

I should brush my teeth.
I should change my oil every 3,000 miles.
I should get up and pick-up the baby.
I should get my work done.

If you [...]

Quotes on Love and Safety

"One word frees us from the weight and pain of life; that word is LOVE."
– Sophocles
"Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are — chaff and grain together.Certain that a faithful [...]

Quotes on Happiness

"Happiness depends upon ourselves."- Aristotle
"Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will never lead you astray." – Rumi
"Re-examine all that you have been told . . . dismiss that which insults your soul."— Walt Whitman
"For magic to happen in your life, you must first believe [...]

Post #500

Well, folks, this post is officially the 500th post on this blogsite!
… and the message hasn’t changed over the past 3 years (only refined a bit).  It’s still:
Emotional Intelligence is the key to Happiness and Success in your life!

You can’t Heal what you can’t Feel.If you need some help with your feelings — if you [...]

Boundaries are Essential Tools!

TEACH PEOPLE how to do Boundariesawesome parenting tip
   teach your young kids to Stick their Tongue Out at people, when the time is right.  especially smaller, wimpier kids.  This is a Personal Power exercise.
that means:
I reject you.I push you away.I disagree with you, and/or your assessment of me.I disgard you.I don’t care about you.I won’t [...]

I cry.

I hurt.
I cry.

I smile.
I dry.

- Matt-atak

Happiness

"Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude."
- Denis Waitley

"The great Western disease is, "I’ll be happy when…" When I get the money. When I get a BMW. When I get this job. Well, the reality is, [...]

We have Choices! LOTS of Choices!

"By becoming a conscious choice-maker, you begin to generate actions that are evolutionary for you."
- Deepak Chopra

GOOD NEWS:  You probably have way more Choices, emotionally, than you ever thought possible!!

You can Choose to be Happy.   
You can Choose to NOT be a victim. 
You can Choose to let go of your Anger and Sadness, and [...]

eBook Development

Taming the Beast Within"Harness the power of your feelings & emotions to become a great Friend, a passionate Lover and a profoundly Happy Person."
New Book Development Outline…
Top 10 Lessons — tell at least 1 story in each oneIntroduction- Success comes from Happiness, not the other way around- Wanna be rich?  wanna be happy?  wanna [...]

Quotes on Success

"It is literally true that you can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed."
- Napoleon Hill

History will be kind to me for I intend to write it.
– Winston Churchill

"The world cares very little about what a man or woman knows; it is what the man or woman is able to do that [...]

Emotional Toolbox

Day 90 of 100: What is an Emotional Toolbox, and how do we use it?
When we notice that stuff is broken or tweaked or loose, we try to fix it (or find someone who can), right? Then, once it gets irritating
enough, we decide we are gonna do something about it. Assuming we have the [...]

Denial and Defensiveness

Day 86 of 100:  What’s our purpose in defending ourselves?
I have come to believe that being Defensive is a waste of time.
If I am wrong, I need to learn from it.If I am right, right is it’s own defense.
So what’s the purpose of our denial?
Is it that we can’t handle the truth?Is it that we [...]

Acceptance

Day 84 of 100:  Can you accept other people’s Reality, even if you don’t Agree with it?
"Feelings need to be Accepted… but Acceptance does not necessarily mean Approval."
- Doc Downing, Ph.D, LMFT

Each one of us has our own reality, ones we have created out of our beliefs, values, expectations and conclusions about ourselves and others.  [...]

Reaching Out

Day 75 of 100:  How & why do we reach out to others?
Ok, so you’re aware that:

You have issues.
You are not alone.  (other people have issues, too.)
Some other people have answers.
Love and connections are some of the keys to a happy, healthy life.

CONGRATS, ’cause Awareness is the 1st key to Change! (but it is only [...]

Step 4: Expressing our Feelings

Day 20 of 100:  Step 4 of 7: Expressing our Feelings
Doc says, "Feelings expressed as deeply as they are felt, will REDUCE in intensity and are free to change".
Our feelings can get ’stuck’ in our body, and must be Expressed fully, in order to be released.
Once you know what we feel, it’s important to Allow [...]

Perserverance

STILL PERSEVERING

It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.  Albert Einstein
I may not be there yet, but I’m closer than I was yesterday.  Author Unknown
Keep on going, and the chances are that you will stumble on something, perhaps when you are least expecting it.  I have never heard of [...]

