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ND in MD?

By MattPerelstein on January 2, 2010

Q:  Matt and Paula, Wow, this sounds like a great weekend! What would it take, in terms of students and space to have you give a weekend workshop in Maryland? Blessings, Alison A:  Not that much, really, Alison. Not that much, at all… We were just discussing this the other day… how LITTLE we need [...]

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Happiness Quotes

By MattPerelstein on August 24, 2009

"Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket, keep it in your own."   — "Happiness isn't about waiting for the storm to pass…   It's about learning how to dance in the rain" 

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Twitters Away!

By MattPerelstein on June 4, 2009

Ok, sorry, I haven't been posting because I've been Twitterin' and Tweetin'.  It's fun. follow me.  #MattPerelstein (wow, that's a cool statement, "follow me", for that means I have somewhere to take you…  And that I do… follow me… into the depths inside us.  our feelings, our heart, our passions and our soul.)

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Be Honest With Yourself!

By MattPerelstein on November 23, 2008

"No man, for any considerable period, can wear one face to himself, and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which may be true."  - Nathaniel Hawthorne "You cannot fake a relationship and feel right with yourself or anyone else. Changing yourself to fit what you think other people want doesn’t work. [...]

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Inspired Living

By MattPerelstein on November 1, 2008

Together, as Americans, let's create the emotional support network to teach the world that EQ > IQ. Will you help? When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds; your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful [...]

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EQ > IQ !!

By MattPerelstein on November 1, 2008

that's it!that's what I want to say to the world… EQ > IQ !! High IQ is cool.High EQ is better. Feelings are more important than thoughts.Feelings are us.Feelings can and will have more effect on our life.We are our Feelings. And we can actually Make ourselves Smarter about our feelings…… that will effect us [...]

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Propaganda

By MattPerelstein on November 1, 2008

T-shirts for us, not them. I'd like to make "stuff" – T-shirts, cups, pens, etc – with some cool sayings we have. EQ > IQ Feelings are Good! Guilt is Optional. Anger is second. What do you really feel? Don't Eat That, find something better. It's OK to have Boundaries. I am not a Control Freak. [...]

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The terrorists are winning…

By MattPerelstein on October 18, 2008

Our country is a mess. People feel alone. People feel afraid. People feel powerless. Suicide rates are up. The economy is bad, and getting worse. People are really hurting. But, I believe we can do something about it. In general, we Americans are fairly clueless about how to handle, and manage, our Feelings & Emotions, [...]

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Let’s build the safest, most effective Emotional Support Network ever created!

By MattPerelstein on October 14, 2008

10 Premises to Changing the World 1. Emotional Intelligence is the key to happiness, sanity and success in life. (EQ > IQ) 2. We all have 100% control over our choices in what we feel, and how we view the world. 3. It’s more fun if we do this life thing Together. 4. True emotional [...]

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Feelings are a Good Thing!

By MattPerelstein on October 8, 2008

“Character isn’t inherited. One builds it daily by the way one thinks and acts, thought by thought, action by action. If one lets fear or hate or anger take possession of the mind, they become self-forged chains.” – Helen Douglas “Too often we underestimate how quickly our feelings are going to change because we underestimate [...]

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Giving is the key!

By MattPerelstein on October 7, 2008

Aspire to inspire before you expire.

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Believe in Yourself

By MattPerelstein on September 30, 2008

“We cannot rise higher than our thought of ourselves.” – Orison Swett Marden “We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us something is valuable, worth listening to, worthy of our trust, sacred to our touch. Once we believe in ourselves we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience [...]

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Feelings are the Key!

By MattPerelstein on September 26, 2008

Helping you understand how emotions have a direct and profound effect on how well you perform on the job and in life, this book presents great techniques to advance emotional self-awareness and tips on building self-esteem and confidence. – By Jeff Feldman and Karl Mulle (Books24x7) Put Emotional Intelligence to Work: Equip Yourself for Success

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Waving Wednesday

By MattPerelstein on September 24, 2008

The #1 easiest way to bring a smile to someone’s face, with the least effort from you, is to WAVE to them. Yes, just smile a bit and move your hand back and forth, and PRESTO! you could make someone’s day. So, it’s Waving Wednesday. Wave to someone you don’t know. Everyone wins.

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Caring for Ourselves, first

By MattPerelstein on September 22, 2008

When we truly care for ourselves, it becomes possible to care far more profoundly about other people. The more alert and sensitive we are to our own needs, the more loving and generous we can be towards others. – Eda LeShan Anything good for you brings out the best in you and does not force [...]

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Anger Management Skills That Work

By MattPerelstein on September 17, 2008

Anger issues affect individuals from childhood to adulthood, and it is necessary to teach anger management skills that work for every age group. One skill that tends to help people deal with negative emotions is acupressure…. Adopting positive anger management skills might involve keeping a journal…. Removing yourself from a threatening situation might eliminate the [...]

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Get High on Happiness

By MattPerelstein on September 17, 2008

‘Knowing Thyself’ Can Lead to Happiness Powerful tools to a joyous life are being in touch with your inner self, God, and spirituality. Imagine you bought a new car and after six months it starts to get very sluggish. You take it to the mechanic and he recommends a good wash and wax. “What? Are [...]