Giving = Living

… we are ahead of the curve here, ladies.
No one, anywhere, has figured out the Answers that we have… that so many are seeking.
Why are we here?To love and feel loved.
What is my purpose?To help ourselves, and others, feel as loved as we possibly can, while we’re here.
How come I’m all over the place, emotionally?It’s [...]

Joy and Sorrow

"Life is the coexistence of all opposite values.  Joy and sorrow, pleasure and pain, up and down, hot and cold, here and there, light and darkness, birth and death.  All experience is by contrast, and one would be meaningless without the other."
- Deepak Chopra

In other words, you must FEEL to have a complete life Experience!

More Joy, Less Pain

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2006 to all, around the world!
Wishing you a new year of:
Less Crazy, More Sane.Less Different, More Same.More Power. Less Blame.More Joy, Less Pain.

with LOTS of Love (just ’cause it feels so good).- Matt

Emotions are the next frontier!

"Emotions are the next frontier to be understood and conquered. To manage our emotions is not to drug them or suppress them, but to understand them so that we can intelligently direct our emotional energies and intentions…. It’s time for human beings to grow up emotionally, to mature into emotionally managed and responsible citizens. No [...]

Feelings and Addictions

www.addictionz.com has a good article re: Feelings and Emotions for Addicts.  It includes some step-by-step options for how to handle strong emotions OTHER THAN BY  drinking or using.
There’s also a cool story/parable about Two Wolves.
Read on…

The World of Feelings and Emotions

THE WORLD OF FEELINGS AND EMOTIONSan article by Walter Last
Walter talks about our Lost Feelings, definitions of Feelings vs. Emotions, how we Lost our Feelings, pain and disease and how unexpressed feelings can show up in our Body. Interesting read.

BELIEVE

I watched the movie Polar Express tonight… and it was beautiful.  I laughed and cried, and it was really great.  So much feeling from just a movie!
I know that may sound funny to most, but coming from a woman who doesn’t cry, especially at movies…. that means a lot.  I realized tonight that almost every [...]

“Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart”

From a great book of essays written by a psychiatrist Gordon Livingston, Vietnam vet, parent twice bereaved, lost his oldest son to suicide and his youngest to leukemia. The book is entitled "Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart."
He has written about 30 bedrock truths:
1. If the map doesn’t agree with the ground, the map [...]

Feelings are Life!

since I took my keyboard apart the other day and cleaned it, the . key hasn’t been working properly and this has been interesting for meto get it to work, I have to SLAM the . KEY harder….. whap, whap, whap.it builds tension.irritation.tick (doesn’t work) so Wham. (that works, but it’s irritating and requires more [...]

NDers vs. non-NDers

Ha. it finally came to me. just now.I’ve been watching us long term NDers who are usually waaaaay Happier, often more successful and certainly more ALIVE and FEELING than our counterparts and I keep wondering,
What’s the Difference between NDers and non-NDers?What is it the one thing that ND teaches that is so Effective and [...]

Feelings Toward Yourself

"It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others."
- Sydney J. Harris

"There is no freedom like seeing myself as I am and not losing heart."
- Elizabeth [...]

Your Essence cannot be Destroyed!

“No matter how painful our early experiences were, our Essence cannot be harmed. Our Essence is waiting for the opportunity to reveal itself. In a very true sense, we are waiting for the opportunity to become ourselves. Our spirit is yearning to break free, to express itself …
“And yet, ironically, we always fear and resist [...]

No Regrets

"Brighter is possibly the best word… In the breif respite I’m enjoying, I’m feeling more secure about me… I’ve separated myself from a few external judgments, let go of a few self imposed ones… released some emotions that I had stored specifically for use in being supportive of my partner (ie, matching)… seeing others’ expectations [...]

Answer this question about Feeling

How "in touch" with your Feelings are you?

When was the last time you cried?

today or yesterday

in the last week or month

in the past year

can`t remember, it`s been so long

Results

Quotes on Safety

“Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are — chaff and grain together — certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with the breath [...]

Thoughts on Control / Being Controlled

notes to myself over the last ND weekend:
Shoulds are sources of Anger
Control:  Do it or change it
Positive Control – "You will…"Negative Control – "You can’t make me…"Whenever you have to PROVE that they can’t control you, you’re not in control, they are!Healthy Response – "Here’s what I’m willing to do…"
The only things you "NEED" / [...]

praise for mcp

Love Notes from our ND class – in Fresno, CA 5/15/05
"YOU R AWESOME!"- John
"Matt, You are such a treasure.  I am soooo thrilled that you’re in my life.with love always."- Sharon
"Matt,You continue to help me grow. The gift of having you (and Paula and New Directions) in my life is more valued than I can [...]

Resources on Forgiveness

Resources on Forgiveness
One of the ‘purposes’ to anger is to help you feel powerful and strong. It’s your body’s way of letting you know that things are not going the way you want them to. 
If you can be clear within yourself, and have clear, defined Boundaries for what’s Ok and what’s not Ok with [...]

Feelings Revolution Calls

Hmmm… what to talk about on the next Feelings Revolution call…
So far, we’ve discussed:

Turning Anger into Love
Benefits of being "In Touch" with your Feelings
Being Fully Expressed
Self-Processing:  Getting to the Heart of the Matter
… and others.

(I just realized that when I am the most believable, is when I speak very sloooowwwly and exemplify each word.  I [...]

If it’s to be, it’s up to me.

"If it’s to be, it’s up to me." – a lament of those stuck in control, unable to obtain cooperation.
however, it’s also TRUE. It’s called Personal Responsibility… and it really works!
The happiest people I know are those who feel they have the power to make a difference in EVERY area of their lives. Not [...]

Coach T and Coaching

I ran across an old testimonial pic of me, next to the immortal coach T.http://www.coachville.com/tourhowtocoach.html
He single-handedly created a concept, a idea, a career, that has changed the lives of thousands already, and will effect millions, in fact the entire world, in years to come.
It’s called Coaching.
There is no faster and more efficient means of personal [...]

How much Control do we have?

Chances are, you have waaay more Choices over our emotional lives than we’ve ever imagined possible!
Once you know and appreciate all the internal issues we can control inside us, and how, and how much, it gives us TOTAL power over our Reactions, our beliefs and our behaviours.

How we connect
How we relate
How we talk
How we look [...]

You can have it all!

You can have anything you want.
You cannot have everything you want.

Millionaire Mind

I went to the Millionaire Mind Intensive this past weekend in L.A.
It was incredible.
The number of dollars that changed hands at that "Free" event, was astounding… something like $2 Million… as people signed up for coaching, train-the-trainer, guerilla marketing and other workshops designed to help folks become wealthier.
The personal growth movement is alive and well.
Now, [...]

I’ve learned….

I’ve learned…..That love, not time, heals all wounds.
I’ve learned….That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.
I’ve learned….That we should be glad God doesn’t give us everything we ask for.
I’ve learned….That money doesn’t buy class.
I’ve learned….That it’s those small daily happenings that make life [...]

Bold Self-Expression

"Full self-expression is, hands down, the best personal and business development strategy on the planet "
- Michael Port, coach

"When you’re fully Self-Expressed, very few people will be Neutral toward you anymore."
- Lisa Wilder, coach

Difference between Feelings and emotions

What is the difference between feelings and emotions?
An interesting answer (from Google Answers) is here. Sites a number of different authors and points of view.
Read on…

Quotes on Happiness2

Success is not the key to Happiness. Happiness is the key to Success!
- ??

"There is much satisfaction in work well done, but there can be no happiness equal to the joy of finding a heart that understands. "
- Victor Robinsoll

"In our daily lives, we must see that it is not happiness thatmakes us grateful, but [...]

Laughter helps, Depression hurts

A daily dose of laughter may be good for the heart because, like exercise, it makes blood vessels work more efficiently, U.S. researchers reported on Monday.
Depression, on the other hand, can raise the risk of dying from heart failure, a separate study found.
(these may be Duh! messages, but now empirical studies agree!)
read on…

Thomas Leonard Quotes and Logos

Here is a collection of Thomas Leonard’s quotes and logos that he was playing with. They’re wonderful growth messages and show his sense of humour.
Coach T was my hero, in a lot of ways.  taught me a ton before he left, and his work is still teaching and inspiring me.
Below are the messages, but go [...]

Quotes on Intention

"As I grow older, I pay less attention to what people say. I just watch what they do."
-Andrew Carnegie

"Life does not happen to us, it happens from us."
– Mike Wickett

"When we know that the cause of something is in ourselves, and that we (ourselves) are one of the few things in the universe [...]

Taking Control of Your Life

Ok, people need positive Environments in which to live their positive, healthy life.

It WAS their environment that helped them / allowed them to get the way they are.
It IS their environment that somehow keeps them that way.
The question is: What WILL BE their Environment in the future, to allow for healing and growth?