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Understanding Emotions Improves Our Food Choices

By MattPerelstein on September 16, 2008

Pictures Of Hot Fudge Sundaes Arouse Emotions! Authors Blair Kidwell, David M. Hardesty, and Terry L. Childers (all University of Kentucky) examined the “emotional intelligence” of consumers, including obese people. They found that people who made the healthiest choices had high correlations between their emotional intelligence and confidence in their emotional intelligence—what the authors call [...]

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Who uses Emotional Intelligence in Business?

By MattPerelstein on September 15, 2008

The answer … we all do! Our emotions help us to adapt and make sense of situations. The evidence that an individual’s feelings affects others and that these feelings in turn affect performance highlights the importance of being aware of and managing our emotions. Leaders, salespeople, parents – anyone concerned with their influence on others. [...]

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CEOs Value EQ over IQ

By MattPerelstein on September 15, 2008

“How bosses train to be the best” Generally, CEOs assume there is a certain base level of IQ among all corporate leaders. Most therefore value emotional intelligence (EQ) over IQ as a way of discriminating between great leaders. However, with a few notable exceptions, CEOs do not have a deep understanding of emotional intelligence and [...]

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To love and Be loved

By MattPerelstein on September 12, 2008

There is only one happiness in life: to love and be loved. – George Sand

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Emotions

By MattPerelstein on September 11, 2008

“No other personal characteristic of the Self has such a clear line of connection to the Soul than emotions.” “Anger is a legitimate feeling and emotional expression. We can use anger to help and heal or we can use anger to manipulate and destroy. Anger can distance us from others. Anger can connect us to [...]

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Choices

By MattPerelstein on September 9, 2008

Our lives are a sum total of the choices we have made. – Wayne Dyer This may be new information for some folks! But it’s true that we are where we are, and who we are, due to the choices we have made in the past. We may be pleased with some of them, and [...]

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Learn to be Aware

By MattPerelstein on September 3, 2008

“You can live a lifetime and, at the end of it, know more about other people than you know about yourself.” – Beryl Markham Who am I? What’s important to me? What do I feel strongest about? To answer this, we must first learn to become more aware of ourselves and our feelings. To be [...]

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Spam Posts

By MattPerelstein on September 1, 2008

I’m sorry, but my account it getting spammed, daily. I’m in contact with TypePad tech support, and we’re taking every step to try to stop it, but have been unsuccessful so far. If you’re a Feedblitz subscriber who gets an email of each past, please bear with us as we get this security breach plugged [...]

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Be Kind to Yourself

By MattPerelstein on August 29, 2008

Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order. Ann Wilson Schaef

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2Get, Give!

By MattPerelstein on August 26, 2008

2GiveHelp.com (proposed) 2Give, without Sacrifice 2Give, without Guilt 2Give, without Burden you wanna REALLY enjoy your life… Give. you wanna feel REALLY loved, and appreciated… Give. you want to have TONS of friends, and people who know you and Like you… Give. We can show you how…

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Feelings are the Bomb!

By MattPerelstein on August 13, 2008

I’m gonna make a Bold statement here… are you ready… Our Feelings & Emotions are THE most important thing in our Entire Lives! “Feelings provide us with vital and potentially profitable information every minute of the day. This feedback from the heart, and not the head, is what ignites creative genius, keeps you honest with [...]

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The 7 Steps to Healing our Feelings

By MattPerelstein on July 30, 2008

How to Take Control of your Feelings and Emotions, One Step at a time. By Matt Perelstein July, 2008 Follow these 7 Simple (tho’ not Easy) steps to learn to “Deal with” your feelings & emotions, completely, effectively, and beautifully – 1 Awareness that we do Feel, a Lot: Get a Clue about the importance/depth [...]

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Do yourself a Favor!

By MattPerelstein on July 16, 2008

“You cannot create experience. You must undergo it. “ – Albert Camus, 1913-1960, French Author and Philosopher Wanna do yourself the biggest favor? Want to give yourself the very best possible gift you can? Get yourself to the New Directions workshop this weekend in Fresno, CA. “Ordinarily, everything we do is in our self-interest. Everything.” [...]

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Emotional Intelligence is the key!

By MattPerelstein on July 8, 2008

Less Crazy, More Sane. Less Different, More Same. More Power. Less Blame. More Joy, Less Pain. – mcp

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Emotional Intelligence can Help!

By MattPerelstein on July 7, 2008

“We’re learning that emotional intelligence is an important ingredient in helping professional athletes live healthy and successful lives.” “There is a massive correlation between high EQ skills and life success.” – Gene Upshaw, Executive Director, National Football League NFL Players Association, Emotional Intelligence Helps NFL Players “Win at Life” Improved EQ can help in sports, [...]