To TCOYL, we [...]

Share the feeling

"Share the feeling experience with as many people as possible without trying to hawk some trinket.
We sell possiblities and achievement and happiness, not snake oil."
- Mark @ dropdeadhappy.com

Authentic Happiness

The New Science of Happinesshttp://www.time.com/time/2005/happiness/ – awesome article, but you gotta sign-up for Time Magazine (6 mo. for $1.99, which I did).  I’ll try to sum it up for you later.  Basically, they’ve done Plenty of studies on Depression and some on Anger and Sadness, but very few on Happy and Happiness and Joy.  So [...]

Quotes on Love

"Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible, it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could."

- Barbara DeAngelis

"True Success:Doing what you love to do.With the people you love to do it [...]

Through a Child’s Eyes

When I look at a patch of dandelions, I see a bunch of weeds that are going to take over my yard. My kids see flowers for Mom and blowing white fluff you can wish on.
***
When I look at an old drunk and he smiles at me, I see a smelly, dirty person who probably [...]

More Happiness Quotes

There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy. By being happy, we sow enormous benefits upon the world.
- Robert Louis Stevenson

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Happiness makes up in height for what it lacks in length.
- Robert Frost

Quotes on Anger2

"Any person capable of angering you becomes your master; he can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by him."
*Epictetus {50-138 Phrygian Philosopher}

"At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled."
- Marshall B. Rosenberg

"Anger is that powerful internal force that can blow out the light [...]

Go for a Walk

The other day, I went for a walk with my daughter.  It was wonderful.
go for a walk.you don’t have to "start walking" (and start ’shoulding’ on yourself)
Just go for a walk.  just one.if you like it, you might decide to go again.

Dealing with Anger

Here’s a 2 part-er re: Dealing with Anger from EQ Coach, Susan Dunn:
Understanding AngerWhere it comes fromCan We Ignore it?Can we Accept it?Let It PassUse it (Positively)You manage it, or it manages you

read on…Part 1Part 2

Stress during the Holidays

Here’s some good practical advice for handling stress, and your Feelings, during the Holidays!
"Make room for feelings – all of them, not just the joy and cheer we think we’re supposed to be feeling. The holidays trigger emotions, and they are bound to arise in adults as well as children. Factor in any major changes [...]

Love Notes

(unsolicited love notes during New Directions Workshop, Nov. 2004 – Wow, so nice!)
Matt-I never stop being amazed.  This process is so good.  I’m grateful for your love of and determination to this class, and your own personal progress.Love, Shauna
—
Matt-Thanks for hard-assing me!  This class sooo much fun!L.J.
—
Matt-It was great being with you again this weekend.  [...]

What does Love mean to you?

Here’s a cool article written by a 16-year-old high schooler.  Thomas Pardee describes a day which "touched me on a personal level and made me think…"
"We learned that people are very much like icebergs; there is the tip, the 10 percent of who we really are that we display for everyone else to see, and [...]

Feelings Toward Yourself

"It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others."
– Sydney J. Harris

Emotional Presence vs. Emotional Depth

Here’s a great article on Emotional Intelligence and how Emotional Presence and Emotional Depth differ.  Read on, as they are both important EQ tools…
Emotional depth is the ability to handle complex feelings — to "sit in the middle of the fire and not shrink back."
vs.
Emotional presence is the ability to authentically show feelings in an [...]

Quotes on Conformity

"I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself."
– Rita Mae Brown

"Once in a while it really hits people that they don’t have to experience the world in the way they have been told to."
– Alan Keightley

"To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to [...]

Essential to Recovery

Mary Ellen Copeland in The Mental Health American, Fall 2000 says:
"Taking back control of your life by making your own decisions and your own choices is essential to recovery. It will help you to feel better about yourself and may even help you to relieve some of the symptoms that have been troubling to you. [...]

Be who you are!

"Be who you are and say what you feel because…
those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind."

- Dr. Seuss

Emotional Intelligence at Work

Here’s a "framework" (list of skills) involved for Emotional Intelligence at Work.  It’s a great list of competencies — rate yourself!
http://www.eiconsortium.org/research/emotional_competence_framework.htm

I just got fired — Yahoo!

I JUST GOT FIRED as a Coach, and I am SOOOOO EXCITED ABOUT IT!!!
Why?
My CLIENT DOESN’T NEED ME ANYMORE!!!
YAHOO!!!!!
I have Succeeded, and She has Succeeded! We both won. We did it.
Now, she can say "I Feel."         and better yet,
                "I FEEL HAPPY!" [...]