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Know Thyself

By MattPerelstein on July 2, 2008

The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change. – Carl Rogers The greatest happiness is to know the source of our unhappiness. – Dostoyevsky

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You can heal your life

By MattPerelstein on June 20, 2008

Awareness is the first step in healing or change. – Louise Hay What we think, and what we believe, is what will come true for us. Our thoughts create our lives. It’s that simple. And when we get that, we can make enormous changes. – Louise Hay “You can heal your life” DVD

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Life Rules

By MattPerelstein on June 18, 2008

Life only has 3 rules Paradox Life is a mystery, don’t waste time trying to figure it out Humor It is a strength beyond all measure. Change Know that nothing stays the same. – Dan Millman, “Way of the Peaceful Warrior”

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Extreme Emotional Makeover – Summer Intensive

By MattPerelstein on June 11, 2008

Announcement: We are sponsoring a powerful program this summer, to show the world how much learning and growth can happen in very short period of time! If you are chosen, you will be given intensive therapy, life coaching, reading materials, 2 weekend workshops, emotional support, and more, to help you BLAST thru your emotional issues [...]

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Happiness — it’s up to you!

By MattPerelstein on June 10, 2008

“If you expect the best, you will be the best. Learn to use one of the most powerful laws in this world; change your mental habits to belief instead of disbelief. Learn to expect, not to doubt. In so doing, you bring everything into the realm of possibility.” – Dr. Norman Vincent Peale “No pessimist [...]

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Emotional Choices

By MattPerelstein on June 9, 2008

Most of us have more choices, emotionally, than we ever thought possible! “When we know that the cause of something is in ourselves, and that we (ourselves) are one of the few things in the universe that we have the right and ability to change, we begin to get a sense of the choices we [...]

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Confrontation: Everyone Hates it!

By MattPerelstein on June 5, 2008

Want to get over your fear of confrontation? Learn how at Emotional Intelligence – Confronting What’s True See also the Blog link on EQ At Work for lots of cool tools and articles re: EQ. … and remember, and Dr. Phil says, “Attitude is Everything!”: Victor Frankel, who faced death daily in a Nazi concentration [...]

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Laughter is good for your body!

By MattPerelstein on June 2, 2008

No Joke: This Is Exercise Laugh away ticker trouble. from here. University of Maryland Medical Center researchers showed 20 healthy adults two movie scenes–one from the comedy Kingpin, the other a battle scene from Saving Private Ryan–while monitoring artery function. After viewing the funny clip, the volunteers’ blood vessels dilated by 22%; they constricted by [...]

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PTSD: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

By MattPerelstein on June 2, 2008

extremely common in soldiers returning from war… from http://www.thesoldiersproject.org Signs of possible trouble (Service Member) Irritability, jumpiness Anger easily and “blow up” at loved ones or friends Feeling hyper-alert, needing to be careful, on the watch for danger Feeling emotionally flat, uninvolved with people, distant Feeling you can’t relate to life around you or to [...]

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Laughter Heals!

By MattPerelstein on June 2, 2008

Your Brain on Laughter How clowning around improves memory, mood, and motivation By Thomas Crook, PhD, Prevention “A good knee-slapper produces a chemical reaction that instantly elevates your mood, reduces pain and stress, and boosts immunity (suppressed by both stress and pain). A recent fMRI study by Allan L. Reiss, MD, and colleagues at Stanford [...]

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Change Your Belief System

By MattPerelstein on May 14, 2008

"All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs. So how do we change? The most effective way is to get your brain to associate massive pain to the old belief. You must feel deep in your gut that not only has this belief cost you pain in the past, but it’s costing you in [...]

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Love is the Answer

By MattPerelstein on May 13, 2008

“Remember, in our innermost being, we are all completely lovable because spirit is love. Beyond what anyone can make you think or feel about yourself, your unconditioned spirit stands, shining with a love nothing can tarnish.” – Deepak Chopra ————————————————————- “When mystics use the word love, they use it very carefully — in the deeply [...]

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Attraction

By MattPerelstein on May 8, 2008

“The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action. They know that love is not a mere sentiment, but the ultimate truth at the heart of the universe.” – Deepak Chopra

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Fear: How to Manage it!

By MattPerelstein on May 8, 2008

When fears arise, use this quick acceptance process: 1. Acknowledge and really feel your fear without judging and criticizing yourself. 2. Ask what it’s there to tell you. Be alert for inner messages that will bring you greater understanding of the situation. 3. Be fully present. Are you okay in this moment? Relax into your [...]

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Find Something Positive!

By MattPerelstein on May 1, 2008

“Make a game of finding something positive in every situation. Ninety-five percent of your emotions are determined by how you interpret events to yourself.” – Brian Tracy

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We’re doing it!

By MattPerelstein on April 27, 2008

New office opens Thursday, May 1, as the 2GetHelp Wellness Center — Yeehaa! MEW Foundation, Inc’s was officially declared as a Corporation by the state of California Secretary of State, and we have a federal tax ID number. Doc Downing, PhD, LMFT, will be our first (and grandest) therapist! We’re officially advertising for additional therapist(s) [...]

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Emotional Specialties

By MattPerelstein on April 18, 2008

2GetHelp Wellness Center Our new center will hereby specialize in the following: – Depression: We have helped so many understand, fight, and win, against their depression, – going from hospital to happy – in only a year or two. This is for the girls, wives and moms of the world. – Anger: Anger has a [...]

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OMG!

By MattPerelstein on April 18, 2008

Nearly 1 in 5 troops has mental problems after war service – Yahoo! News http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20080418/ap_on_go_ca_st_pe/troops_mental_health WASHINGTON – Roughly one in every five U.S. troops who have survived the bombs and other dangers of Iraq and Afghanistan now suffers from major depression or post-traumatic stress, an independent study said Thursday. It estimated the toll at 300,000 [...]

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A new Company is Born!

By MattPerelstein on April 17, 2008

As of yesterday, our new company is here to help show and tell the world about the wonders and joys of Emotional Intelligence!! MEW Foundation, Inc.’s 2GetHelp Wellness Center 2560 West Shaw Lane, Suite 105 Fresno, CA 93711-2777 (559) 431-9995 / (559) 431-9996 (fax) We already have a therapist on staff in the office and [...]

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You Gotta Feel It, to Heal It(2)!

By MattPerelstein on April 10, 2008

“Few are those who see with their own eyes and feel with their own hearts.” – Albert Einstein

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The Meaning of Life

By MattPerelstein on April 3, 2008

Wanna find the Meaning to life? Wanna know the Reason we are here? Wanna find the Answers to life’s great questions? Look inside your heart! When we are totally in-touch with our inner-most feelings, when we truly get to Know ourselves to the deepest depths of our soul, when we find the still and the [...]

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Emotional Awareness

By MattPerelstein on April 2, 2008

“Mindfulness means moment-to-moment, non-judgmental awareness. It is cultivated by refining our capacity to pay attention, intentionally, in the present moment, and then sustaining that attention over time as best we can. In the process, we become more in touch with our life as it is unfolding.” – Myla & Jon Kabat-Zinn a.k.a. Emotional Awareness

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Self-Processing

By MattPerelstein on March 31, 2008

I’m coining a new term, “Self-Processing: The art and skill of Processing yourself and “resolving” your negative feelings. Feeling Resolution is a process. a known, understood, step-by-step process that can be replicated, and measured (well, kinda). Issues = Unresolved feelings and emotions. – Resolving your own personal “life issues”, – Cleaning out your emotional “system” [...]

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I don’t sing because I’m happy; I’M HAPPY because I sing.

By MattPerelstein on March 31, 2008

“I don’t sing because I’m happy; I’m happy because I sing.” – William James, 1842-1910, American Philosopher and Psychologist — “Forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair.” – Kahlil Gibran, 1883-1931, Lebanese Poet and Novelist

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Feeling-based Medications

By MattPerelstein on March 28, 2008

Top 20 Psychiatric Prescriptions for 2005 These are the top 20 psychiatric medications by number of U.S. prescriptions dispensed in 2005. Medication Used for… U.S. Prescriptions 1. Xanax Anxiety 34,230,000 2. Zoloft Depression, anxiety 26,976,000 3. Lexapro Depression, anxiety 24,788,000 4. Prozac Depression, anxiety 21,403,000 5. Ativan Anxiety, panic disorder 19,002,000 6. Effexor XR Depression, [...]

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Let go of past pains!

By MattPerelstein on March 27, 2008

“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you [...]

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Emotional Growth

By MattPerelstein on March 12, 2008

instead of Personal Growth, what if we call it Emotional Growth? it’s more descriptive and ties back in to our area of focus. We’re all about Feelings and Emotions. If you don’t like yours, if you think that Feelings are a bad thing… if you’re in denial about what’s happening inside you… you may want [...]

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About Emotional Intelligence

By MattPerelstein on March 10, 2008

Various definitions: “Emotional intelligence is the ability: to perceive emotions; to access and generate emotions so as to assist thought; to understand emotions and emotional knowledge; and to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth.” Another says there are four parts: 1. Perceive or sense emotions, 2. Use emotions to assist [...]

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Have a Child’s heart, and an Adult’s mind

By MattPerelstein on March 8, 2008

“What a distressing contrast there is between the radiant intelligence of the child and the feeble mentality of the average adult.” – Sigmund Freud ouch… and oh sooo true! that’s why I like to hang around kids better!

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I have a gripe… about Happiness.

By MattPerelstein on March 7, 2008

I read a quote this morning… “Happiness comes only when we push our brains and hearts to the farthest reaches of which we are capable.” – Leo C. Rosten sounds good, right? well, I say, “BULL“. I don’t buy that. I can choose to do nothing whatsoever, and still be totally Happy and at peace. [...]

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It’s up to us, baby!

By MattPerelstein on March 5, 2008

As your eyes open, you’ll see that your state of health, happiness, and every circumstance of your life has been, in large part, arranged by you — consciously or unconsciously.” – Dan Millman — “To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation [...]

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The Ultimate Freedom!

By MattPerelstein on March 2, 2008

“Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us.” – Stephen Covey ————————————————————- “Freedom is what you do with what’s been done to you.” – Jean-Paul Sartre ————————————————————- “One cannot make a slave of a free person, for a free person is free even in [...]