Quotes on Faith

"The most valuable things in life are not measured in monetary terms. The really important things are not houses and lands, stocks and bonds, automobiles and real estate, but friendships, trust, confidence, empathy, mercy, love and faith."
- Bertrand Russell, 1872-1970, British Philosopher

"Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope [...]

MattPerelstein.com

Hi.  I just posted www.MattPerelstein.com and wanted to share it with you.
I used that site for years for testing purposes, but I finally made it about yours truly.
Not braggin’, just sayin’.
go see, and tell me what you think.  More to follow…
- Matt

Read on…

Here’s a HUGE selection of Articles, eBooks, eCourses, etc. mostly dealing with emotions, personal growth and Harmony.
Check it out…

Quotes on Anger

"Anger is that powerful internal force that can blow out the light of reason."
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

How does anger typically surface in your life?
We usually get angry at someone, don’t we? We judge that someone has done something wrong and we want them to be punished.
In truth, the actions of others [...]

Connections

Connections are the Key
The only way to find true Happiness is in your connections with others.
It may be only 1 person, or even a pet.
But imagine having NO Connections with any living creature… Yikes.
Connections = Relationships
“Every dollar you’ve ever made.
And every dollar you ever will make.
Is based on a relationship with someone.”
We’d better figure out [...]

Know Yourself 3

If you know what you feel, you’ll know who you are.
If you know what you feel, you’ll know where to go.
If you know what you feel, you’ll know who you are Not.
If you know what you feel, you’ll just know.
- Matt

Letting it all hang out!

one of the most intense things you can do with your body, while staying in one place, is Head-Banger Dancing…

ahhhhhhahahhhhahahahhhahahahahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
You know you’re right!!!!!!!!You know you’re right!!!!!!!!You know you’re right!!!!!!!!You know you’re right!!!!!!!!
Nirvana

Teens have found this way to let it all hang out!we can learn from them.take kids/people to a place where they can let it [...]

Quotes on Guilt

Guilt
“When guilt rears its ugly head confront it, discuss it and let it go. The past is over. It is time to ask what can we do right, not what did we do wrong. Forgive yourself and move on.”
–Bernie S. Siegel

“I have made it a rule of my life never to regret [...]

Love you with all my heart

“Love you forever, and forever.
Love you with all my heart.
Love you when we’re together.
Love you when we’re apart.
Make it easy to be near you.
and the things you do endear you to me.
- Alison Krauss

How would you handle this situation?

I’m sitting in the morning daylight outside a grocery store, at a stone table, with my laptop on the table in front of me. I’m fighting to read my screen in the glare of the early morning sun.
The good people of Napa, CA are visiting the grocery store for their provisions for [...]

Advanced Healing

Agree – with an underlying belief. Become aware of it and decide it is True
ex: “My Grandma’s love was the purest love I’ve ever felt.”
Reject – a belief / decide it is false
ex: “No one will ever love me.”
Transcend – it doesn’t matter if the old belief is true or false. [...]

More Quotes…

“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs.
Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and then go do it.
The world needs people who have come alive.”
- Harold Thurman Whitman
“He who knows others is learned.
He who knows himself is wise.”
- Lao Tse
“Less Crazy, More Sane.
Less Different, More Same.
More Power. Less Blame.
More Joy, Less Pain.”
- mcp
“Life is [...]

Self-Centered vs. Me-Centered

Self-Centered vs. Me-Centered
I know myself
I know that the best way to take care of myself, emotionally, is to be there for others
to help people be happy, and learn, and grow.
We, us, together
FREE to be who we are, Safe, Open, loving, content, free, joy, laughter, connection, healing, growth, heaven
If I’m being Me-Centered
I am thinking of me, [...]

How Journaling Keeps You Healthy

Studies show writing about traumatic events helps you recover and move on. Here’s how.
When James W. Pennebaker, M.D., faced a stressful time in his marriage, he began journaling. “There are dozens of features to a relationship,” he says. “Journaling helps to slow things down and put them in perspective.”
Journaling helped [...]

Controlling Life Isn’t the Answer, It’s the Problem!

Here’s a cool concept: Self-Coaching.
Dr. Luciani writes some powerful articles, such as:
- Are You a Prisoner of Control?
- Controlling Life Isn’t the Answer, It’s the Problem!
- How to Stop Anxiety and Depression
- Choosing the Life You Want
… and more.
Read on…

Our basic right to be a happy person

“It is our basic right to be a happy person, happy family, and eventually a happy world. That should be our goal.”
– Dalai Lama

Being “Grown Up”

I just realized that there are different KINDS of Responsible, Mature, “Grown-up” Adults…
One kind is a worried, controlling, non-trusting, shut-down, non-feeling, yucky kind of adult.
Another is an aware, compassionate, understanding, grounded, happy, life-enhancing, hopeful, joyous kind of adult.
Both can be Responsible.
Both can be [...]

“Constructively deal with my life issues”

“Since taking the workshop I have been able to really take a look at myself and understand how certain events that happened to me in my childhood. adolescent and adulthood years thwarted my growth as a mother, wife, and friend. Now I have learned and am still learning how to constructively deal with my [...]

“What makes them tick”

“It’s the best seminar of its type that I’ve ever taken in 40 years of working on myself. I highly recommend this introspective course to anyone who really wants to understand what makes them tick.”
– Rev. Don D.

“After I got angry I felt better.”

Hi Matt,
I’m doing great, actually.
The first few days after the program I was a little shaky. I was sad because the safety and security of the workshop was over. But within a few days I began reading Doc’s book and reinforcing the new skills I have learned. I’m working on my anger [...]

Guilt is Optional!

There’s one wonderful feature to Guilt…
It’s 100% OPTIONAL.
You choose to feel bad about something or NOT.
Once you get started, it’s sometimes hard to stop.
But the reality is, that GUILT IS OPTIONAL! (you can take it or leave it)

Reconnecting to the Precious

““What is the quest you are on? How are you searching for meaning in your individual existence? Or, to reformulate this down to a more simple expression—What makes you get up in the morning?”
Marc Gafni, Soul Prints: Your Path to Fulfillment
Sometimes, we just need to take time out to re-connect.
While wandering on the [...]

LEARN!

Learn to Love again.
Learn to Laugh again.
Learn to Feel again.
Take Control of your Feelings & Emotions
at the
New Directions Weekend Workshop!
http://www.NewDirectionsWorkshop.com

It’s Easier with a Coach!

You may be able to reach your personal and/or business Goals by yourself.
You may be able to figure it out alone.
But with a Coach, it’s a SLAM DUNK!
You gotta let them (me) push you a bit, if you truly want to get THROUGH your limitations, pitfalls, negative beliefs and weaknesses.
A coach not only helps you [...]

Victims v. Victors

Are you a Victim or a Victor?!?
Victims Blame
—————
Victors Learn
“Ultimately, the victors are the ones who figure out what went wrong and re-arrange their life so that it never happens again.
“You already possess an amazing ability to ‘know’ (read: Feel) which direction to go. You simply need to learn how to interpret your own (quiet) [...]

Add Spice to your Life!

Feelings add SPICE to your Life:
- Color
- Texture
- Depth
- Meaning
- Value
- Friendship
- Love
- Happiness
- Joy
- Compassion
- Understanding
- Awareness
- Wisdom
- More Joy!
- More staying up late.
- More running and skipping.
- More laughter and Lightness!

Best thing in the World

The BEST thing in the world,
Is LOVE.

The WORST thing in the world,
Is WAR.

Are You Mentor Material?

Are You Mentor Material?
- by Patti Sarr, teacher, writer, thinker
Over the years, I have come to realize that having a great mentor can truly have a positive impact on my life—not only as a busy mom and career woman, but as an individual seeking to expand emotionally and spiritually. Personally, many of the most important [...]

Quotes on Forgiveness

“To get to forgiveness, we first have to work through the painful experiences that require it.”
– Christiane Northrup
“We must let ourselves feel all the painful destruction we want to forgive rather than swallow it in denial. If we do not face it, we cannot forgive it.”
– Kenneth McNoll

Remember, Acceptance does not [...]

Self-Processing Steps

Self-Processing Steps
1. Allow the Crying.
2. FEEL what it’s based on.
3. Find the Belief that is Behind the feeling.
4. See if you Agree with it.
5. If so, keep it and just continue crying until done.
6. If it’s not a solid Belief yet, try to Let it go, give it no energy, [...]

Get Started…

Do yourself a favor and at least TRY, no Get Started, to resolve stuff from your past. Take a good, honest, feeling-filled look into your past and see what you find there.

“Be not the slave of your own past –
plunge into the sublime seas,
dive deep and swim far –
so you shall come [...]