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Attitude is Everything!

By MattPerelstein on February 27, 2008

“Happiness is an attitude of mind, born of the simple determination to be happy under all outward circumstances.” – J. Donald Walters — The last of the human freedoms is to choose one’s attitudes. – Victor Frankl — Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character. – Albert Einstein — “If a person gets his attitude [...]

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Love is about being open!

By MattPerelstein on February 20, 2008

Love is about open arms. If you close your arms about love, you will find that you are left holding only yourself. – Leo Buscaglia Being wide open, at all times, ain’t easy, and frankly it ain’t all that smart, either. Learn how to be open, when the time is right, or even by default, [...]

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I am happy.

By MattPerelstein on February 19, 2008

I have a life. I make a life. every day. I have a great job, the best I’ve ever had. I work part-time, telecommuting from home, it pays well, is challenging, important and resume-enhancing. I run 4 businesses: EucProducts ND – my fave! Computer Consulting building 2GH I have a 700+ post blog, and building [...]

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What is Happiness?

By MattPerelstein on February 12, 2008

Happiness is an Attitude Happiness is a Lifestyle Choice. Happiness is a Way of Being. Happiness is a Skill. Happiness is an Art. Happiness is Classy. Happiness has Style, and Grace, and Beauty. Happiness is Fun, and Silly, and Skippy, and having a Blast, pretty often. Happiness is about Allowing and Releasing Negative Feelings, to [...]

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We Must Teach People How to Be with Us

By MattPerelstein on February 11, 2008

Maxim for life: You get treated in life the way you teach people to treat you. – Wayne Dyer, American Psychotherapist/Author/Lecturer If you think badly of yourself, others will instinctively treat you badly, too. But, if you value yourself, your opinions, your heart and your mind, others will USUALLY treat you the same way.

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Emotions are the next frontier!

By MattPerelstein on February 9, 2008

“By starving emotions we become humorless, rigid and stereotyped; by repressing them we become literal, reformatory and holier-than-thou; encouraged, they perfume life; discouraged, they poison it.” – Joseph Collins ————————————————————- “Emotions are the next frontier to be understood and conquered. To manage our emotions is not to drug them or suppress them, but to understand [...]

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Emotional Intelligence = Taking Control of your Life!

By MattPerelstein on January 30, 2008

The difference between great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively waiting to see where life takes them next. The difference between the two is the difference between living fully and just existing. – Michael E. Gerber The key is a [...]

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Get out of your own muck and help someone else!

By MattPerelstein on January 24, 2008

“An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.” – Martin Luther King, Jr. Tired of your own pain and issues? Try reaching out to help someone else! No matter how bad it is for you, there are always [...]

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Create Your World

By MattPerelstein on January 23, 2008

True brilliance, Matt, is not a function of understanding one’s view of the world and finding order, logic, and spirituality in it. True brilliance is understanding that your view of order, logic, and spirituality is what created your world. And therefore you are forever capable of changing everything. The Universe

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The Bucket List

By MattPerelstein on January 21, 2008

The Bucket List, starring Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman. It is bittersweet because these guys are dying of cancer, but it is also comical as they go about fulfilling the items on their list of what they want to accomplish before they “kick the bucket.” The biggest takeaway: Don’t wait, or waste, another minute! Make [...]

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Love is a friendship caught on fire

By MattPerelstein on January 18, 2008

“Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.” – Bruce Lee ! Love really is the answer. Whatever the question, Love should [...]

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DECIDE to be Happy!

By MattPerelstein on January 17, 2008

“Most people are about as happy as they make up their mind to be.” – Abraham Lincoln Decide, now, that you will do whatever it takes, change whatever you need to, face whatever you need to, to be Happy, finally, in this lifetime. Emotional Intelligence is the key to happiness.

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You Gotta Feel It, to Heal It!

By MattPerelstein on January 15, 2008

“The key is to not resist or rebel against emotions or to try to get around them by devising all sorts of tricks; but to accept them directly, as they are.” – Takahisa Kora “Instead of resisting any emotion, the best way to dispel it is to enter it fully, embrace it and see through [...]

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People are our Mirror

By MattPerelstein on January 13, 2008

“The people we are in relationship with are always a mirror, reflecting our own beliefs, and simultaneously we are mirrors reflecting their beliefs. So relationship is one of the most powerful tools for growth… if we look honestly at our relationships we can see so much about how we have created them.” – Shakti Gawain

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2008 Priorities

By MattPerelstein on January 7, 2008

“Getting in touch with our true selves must be our first priority!” – Tom Hopkins — We know nothing until we know all the ways that we’re not who we should be. Only then do we have a chance at becoming the people we’ve wanted to be, and God intended us to be, from the [...]

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Emotional Criticism

By MattPerelstein on January 2, 2008

“Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business.” – Norman Vincent Peale

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Wanna be Heard?

By MattPerelstein on December 24, 2007

Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care. – Theodore Roosevelt, 1858-1919, 26th President of the United States

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It’s not the Content, it’s the Delivery!

By MattPerelstein on December 20, 2007

My wife and I have an ongoing struggle about this… You see, I get my feelings hurt, pretty easily. Because I “hear” the different inflexions in voice, energy and body language, because I believe I the “see” the rest of what is being said, I often get my feelings hurt, or get angry, at her [...]

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Quotes from Famous People

By MattPerelstein on December 17, 2007

“Truth is like the sun. You can shut it out for a time, but it ain’t goin’ away.” – Elvis Presley “I do not seek. I find.” – Pablo Picasso Wisdom is the supreme part of happiness. – Sophocles “The man who has no imagination has no wings.” – Muhammad Ali

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The ABC’s of Healthy Attitudes

By MattPerelstein on December 14, 2007

void negative sources, people, places, things and habits. Believe in yourself. Consider things from every angle. Don’t give up and don’t give in. Enjoy life to the fullest! Family and friends are hidden treasures; enjoy their company. Give more than you are expected to. Hang on to your dreams. Ignore those who try to discourage [...]

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Ten Ways To Do What You Love

By MattPerelstein on December 14, 2007

1. Do what you love. 2. Provide a service to others who do what you love. 3. Teach others to do what you love. 4. Write about what you love. 5. Speak about what you love. 6. Create a product related to what you love. 7. Sell or broker what you love. 8. Promote what [...]

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Give yourself a Break!

By MattPerelstein on December 14, 2007

“We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that [...]

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I Like My Job

By MattPerelstein on December 11, 2007

George Carlin sayz, “My job is to think up goofy shit, come back here, and report it to you!” I say, “My job is feel emotional shit, and come back here, and report it to you!”

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Awareness is the First Key to Change

By MattPerelstein on December 11, 2007

“Insight occurs when, and to the degree that, one knows oneself.” – Andrew Schneider ————————————————————- “We are not what we know. We are what we are willing to learn.” – Council on Ideas ————————————————————- “The ultimate value of life depends upon awareness and the power of contemplation rather than upon mere survival.” – Aristotle

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Failure to Launch

By MattPerelstein on December 10, 2007

Failure = inability to manage and control your own self, your own body, your own feelings Failure = losing the battle with your inner demons Failure = letting your fears and your stress take over your life and beat you down Failure = allowing the unresolved feelings from your past to ruin your present, and [...]

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How Judging Yourself and Others Can Ruin Your Live

By MattPerelstein on December 5, 2007

How Judging Yourself and Others Can Ruin Your Live By Bernadine Glori Celis I made a big revelation this week. I became aware of how much my judgments were affecting the way I felt about others and myself. I have been in counseling and support groups for many years of my life. I am now [...]

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Turn Barriers Into Bridges

By MattPerelstein on December 5, 2007

Only the person who never gives up in life, who persists with his wish to find and fulfill the promise of himself, makes this truly self-liberating discovery: those places that he once mistook as being impassible barriers to his happiness become as bridges to the same, but only if he learns to welcome them as [...]

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Know Yourself!

By MattPerelstein on December 2, 2007

“Knowing others is wisdom; knowing the self is enlightenment.” – Tao Te Ching “What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself” – Abraham H. Maslow

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Know God

By MattPerelstein on November 29, 2007

The idea of God is different in every person. The joy of my recovery was to find God within me. – Angela L. Wozniak Tho’ we don’t preach, or even teach, about God much, getting closer to yourself – finding your inner peace and removing your blocks to intimacy – allows you to Experience your [...]

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Inspire Me

By MattPerelstein on November 24, 2007

“I learned… that inspiration does not come like a bolt, nor is it kinetic, energetic, striving, but it comes to us slowly and quietly and all the time, though we must regularly and every day give it a little chance to start flowing, prime it with a little solitude and idleness.” – Brenda Ueland Not [...]

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The Season

By MattPerelstein on November 21, 2007

“The truth is that for all the stress surrounding this season, it’s kind of exhilarating when you finally do find just the right present for someone we love, or our home-cooked meal gets oohs and aahs at the table, or we walk through our family’s front door as a grown-up who actually knows our own [...]

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In Control

By MattPerelstein on November 20, 2007

“The most self-destructive thought that any person can have is thinking that he or she is not in total control of his or her life. – Roger Dawson No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to [...]

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Thanks!

By MattPerelstein on November 19, 2007

“What if you gave someone a gift, and they neglected to thank you for it–would you be likely to give them another? Life is the same way. In order to attract more of the blessings that life has to offer, you must truly appreciate what you already have.” – Ralph Marston Give thanks for all [...]

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Should I, or Should I not?

By MattPerelstein on November 18, 2007

“Most people are so busy knocking themselves out trying to do everything they think they should do, they never get around to do what they want to do.” – Kathleen Winsor Bad Shoulds = those that stick in our heads, usually in someone else’s voice but that we don’t want to do… or don’t even [...]

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You Are All You Need to Be!

By MattPerelstein on November 13, 2007

“Everything you need you already have. You are complete right now, you are a whole, total person, not an apprentice person on the way to someplace else.” – Wayne Dyer “Who you really are is enough.” – Oriah Mountain Dreamer “Wherever you are is always the right place. There is never a need to fix [...]

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Leo Buscaglia, A Tribute

By MattPerelstein on November 7, 2007

Only when we give joyfully, without hesitation or thought of gain, can we truly know what love means. – Leo Buscaglia, 1924-1998, American Author and Expert on Love and Human Relationships This is a loving tribute to one of the greatest teachers of LOVE and living Life to the fullest. A Cheerleader for Life! Leo [...]

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EI101.com

By MattPerelstein on November 6, 2007

Just so you’ll know (and it’s easier to refer your friends, hint, hint): We’re now EI101.com This site can now be reached using the address http://www.EI101.com. My intention is to write an emotional intelligence training course called EI101… and follow it with EI102, EI201, EI301 & EI401… all of which I recently registered. stay tuned! [...]

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Are you Teachable?

By MattPerelstein on November 4, 2007

“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.” – Alvin Toffler Part of Emotional Intelligence is about learning about our past, how and what we learned from our parents and our childhood, and how all that still effects us today, [...]

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Emotional Intelligence and the 3 Little Pigs

By MattPerelstein on October 30, 2007

Here’s an interesting article about how Emotional Intelligence, and the study of engineering, can be likened to the story of the 3 little pigs. Very well done… read on. http://www.e-ii.org/3b.asp – Matt

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Change Myself

By MattPerelstein on October 30, 2007

We are absolutely powerless to change others, but we are absolutely powerful to change ourselves. – Doc Downing

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Full Range of Emotions

By MattPerelstein on October 30, 2007

“When you are able to contain both your light and dark together, that is a very enlightening state. It means that you no longer have to choose one experience over another. You do not have to choose love OR hate, blame OR forgiveness, sadness OR joy, anger OR openheartedness. You are no longer polarized; no [...]

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Beyond Beliefs

By MattPerelstein on October 27, 2007

Are you ready to shift some of your core beliefs about who you are and how you fit into the world? Emotional Intelligence is the answer.

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Little You vs. Big You

By MattPerelstein on October 26, 2007

What would the child you once were think of the person you are today? Would your inner child like your outer adult? list your answer in a comment, below.

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Emotional Intelligence can Hurt!

By MattPerelstein on October 24, 2007

Self-knowledge and self-improvement are very difficult for most people. It usually needs great courage and long struggle. – Dr. Abraham Maslow It’s true. Emotional growth can be damned uncomfortable! By definition, trying something new and pushing yourself to new heights is gonna be awkward, uneasy, even painful and unpleasant at times. Get used to it. [...]

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Be Honest with Yourself

By MattPerelstein on October 17, 2007

Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship we need to maintain. The quality of that relationship will determine the quality of all our other relationships. When we can tell ourselves how we feel, and accept our own feelings, we can be real with others. When we can accept what we want and need, [...]

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Don’t Give Up!

By MattPerelstein on October 17, 2007

Often the difference between a successful person and a failure is not one has better abilities or ideas, but the courage that one has to bet on one’s ideas, to take a calculated risk – and to act. – Andre Malraux I know quite certainly that I myself have no special talent; curiosity, obsession & [...]

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Big People

By MattPerelstein on October 17, 2007

“Really big people are, above everything else, courteous, considerate and generous – not just to some people in some circumstances – but to everyone all the time.” – Thomas J. Watson, Sr. Why? Because it FEELS GOOD to be courteous, considerate and generous! Try it. It’s fun!

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What Are Feelings For?

By MattPerelstein on October 11, 2007

What is the purpose of our Feelings & Emotions? (leave your answer in a comment below)

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All Feelings are Good!

By MattPerelstein on October 7, 2007

“What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance, is understanding fear; that means, watch it, learn about it, come directly into contact with it. We are to learn about fear, not how to escape from it.” – Jiddu Krishnamurti “All feelings are good!” – Cal Banyan

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Emotional Choices

By MattPerelstein on October 7, 2007

“Freedom of choice is more to be treasured than any possession earth can give.” – David O. McKay Right on, David! and Emotional Intelligence gives you MORE CHOICES on how you react and how you behave and how you SUCCEED! “What man wants is simply independent choice, whatever that may cost and wherever it may [...]

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Emotional Awareness

By MattPerelstein on September 30, 2007

Awareness is the first key to all change! “Relative to the level of awareness that is possible for us, our ordinary state of consciousness is as far from a direct experience of reality as sleep is from waking consciousness.” – Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson “The thought ‘I exist’ is not the same thing [...]

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What is Happiness?

By MattPerelstein on September 22, 2007

I liked this article and thought it was a very good way of explaining what Happiness is… “I have found that happiness is not something we look for and not something that is “out there” or out of our reach. Rather, it is about being present with what IS. It is about being grateful for [...]

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Emotional Safety

By MattPerelstein on September 16, 2007

Creating Emotional Safety within an aware, loving group of people is one of the most amazing feelings one can possibly experience, and one of the very BEST ways to heal, quickly and effectively! “A group of humans becomes healing and converting only after its members have learned to stop trying to heal and convert. Community [...]

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10 Steps to Unlocking “The Secret”

By MattPerelstein on September 15, 2007

Here are some steps to take to get more Abundance into your life: 1. Clear Your Mind 2. Decide What You Want 3. Ask For It 4. Visualize Having It 5. Express and Feel Gratitude 6. Let Go of Control 7. Stay Positive 8. Be Patient 9. Invite It In 10. Share the Wealth by [...]

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Translating

By MattPerelstein on September 11, 2007

I’ve found that the Language of Emotional Intelligence is different than regular English, spoken on the streets and in our homes and workplaces. People say things like: “I feel…” “I believe…” “How am I not being clear?” “I hear you.” “I’m listening.” “How can I be clearer so you’ll understand better?” and the language of [...]

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The Other Energy Crises, by Jon Gordon

By MattPerelstein on September 9, 2007

The Other Energy Crises Powerful article on how emotional intelligence (EQ) in the workplace, again, is more important than IQ! “Today’s employees are under-engaged, overtired and overstressed. The fact is that enhanced energy, success and performance cannot be found in a can of Red Bull or a cup of espresso. Instead of being energy drainers, [...]

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Quotes on Love and Safety

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on November 17, 2006

"One word frees us from the weight and pain of life; that word is LOVE." – Sophocles "Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are — chaff and grain together.Certain that a faithful [...]

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Quotes on Love

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on November 7, 2006

"One word frees us from the weight and pain of life; that word is love." –Sophocles "Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are — chaff and grain together — certain that a [...]

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Love, by Leo Buscaglia

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on October 23, 2006

Read the book "Love" by Leo Buscaglia http://www.buscaglia.com/

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Why do we Love?

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on October 23, 2006

Remember the Love.Do you know WHY you love? Why do we love? I ask people that question and they usually come up with a socially-acceptable response like "to help" or "to find a mate" or "to be loved." but I believe we love for 1 main reason: "IT FEELS GOOD!""It’s Fun!" – "It makes me [...]

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All That Really Matters is the Love!

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on October 23, 2006

"Whatever you do today, remember ONE thing.That in the end, all that really matters is the LOVE!Did you seek it? Did you find it?But most importantly – DID YOU GIVE IT?Remember the LOVE!" – Veronica Hay, shared by Larry Clovis on our awesome emotional support site, 2GetHelp. Check other inspiring stories and articles here.

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Loving Fearlessly

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on June 19, 2006

"When we love fearlessly, we can experience our feelings in all their depth and passion without letting them control us. We can recognize that feelings are not facts, they are reactions to the world." – Coach Rhonda Britten, ‘Fearless Loving’http://www.fearlessliving.org/shop_online/merchandise/books/fearless_loving

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Love is…

By Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan on May 24, 2006

Here’s something I wrote yesterday for a dear friend’s wedding that I thought I’d share with you. We can’t go to wedding physically so she asked that I write something for them to read during the ceremony, so we could be there in spirit. Here goes… Love is … Life’s journey brings love into our [...]

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Thanks for the tsunami, God!

By MattPerelstein on January 11, 2005

Do you realize what God just did?  He created a global-sized catastrophe to get our Attention! He saw that us humans STILL haven’t figured out how to get along, so he decided to help.  He created such a huge problem – – more bodies litter the earth today than any other single day in history [...]

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I Love

By MattPerelstein on July 14, 2004

“I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.. “ I contend that we do EVERYTHING out of “selfishness”. Everything. Giving, Loving, Empathizing, the whole works. Why? ’cause it makes US feel good. If we are in touch with our feelings, we can Love [...]

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Controlling your Heart

By MattPerelstein on June 1, 2004

Wouldn’t you love to have control over your Heart? Wouldn’t it be wonderful to Choose who you love, and how much, and when? Wouldn’t it be awesome to be able to Open up when it’s safe and feels good, and to Close up when things aren’t going well? What an amazing skill, to be able [...]

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Being “In Touch”

By MattPerelstein on March 10, 2004

Benefits of being “in touch” with your feelings – know who you are – understand why you do what you do – understand people better – connect with people better – get along better at work – enjoy life more – more in love – more in touch – more power – more joy – [...]

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Nice Thought

By MattPerelstein on February 27, 2004

Here’s a thought that really gets me through my day… every problem I have and every frustration and every toleration and every irritation can be used to help people better understand themselves. If I feel and analyze and diagnose and research, all my issues… test them out in class… then sum them up into lessons [...]

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4 Important Steps to Taking Control

By MattPerelstein on December 13, 2003

4 Important Steps to Taking Control of Your Life… 1. Accept Personal Responsibility Doc says “Everything is our fault, if we’re lucky.” because that means we can change it! If my life, and my feelings, and my reactions are all things within my control, then they are my responsibility. I am in charge of so [...]

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MORE LESSONS TO LEARN, Apparently!

By MattPerelstein on December 3, 2003

MORE LESSONS TO LEARN Apparently we have more lessons to learn… All I can figure is that our lives have been painful and hard so far, and they will continue to be such until we HAVE learned what we are supposed to learn about the stuff we are SUPPOSED TO learn. It’s as simple as [...]

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